For not wanting my kid to wear hijab or get into her dads wife new culture?

[Thecuddlymeoow]

we have a 7 year old daughter.
for me is one thing learning about different religion’s and cultures but not tryna get a step kid into YOUR religion like telling my daughter if she would like to wear a hijab when she’s older, and baby daddy is a whimp and easy controlled by his wife. This may come out as an asshole but i don’t want to grow my kid into something that shes not born from. I respect people who are born from placeses that wear hijabs and have their culture and religions. But our daughter dosn’t belong in this culture shes half norwegian and half south america, im from south america and her dad is norwegian so it make sense that she takes those culture. Sorry for my bad english but i didn’t know i have to deal with a step mom trying to interfere deeper into my daughter life

Of course not, but this whole issue has clearly arisen out of OP's fears/concerns (some would say projections) about what somebody might (in her mind) do purely because she is a Muslim.

It would seem that, as far as OP sees it, if anybody shows the slightest sign of being a Muslim themselves, that's a sure sign that they will seek to force/aggressively proselytise any non-Muslims they possibly can.

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Correct. And the OP's child isn't Muslim.

I clearly wrote that many here are presumptuously claiming her to be but I reserve judgement. You are too dull and tedious for me to wasting time on.

For people thinking im racist, tf im not. I know muslims, malaysia, my kid is also friends with a muslim girl in her class. I respect their beliefs but for me is more the overstepping. I have (said this many times..) no problem ln my child learning about different cultures. Thats jusr nice, but not trying to get her into it as a child. I don’t want my kid to hide herself over men lusting over her in such young age, just because her dad decided to marry a muslim. It should not get between our daughter, i want her to have the freedom to choose herself not someone trying to influence her into something

In that case OP has sole parental custody - meaning she can decide everything.

Unless she signed an agreement giving him joint custody, in which case it is as I outlined above for a previously married couple.

It appears that he has his daughter on a regular schedule, so we should assume that he has joint custody unless @Thecuddlymeoow confirms otherwise.

Op did not express concern about all muslims. She clearly expressed concern about the new stepmum over stepping her boundaries and the specific issue of the hijab which is hugely problematic. Why do you feel the need to embellish this?

Agree. I hope Op reads your helpful post.

I don't believe you actually want to resolve anything - you just want to vent.

Norwegian law is clear. This is a non-issue. Your focus ain't on your daughter.

Does Islam work on a genetic basis too? I was always under the impression that, whilst Jewish is both a religion and a race, Muslim is only a religion.

Moreover, it's also possible to convert to Judaism (the faith), even if you are not genetically of Jewish racial heritage.

Even so, I'm pretty sure that, if OP's DD did decide to become a Muslim when she's an adult - as was briefly hinted at as a free-choice possibility by her SM - nobody would actually be barring her from being so and from identifying as 'a real Muslim'.

I don't think a step parent should push a religion one someone's else's DC. Parents however fair enough, but with both of them together.

And yet she still doesn't seem to have told us how the SM has over-stepped her boundaries, apart from a whole load of panicked projection that many might think sounds very Islamophobic.

I agree. And there's nothing in what OP has written to suggest that the SM has done that.

No. The way I understand it they say "everyone is born a Muslim". So if someone becomes a practicing Muslim later in life it's seen as "reverting". All you need to do to become Muslim is to accept the 5 pillars.

The vast majority of Muslims in The UK who don't wear it you mean?

The girl was not born into a Muslim family. That is clear. The exh new wife is bringing a new concept into the family and trying to influence her step daughter. She has no right to do so.

Yes I’m not sure where the pp is, what she writes is not the case here.

Incorrect. The father of the child has converted to Islam and married a muslim wife. He has the right to do anything he likes with the child when he has his daughter with him - go to an arcade, go karting, go to a mosque - whatever.

The step-mother is a red herring. Wind your neck in.

The family all seem to think she was but I didn't cross question her mother on it.

I don't know the name of the Iman, it was a work colleague, but I saw photos.

Plenty do though. I did. My own daughter didn't because I didn't lay down the law in that way.

We do not know that the father has converted to Islam.

The OP does not know if the father has converted to Islam.

In London I know several Muslim women married to non Muslim men. They fall in love, have liberal, tolerant, open minded views about respecting what others believe / and or navigate family hysterics and go to the registry office.

In my own extended family there is a couple one Hindu, one Muslim - they got married in a registry office. Amidst family hysterics at the time but all friendly now.

People engage with and observe different aspects of religion and culture, and you can't always accurately wok out where religion ends and culture begins.

There are a lot of things the OP doesn't know. But I'm willing to try again to accommodate the unlikely scenario that this man has a practising Muslim wife wearing the hijab but he himself has not converted.

"The father of the child has married a woman. He has the right to do anything he likes with his child when he has his daughter with him - go to an arcade, go karting, go to a mosque - whatever.

The step-mother is a red herring."

Better now?

Yes, I also couldn't help wondering how the thread might have gone if the OP was Muslim and was asking about a Catholic, say, who had told the OP's young child that she can wear a cross and convert from Islam to Catholicism if she wants to when she's older. Whether PP would be nodding along quite so approvingly about the joys of religious choice and converting to another religion.

But she's not wearing it though is she?