To be pissed off?

[Shaniah]

so. My girlfriends had arranged my first night out after pregnancy and BFing on Saturday, DH said he would be home for 7 to take over (he was out having food). It got to midnight and he still wasn’t back so I just sat there crying as I was so looking forward to it. When he got home at night night the girls were asking me to still come out, so I smartened myself up and went. A comment that he made to me was that if I don’t have any expectations I can never be let down? It’s playing on my mind

He’s a twat.

Your dh is a selfish twat.

I would be fucking livid

Horrible man, I’m glad you still went out

Control freak-he did that on purpose-what a wanker.

He's abusing you. Look it up on Relate, Refuge, Women's Aid or even your local council. Read it, understand that it's not you, understand that you deserve better, leave.

I can’t believe he did that to you. What a selfish inconsiderate prick 😱

Wow, what a piece of work.
Good for you for still going out.
Do you actually like/love him?

I wouldn't be crying I'd be absolutely livid . . .

So what counts as ‘expectations’ for him? That he will keep his word? As in your marriage vows? As in being a good dad? As in what exactly? How low is the bar?

He can’t even come home on time to let you have a few hours out of the house. He’s a horrible person isn’t he?

Surely you have expectations of the person you share your life with? I just don’t understand that comment at all and it is really playing on my mind. What he did was cruel and he didn’t even care, he came in and asked me what I was crying for as he is here now.

Why are you with someone so selfish?

I'd be livid if a babysitter did this let alone my husband

He’s a selfish pig. No excuaes.

That is a horrible nasty thing to do and a disgusting way to speak to you. He should be ashamed.

I just can’t understand why he doesn’t think he has done anything wrong and asked me why I was upset. Why doesn’t he know what he did?

His actions were bad enough, but his statement about expectations is sending you a clear message. You have no say or rights, he is in charge.

Why was he even out till 7 on your first night out?! There is absolutely no excuse for coming back so late. But the comment just proves he did it on purpose. He didn't want you to go. He's allowed out. You're not. I hope you stayed out for the night and next day.

Absolute prick!

Bloody idiot, thinks he is clever, no, just a controlling twat playing with your mind. I would be very careful with him. He really is not worth it, you deserve better.
Also if you did the same to him it would be another story. I hate men like him.

He knows exactly what he did OP. His words make that clear.

@Shaniah he does know what ge did - he just doesn’t care. Sorry if that sounds harsh. He has deliberately sabotaged your night out. He wants you barefoot and pregnant and tied to the kitchen sink.

How unfortunate you have a DC with him. I’d consider leaving - this abuse will only get worse 💐

He knows exactly what he's done, he just doesn't care.

I would not have sat there crying for 5 hours, I would have phoned him repeatedly and been really really cross.

He obviously did it on purpose then to stop you going out. He either doesn't want to look after his own kids, or he just wants you to stay home so you dont dare look at anyone else (even if you don't). He's a twat, and a disrespectful, controlling one at that.

I wouldn't cry about it, I would be furious. He's tried to stop you going out and having some fun.

He’s a piece of shit. Utter bellend.