Kindly, Gently...

[MasterBeth]

Am I Being Unreasonable to think that writing Kindly or Gently at the beginning of a post is a pointless, performative piece of nonsense.

We'll decide if what you say is kind or gentle, thank-you very much.

I hate it at work. When someone sends me a gentle reminder I want to scream. It actually makes my stomach turn.

Gives me the rage..

I hate it. Utter bullshit. Just say whatever you need to say.

Yes it’s becoming popular on here, I hate it.

Yes, very wanky.

Kindly is a bit passive aggressive

AI keeps adding it to everything. Another reason to hate that shit.

Yes, fuck off to “ kindly, gently”
SAY what you want.

Definitely

If you have to say, it isn’t true. Posh Spice Principle.

It's often anything but.

I'm also not keen on "I am silently judging you" then going on to do it anything but silently.

Someone "politely" said something really rude to me on here once and I am still stewing over it about three years later. I'd rather someone was just directly rude (if they have to be rude at all)

"Kindly" screams scammer to me.

I’ve found my people!

Oh gosh me too. It’s absolutely awful. Condescending/ passive aggressive claptrap! The self importance of it all.

It's SO patronising.

Agree. I also hate it when people write Polite Notice at the start of a notice

eg Polite Notice: No Parking
or at work: Polite Notice: Don’t leave dirty cups by the sink

Just write
No Parking
Wash up your own cup
etc
FGS

I think it makes the rest of the sentence seem weirdly sinister. I get the image of someone advancing in a lab coat with a large syringe.

It immediately makes me want to scream.

Do you think it could be used to ensure that whatever is written is not misconstrued? It can be easy to infer a tone in written communication that is not meant...

I’m thinking Nicole Kidman as the taxidermist in Paddington 😆

Totally agree, I only ever seen it on here, with posters "gently" suggesting xyz. Why do they have to add the gently, what on earth difference does it make to a suggestion to add the word? To me it smacks of someone who is being incredibly patronising but who is also a total wimp who is afraid to own their own words. I imagine some mimsy handwringing do-gooder hovering over the person she's making a suggestion to. And no man in the world ever would use the word gently when offering an opinion, so why do some women do it?

It's like the mean girl gang at school: " I'm not being mean, BUT ... "[proceeds to ridicule some poor victim]

I think it probably is.

Me too!!!