To ask opinions on IVF at 53

[DrenchSal]

I’ve been considering it

i won’t be offended with anything negative - I just want honesty

I have 4 young adult DC, no way would I want teens in my 60s!!

There is a reason women have the menopause around this age…..sorry but you’re too old to have a baby. You’ll be 63 or 64 when the child is 10.

I wasn't even aware this, was possible.

I think your chances of a healthy and successful pregnancy are very low and you'd be putting your own life at risk and would expect you to suffer mentally.

If you believe you can give a lovely life to a child I'd look at adoption or fostering.

It sounds utterly exhausting!!

Would it be your first child?
Is your partner on board with it?

Presumably at that age you’d need donor eggs and if I was an egg donor I would be specifying that mine were not used on someone of your age .

Yes it would be first child am single

but why? what are your reasons? @DrenchSal

You'll be exhausted, I really wouldn't.

Carrying a baby, looking after a newborn, chasing a toddler and keeping up with a pre teen are exhausting and not something I'd want to do into retirement

You are not just being unreasonable but ridiculous as well.
Can't be bothered explaining about having teenagers when you are almost 70.....they don't stay cute little babies for long.

I personally wouldn't, although I might consider fostering if I didn't have any children.

Currently childless - always wanted a child and feel I could give a child a good life

I think it’s a terrible idea. You are well past the age for carrying a healthy child to term and if you did then the kid gets a tired, menopausal mum whose advanced age will embarrass them. I’m sorry for being so blunt but this isn’t just about you.

What would a pregnancy even do to your body at that age? I’m specifically thinking about your knees here.

At 53 my ds was 10.. The lack of sleep was a killer...
He's a joy but can't imagine having a year old baby at 54...

I think one of the key things is that you’re single. If you have someone who will be around to help out, hands on, then maybe you could make it work. But I think it would be extremely difficult without support at any age and at this age, pretty unbearable.

I’m similar age to you, and am looking forward to retirement! I’d also be asking, why now? Why didn’t you make this decision ten, or even twenty years ago.

Far far too old. If you had wanted children you have had 30 years to have them.

Do you have back up should anything happens to you?

Hi op I can see why you might be considering this.
I think physically the ivf and birth could well be brutal even if you are currently very healthy.

In the teenage years with mine and although they are great kids its quite intense at times. My DH who is in his 60s struggles more now with this than he did when the dc were younger and I take on the bulk of the emotional and practical stuff required. Honestly don't think I'd manage this in my late 60s (am a similar age to you).
I would only go ahead if I had lots of practical support available for the next 20 years.

I made it 16 years ago it didn’t work but then I got into a relationship to put idea on hold for a while

Actually no

Sorry OP, but it's definitely a no from me.
Consider what age you'd be when they're a teenager or going to Uni or getting married, never mind the health implications for you.

Dreadful idea! YABU to yourself and the hypothetical child.
BTW- is IVF a thing at your age?

Do you have viable eggs, or will you be buying some?

Don't do it.

Assuming you started the process now, you could be 56 before a child arrived.

The likelihood of disabilities increases as the mother ages.

You could potentially be drawing your state pension before the child starts GCSEs.

Teenagers can be exhausting, and they are a drain on resources, at a time when your own energy levels and income may be dropping.

Consider fostering.