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Turn your son in knowing it’s the death penalty?

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TaupeLemur · 12/09/2025 15:28

Kirk’s killer has apparently been turned in by his family - or persuaded to hand himself in.
Trump &’his supporters have been very vocal about getting the death penalty for the shooter.

would YOU hand your child over, knowing that the electric chair would be the likely outcome?

YANBU - I wouldn’t turn him in to die.

YABU - I would he’s a killer and deserves all he gets

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blackpooolrock · 12/09/2025 15:47

I would turn them in as i believe in a life for a life.

Gobacktotheworld · 12/09/2025 15:47

I cannot imagine living in a barbaric country that had the death penalty.

michiganiscold · 12/09/2025 15:48

PleaseGetBetter · 12/09/2025 15:33

Makes me laugh how all these “pro lifers” lose their beliefs when it comes to the death penalty.

I’m pro-life in all its forms - that means I do not support the taking of any life, whether it’s an unborn human or a person who’s committed a horrific crime.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/09/2025 15:48

I should start by saying I’m fundamentally opposed to the death penalty.

I wouldn’t hand my own child over the the police knowing it was the death penalty however sure I was they were guilty and however heinous their crime.

Even if it was logically the right thing to do, I think only a psychopath could knowing contribute to / bring about their own child’s death.

Butchyrestingface · 12/09/2025 15:48

I was thinking of the Ted Kaczynski case (unabomber) where, after much soul-searching, it was his brother David who ultimately shopped him. Darn those “eat my cake and have it” letters - they clean gave him away!

I believe David wrote a few books and subsequently went on the lecture tour. It was very difficult for him obviously, as he knew Ted could face the death penalty. But on the other hand, his brother was an unrepentant mass murderer who used the money his family sent him for his day-to-day living instead to build bombs.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/09/2025 15:48

Gobacktotheworld · 12/09/2025 15:47

I cannot imagine living in a barbaric country that had the death penalty.

Well this too of course

CalmCyanBeaker · 12/09/2025 15:49

Thisistyresome · 12/09/2025 15:46

Weren't his family in the audience so his 3 year old daughter may well remember watching her dad die in front of her.

That said, people tend to avoid the death penalty when they turn themselves in and cooperate.

When this gets to trial, even if he pleads guilty the judge could pronounce the death sentence. There could be years of appeals. It might depend on who the President is by the time it all ends. But Trump won't pardon him will he.

Thisistyresome · 12/09/2025 15:49

Bigcat25 · 12/09/2025 15:46

He would have been caught anyway, there would have been hell to pay for the rest of the family, and possible retribution, if the parents helped hide him. See Gabby petitio. They have two other kids to think about.

Yes, often the criminal's best change of avoiding the death penalty is turning themselves in and cooperating.

However, in the US often if the family help they will find themselves on attached charges. We can't know how many people the suspect may have put at risk of punishment by their actions after the fact. Would there be siblings who could have become accessories etc.

MyDeftHedgehog · 12/09/2025 15:50

NamelessNancy · 12/09/2025 15:33

I wouldn't turn anyone in if the death penalty was likely. Neither would I find them guilty as a juror. It's barbaric and has no place in a civilised society.

Even if the defendant had murdered one of your loved ones?

RavenclawWitchy · 12/09/2025 15:50

At this point all we have been told is that he is in custody. I would imagine there will be a psychological evaluation as to his state of mind and even the possibility of a plea deal not unlike Brian Kohberger.

If his family believe he is still danger to himself or others I honestly don't see any other choice than turning him in. Also his picture was out there. He was actively being hunted by law enforcement and the general public.

notacooldad · 12/09/2025 15:50

I think id do the right thing but hand on heart, I have no clue what I'd actually do.
Everyone in that family is now in turmoil and their lives are changed forever.
I am thankful I am not in their shoes.

MissMoneyFairy · 12/09/2025 15:52

unsurewhattodoaboutit · 12/09/2025 15:42

Nope I sure as hell wouldn’t be turning him in. It would be like throwing him away. This government are not just, moral, ethical in any sense, so why would you?

Would you turn them in if there wasn't a death penalty

Thisistyresome · 12/09/2025 15:52

PleaseGetBetter · 12/09/2025 15:33

Makes me laugh how all these “pro lifers” lose their beliefs when it comes to the death penalty.

I don't agree with the death penalty but there is not an inconsistency in their position. They see unborn lives as innocent and worthy of protecting and the lives of murderers as having been given their chance and having forfeited that.

It is fine to disagree with the position, but it is not illogical.

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 15:53

A man gets his throat shot off in cold blood and you’d let your son get away with it? WTF Murdering people has consequences.

Danioyellow · 12/09/2025 15:53

I agree with the death penalty but I wouldn’t be handing my child over

simplynotime · 12/09/2025 15:53

I think in most states it would be death via lethal injection. I don't think they have used the electric chair for decades. He would most likely be on death row for a long period of time though. Mind you, Trump may have other ideas.

OverlyFragrant · 12/09/2025 15:53

He was going to be found, if not if but when.
As a parent, I'd want the arrest to happen calmly in my home rather than when my child was fleeing on some road somewhere, ending in a shoot out.
As hard as this is, his dad done the right thing.

TheaBrandt1 · 12/09/2025 15:54

Watch the play Inter Alia deals with this subject superbly

jasflowers · 12/09/2025 15:54

blackpooolrock · 12/09/2025 15:47

I would turn them in as i believe in a life for a life.

Your own son? who you gave birth too?

You'd send him screaming and shitting himself, literally, to a firing squad?

Fuck no

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 15:54

simplynotime · 12/09/2025 15:53

I think in most states it would be death via lethal injection. I don't think they have used the electric chair for decades. He would most likely be on death row for a long period of time though. Mind you, Trump may have other ideas.

Utah allows execution by firing squad

Butchyrestingface · 12/09/2025 15:55

To those saying they WOULDN’T turn him in, what if this is only the start of a murderous rampage?

How would you feel if one of your loved ones was subsequently murdered by someone whose family KNEW what he’d done previously?

Everyone was (rightly) shouting from the rooftops, including on MN, when that Christopher Laundrie’s parents shielded him over the murder of Gabby Petito in 2022 and thought the parents should have been charged as accomplices or accessories after the fact.

Are you okay with being charged as an accessory just to protect a murderer who has confessed to you?

Unrulyscrumptious · 12/09/2025 15:55

blackpooolrock · 12/09/2025 15:47

I would turn them in as i believe in a life for a life.

So who takes the life of the person executing someone? And so on and so on?

NoelFurlong · 12/09/2025 15:56

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MyDeftHedgehog · 12/09/2025 15:56

jasflowers · 12/09/2025 15:54

Your own son? who you gave birth too?

You'd send him screaming and shitting himself, literally, to a firing squad?

Fuck no

Just like his victim did.......

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 15:56

jasflowers · 12/09/2025 15:54

Your own son? who you gave birth too?

You'd send him screaming and shitting himself, literally, to a firing squad?

Fuck no

He shot through the throat of an innocent man in public, and you’d protect him? What if he killed someone else? Wouldnt you feel like shit?

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