Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

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Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

Tell him to P off

He was trying to take you down a peg or two. Some men just don’t like women with important jobs (but cant admit it to themselves).
Sorry it was rubbish date - fingers crossed for the next one.

He sounds quite thick.
Definitely block and move on.
Don’t waste a single iota of your time or energy on this loser. And, in any case, not getting a word of response out of you will upset his fragile ego way more than any measured response from you ever will.

What a dick.

Completely understand the urge to give him what-for but honestly, not worth your energy. He's too dim to understand anyway, I'd bet. Just block him and move on.

Block and move on. Your time is too valuable to waste on this disrespectful, self-obsessed prat.

Tell him to fuck off, block then move on. What a dick.

What a disgusting person he is. Let him know that to call you that when you are a doctor who saves children’s lives suggests there’s something seriously wrong with him and that he seeks seek help before dating again.

please don’t let this get you down. He’s not normal.

He’s clearly a numpty. End of. Move on OP. Unfortunately a bright and successful woman has a fairly small pond to fish in. There are others. X

Just block him and move on.

Yikes, just block him he sounds like a prick! I know guys like this they are so insecure and intimidated by other people they can't be open or authentic and just go on the attack, it's just so boring. He's obviously not going to be a viable prospect for you, or perhaps anyone.

I don’t think I could not respond in the moment. But given where you are I’d probably block and move on.

That is awful. You are not intellectual equals with this person. He sounds like an immature teenage boy, you on the other hand are a qualified doctor. It’s like chalk and cheese.
are there any meeting sites for professional people you could join ?

What a nasty cunt you met there. I'm so sorry for you.

Block, and move on. He sounds putrid.

He didn't like it that you have a fabulous job. He sounds pathetic.

It's so disappointing but just block him.

He sounds immature. Never mind trying to get the last word. Just block and move on.

If you must, send him a text but I very much doubt it'll end well.

He sounds amazingly thick and unattractive. Just block him.

´Hi Shitdate,
No, I’m not interested in a second date. Your ongoing ´joke’ about my job was rude and belittling and am not interested in spending any more of my time listening to you try to sneak it into conversation. Goodbye and Good luck.´

Then block.

´Rude belittling and immature’

I’m too old for dating (and actually married) but if I was in the game I would be tempted to give ‘feedback’ too. I know we should block and move on but I feel there is a whole bunch of men out there who really need a cold bucket of reality chucked over them. They’re far too arrogant and self regarding. And let’s face it, misogynistic. They need educating and to be introduced to the art of self improvement.

Help him on that journey op. Some other woman may benefit one day!

He sounds completely thick. I assume that as a doctor you'd want to be with someone much more intelligent than he sounds. It isn't even a funny play on words, it's just stupid. Imagine the idiot meeting your friends and family, it would be mortifying. Don't bother seeing him again. I like putting people like him in their place so if it was me I'd message him to tell him exactly why I didn't want to see him again, then block.

The term comes from the Greek words paidíon (παιδίον), meaning "child," and that term is linked to other words referencing children.

I’d have then laughed in his face.

You're far too good and intelligent for the prick. I would say he's insecure of your job, but he's probably too thick and immature to understand it. I don't normally like the word "thick" being bandied about, but in his case, it's befitting.

Zero point responding.
Block and never think about him again.
Seriously, what a pelican!!

Noooo, he’s thick. No need to say he hurt her feelings.

He sounds very weird and stupid. Don't waste any more of your time.