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Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

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brackenbury · 10/09/2025 17:45

Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

OP posts:
brackenbury · 13/10/2025 07:08

Hi all,

I made an updated thread - but just thought I’d say thanks/update here too since it’s been about a month. He ended up texting me from another number about 2 weeks ago calling me a ‘snobby bitch’. I blocked him (again). Just goes to show what kind of person he was.

As per my updated post (but I’ll update here too) - I got a rescue dog this weekend - and he’s divine!

I’m off dating, focusing on work/friends/life - after a few horrific years enduring grief/loss.

Thank you to everyone for all your input/kindness/support! ❤

OP posts:
Hopingtobeaparent · 13/10/2025 08:10

brackenbury · 13/10/2025 07:08

Hi all,

I made an updated thread - but just thought I’d say thanks/update here too since it’s been about a month. He ended up texting me from another number about 2 weeks ago calling me a ‘snobby bitch’. I blocked him (again). Just goes to show what kind of person he was.

As per my updated post (but I’ll update here too) - I got a rescue dog this weekend - and he’s divine!

I’m off dating, focusing on work/friends/life - after a few horrific years enduring grief/loss.

Thank you to everyone for all your input/kindness/support! ❤

@brackenbury

Thank you for the update.

Well done. Yes, all very much confirms what he was like 🙄

Would you share the new thread, and maybe a pic of your new companion? 😍 I’m sure you’ll be very happy!

Missj25 · 13/10/2025 08:14

brackenbury · 13/10/2025 07:08

Hi all,

I made an updated thread - but just thought I’d say thanks/update here too since it’s been about a month. He ended up texting me from another number about 2 weeks ago calling me a ‘snobby bitch’. I blocked him (again). Just goes to show what kind of person he was.

As per my updated post (but I’ll update here too) - I got a rescue dog this weekend - and he’s divine!

I’m off dating, focusing on work/friends/life - after a few horrific years enduring grief/loss.

Thank you to everyone for all your input/kindness/support! ❤

Hey Op ..
Something similar happened me one time , I blocked guy & I hate blocking someone, he forced my hand though , just kept messaging, I use to ignore but he continued to message 🙄 , so in the end I blocked and he rang me from a diff number !, when I realised it was him I hung up & so he messaged me a horrible message , such weirdos aren’t they 🤷🏻‍♀️..
I’m glad you’re doing well , you’ll meet your person some day ..❤️

DwarfBeans · 13/10/2025 08:25

@brackenburya dog is a great way to meet someone 😉

NamelessNancy · 13/10/2025 08:30

Excellent OP. Can I add to @Hopingtobeaparent 's request for a picture of your infinitly upgraded new friend? Pretty please?

SALaw · 13/10/2025 08:37

He sounds immature and thick. Don’t give him a further thought.

Greenwitchart · 13/10/2025 08:50

OP when you meet for the time while online dating always stick to a quick coffee.

It gives you a chance to get to know the person without having to spend an entire meal/evening with them if there is no attraction or they turn out to be a complete idiot like this one.

Only arrange a proper date once you have met the person face to face for an initial time-limited chat.

KoiTetra · 13/10/2025 08:58

This is 100% a case of him being a dick. You do an amazing job both in terms of helping society and in terms of the emotional toll it must take on you spending all day seeing sick kids. I couldn't do it (ignoring the fact I wouldn't have made it into uni on a medical degree to begin with) I just couldn't take the mental and emotional load of seeing how unfair life can be.

So go you for being amazing and find someone who deserves the superstar you are!

vegetarianlouise · 13/10/2025 09:11

I love the fact you chose a dog over a very emotionally immature guy. Hope this sends a message to women: sometimes putting your love into a dog can be much more rewarding that internet dating.

KellsBells7 · 13/10/2025 09:23

Congratulations & we need a picture! I’m sure your new dog will bring you much joy and happiness.

Pudmyboy · 13/10/2025 09:31

@brackenbury please link your new thread or say what board it's on, or what it's called: I'd love to read about your new pal and the joy you bring each other!

PorridgeEater · 13/10/2025 09:37

brackenbury · 13/10/2025 07:08

Hi all,

I made an updated thread - but just thought I’d say thanks/update here too since it’s been about a month. He ended up texting me from another number about 2 weeks ago calling me a ‘snobby bitch’. I blocked him (again). Just goes to show what kind of person he was.

As per my updated post (but I’ll update here too) - I got a rescue dog this weekend - and he’s divine!

I’m off dating, focusing on work/friends/life - after a few horrific years enduring grief/loss.

Thank you to everyone for all your input/kindness/support! ❤

Well you lost nothing by ditching him. Tho don't know how you have time for a dog! - but hope it all works out of course.

CatchTheWind1920 · 13/10/2025 09:52

He sounds 13. I would've walked out. Block him.

Edit: sorry, replied quickly and should've rtft 🙈
Well done for maintaining a dignified silence and blocking blocking blocking. What an absolute arse. Have lots of fun with your new dog!

naemates · 13/10/2025 10:26

Best update I’ve seen on here in a long time! Well done OP

JimmyGiraffe · 13/10/2025 10:36

naemates · 13/10/2025 10:26

Best update I’ve seen on here in a long time! Well done OP

OP, can you post the link to your updated post?

Gettingbysomehow · 13/10/2025 10:46

What an absolute bellend 😂Clearly doesn't like intelligent women and feels really threatened by them. He is an embarrassment.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 13/10/2025 11:08

On the positive side, this one announced himself as a prize twat on the first date so you didn't have to waste any time on him!

sparkleghost · 13/10/2025 11:44

I had a date like this shortly before meeting my now DH. He was rude and condescending about the style of my artwork (we both had degrees in a particular interest), didn’t like where we’d met for a drink, wanted food then didn’t like where I’d suggested despite him having no suggestions himself and it being lovely! We bumped into my friend at the bar who had no idea I was there on a date (and I had no idea would be there) - and he accused me of stalking him! The whole evening was awkward and unpleasant. I ended up going back to join my friend at the bar after dinner and that was the best part of the evening!! I felt seriously deflated afterwards and ready to give up - this was around 2 years into being single. Glad I didn’t now obviously!

There is a reason why this bloke is still single and he’s not representative of the whole dating pool. I’d block him and move on. Sorry you had such a shitty experience xxx

ThePoliteLion · 13/10/2025 12:12

OP, I’m sure your dog will continue to bring you joy.
(watching this thread still, I’m currently trying to adopt a dog).
Dogs are magic
x

ldnmusic87 · 13/10/2025 12:48

He's trying to neg you, because he's inferior.

Move on OP, you are worth more!

HWDDHOH · 13/10/2025 17:03

brackenbury · 10/09/2025 17:45

Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

He's seems like a child so treat as a client!

Mimzy26 · 13/10/2025 17:17

Dont bother responding let him wonder

TheGander · 13/10/2025 17:22

brackenbury · 13/10/2025 07:08

Hi all,

I made an updated thread - but just thought I’d say thanks/update here too since it’s been about a month. He ended up texting me from another number about 2 weeks ago calling me a ‘snobby bitch’. I blocked him (again). Just goes to show what kind of person he was.

As per my updated post (but I’ll update here too) - I got a rescue dog this weekend - and he’s divine!

I’m off dating, focusing on work/friends/life - after a few horrific years enduring grief/loss.

Thank you to everyone for all your input/kindness/support! ❤

When men call women “ snobby bitches” it’s invariably because they’re out of their league. I’ll be the 200th person to say he’s a knob who’s not worthy of cleaning your boots and you are a catch.

ApartFromAllThat · 13/10/2025 17:49

As a male, I wish to apologise for male kind. Dudes a sap. We've all made bad jokes in our time and carried some of them on too long in the hope of making them good, but he sounds like he's absolutely chronic. I can certainly understand why you've switched your energies to the rescue dog, sounds like a massive upgrade on that. Don't see where the poll is, but 100% not aibu!

xsquared · 13/10/2025 18:50

The snobby/stuck up bitch type comment is just such a predictable stereotype of a mn emotionally immature man who cannot handle rejection.

You've well amd truly dosgrd a bullet there op. Enjoy your new dog's company.

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