To think most men are filthy losers

[fightbackorriseabove]

I'm going through the menopause, so have a low libido at the moment, which might explain my disgust. I don't know. I didn't use to be a prude, but I'm feeling more and more annoyed these days by men and their general behaviour.

I have a few male friends who, to varying degrees, always manage to slip in an innuendo or even an outright sexual remark. And out of politeness, or not wanting to cause a scene, I smile or roll my eyes in jest. I can only think of one occasion when I told a bloke to stop, and he REALLY took the hump. This was a married man who pursued me, but then said he was just joking and that I took myself too seriously. In fact, he got very angry.

I have lots of personal issues at the moment. Mad stuff. One of these issues lead to me googling my ex.

Well, the filth I found was disturbing. Men, thousands of them, masturbating online. I can only think they're doing it in front of each other. Becsuse there can't be many women wanting to sit and watch them. Surely? My ex was one of them.

I'm not talking about Only Fans where people pay. I'm talking about sex webcam stuff where men seem to just be filming themselves wanking. And watching each other. I don't even think it's gay. These are heterosexual men doing it for free. All ages.

Maybe I'm naïve.

But it's been a real eye opener for me.

I always knew men watched porn. But sitting there filming themselves and watching each other. It's madness.

I really do think that we, as women, spend our time worrying, working, caring, thinking, planning... and men just do the stuff thry have to do and then go back to messing with themselves or pestering women. Including their wives. And they keep having to up the limit because they can't get excited uness it's something really vile.

How many of us have felt obliged to have sex with a man, a partner, to avoid his anger, sulking, grumpiness. We've chosen sex as the lesser of two evils when we didn't want it.

It's not a human right, is it? They need to calm the fuck down.

Maybe I'm being unreasonable and grumpy, but I just think most of them ming.

you are just a man hater - end of. Personally posts like yours should be banned from any public forum.

I’m sure most of us would take this over being raped, murdered, assaulted, etc etc. if that poster hates men and stays away from them it sounds good to me!

Well first off not all men are like described on this thread

My dh certainly isnt a sex pest or like anything else you've described bizzare you have this opinion on men 🤔

Comprehension problems? Or just a knee-jerk reaction? How people behave, how they treat other people is the important thing. There are indeed women who haven't got anything good to say about men in general. There are marauding bands of women out on New Year's Eve, surrounding random men and subjecting them to mass sexual assault - it happens so often there's a word for it - taharrush. Women wank themselves silly over images of men being strangled, raped and beaten up. They - oh, no - hang on! They keep themselves to themselves - quelle horreur!

I dont have comprehension problems - but you are tarring every man with the same brush whether you like it or not. Its like watching say a woman struggling to park her car and saying all women are bad drivers. If you cant see the obvious it will be nigh on impossible to educate you on this.

Who said most women are being raped, murdered and assaulted? Why make an argument up and get angry at it?

The fact is that more women are raped, murdered and assaulted by men than other women (the same goes for other men too). If a woman wants to avoid men that is her right as long as she is not hurting them. No one is saying all men (or all women) are bad but they also do not know which ones are bad.

'Masquerading as an intellectuel.' Brilliant.
Look out for my book, 'All Men are Filthy Losers' coming out soon.

Maybe one day in the future women will be able to walk around without fear (in my dreams)

There will be no need for "bitter enraged feminists"

Do let us know when that day comes, dear.
I won't hold my breath......

Not sure if you've noticed but women are no longer "allowed" to have their own rape crisis centres, let alone an Island, because men who think they feel like women don't want us too. The number of women only spaces, events, and services is rapidly declining. So while your solution sounds awesome, men won't let us avoid them.

@GingerPower - fess up, you are a bloke hey? And look, all good if you are, of course you are welcome here, but some OPs seem to be confused, and thinking that you are a manpanderer, when in fact I suspect you are a mansplainer. So, I think it only fair that you fess up and out yourself as a man who has come to a women's discussion forum to correct our wrong- think, with some "women are no better than men" commentary, just in case we accidently listen to the other women with experience of being women, instead.

What makes me sad is that as the Mother of 2 DSs who I adore, I can feel as they grow that they are susceptible to the culture around them that devalues women, and that I may go from being the person in their life who they can trust 100%, to being tainted by an acquired view of women in general. I talk to them about attitudes to women, we are currently close, but I do fear that distance. That's what makes me sad. That maybe they will be absorbed into that culture to even a mild extent. They have a choice though. I think they are choosing well, but as a Mum, I have only a certain level of influence.

True story

Mammals have been around for approx 200 million years, insects have been around for approx 400 million. So insects are way ahead of us in the evolutionary process. Ever heard of a king bee? Noticed how many female insects use males for food after mating?

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wtf did I just read?

Why? Screenshot it?
that is boggling my mind

By using your driving analogy though...

If I walk across the road with only women drivers, without looking, yes, most of the women drivers will avoid me and I'll be safe. BUT I don't KNOW which women drivers are OK. So I have to assume ALL of the women driving cars are bad drivers to keep myself safe by looking as I cross.

In the same way, if I assume all men are safe, I'm putting myself in danger. Because on average, 1 in every 15 men poses some threat to women (and I'd say that is a very conservative average).

I can't speak for other women on this thread, but I've been sexually assaulted by men I only knew slightly three times and also once within a relationship. How about you?