For not paying half when I'm leaving.

[Cuppatealover]

Very emotional and awful time right now. I'll try to keep it as short as possible.
Been through a hell of a year. Decided to move in with partner in January. A week after signing for the rented house we found out I was pregnant. All good.
Moved in end of March and partner had paid to get whole house blinds fitted, new floors through the house and appliances for kitchen. We agreed I would pay him back my half for these.
Fast forward and relationship has just gradually got worse and broken down. I had a termination of pregnancy in May due to various reasons which I know he resents me for as he wanted the baby.
Had a row the other week as I told him I do not want to be in this relationship anymore and how do we go about the split re house and associated costs. He still expects half for the blinds, flooring and appliances (I haven't paid anything yet) but intends to stay in the house and won't move. Has said if I'm unhappy then I should move. Which I agree with. But I've said I'm not paying half for things he is keeping of he is staying in the house. I can't take half a fridge freezer or blinds!
I have now found a house and told him after looking for months. Got two cats so it's incredibly difficult to find a rental. Now I've told him it's erupted into a huge row about how I'm trying to worm my way out of paying him back and putting him in financial hardship because he wouldn't have paid for those things if he knew I wasn't going to pay half.

How uninteresting.

Who you responded to 🤣

OP shouldn't have to explain why.
Nobody's business but her own and nothing to do with the question asked.

I know that I also had an abortion as well. I have been consistent in saying she should leave. The point of my post is that people will have their opinions and it's not up for discussion and I don't wish to debate it. When I aborted my baby there was people praying outside.

Don’t pay him. He is completely wrong in the financial hardship point. If you had paid for half of those things, he would now need to recompense you for your contribution. Therefore, he is in the same financial situation whether you paid or not.

If it wasn’t anything to do with the question OP asked, then why did she mention it in her OP?

Possibly, but she keeps babbling on about the rest of Europe, like it’s relevant!

YANBU. You would have paid half if you stayed with him long term, but it hasn’t worked out. Surely it’s like when two people split up and one person ‘buys out’ the other. He’d be doing the buying out because the stuff will all belong to him.

He's being nasty and a bully. That's why it's relevant. The reasons is for op alone.

Setting the scene, not for you to attack her, that’s for sure.

Explaining how brave she was dealing with the situation, how bad the relationship was. Why she’s got to leave.

You suspect wrong. A cock lodger is someone who brings nothing to a long term relationship except his cock.

This is an entirely different situation. The relationship has fallen apart a few months after moving in together. It didn’t work out! So why should the OP have to pay for half his stuff that he will have for a good 10 years when she was there for 8 months??

Sorry you've had such a hard time OP.

If it were me, I'd pay as agreed and keep my word. I'd walk away with my head held high and not look back.

Stop embarrassing myself, says the loony pro
lifer! Who thinks everyone should feel the sane. Who also sticks up for abusive Catholic Church members.

M A D!

It’s quite pathetic that @Letsgoroundagainnow is reporting all my posts for deletion.

No, fuck that.
Get out and don't pay a penny.
And ignore the loony trolls on this, OP.

I haven’t actually, I think you've probably put yourself on MN radar by your awful
posts, not sure anyone needs to report you.

Its fabulous you’re being shut down and deleted though.

Great you’re not being given a voice.

Well done MN. 👏

Stating you”re pro choice, then lambasting women for making a choice doesn’t mean you’re pro choice! Silly silly thing!

Pro choice doesn’t mean that it’s your choice they have to choose, it’s their own choice!

I haven’t lambasted anyone. Simply pointed out that adoption is also an option for a 19 week pregnancy.

Why are you making everything about YOU?

No-one cares about you or 'your' posts. People report vile and derailing posts all the time.

Ok Well must be some other batsh*t PP then who thinks a view different from theirs must be silenced.
I haven’t said anything awful either.

But you made an agreement to pay that. You benefited from that whilst living there - so whilst I don’t think you should pay the full amount as he will be in possession of them, I do think you should pay maybe 1/3 of the cost. A fourth at the least.

And so is abortion. Especially in a country that allows abortion at that gestation.

My posts weren’t vile. Some to me were though.