Is this a shitty thing to do by DH

[Oscarsmom71]

Do just been out for a couple of drinks in large city centre.
Almost at train station to go home.
There is a road to cross with busy traffic and trams crossing.
DH sees traffic coming and runs across leaving me and makes it to the other side and turns around and laughs because he made it and I was left at the other side of the road.
He thinks it’s highly funny I didn’t make it.
So then I have to wait to cross when it’s safe.
DH can’t see why I’m upset. But to me it’s not caring. Not seeing if I cross safely.
To me he should’ve waited until I crossed safely not dash across and laugh at me.
For context also I had a nasty fall crossing a road once which he is aware of how long it took me to recover.

Yes I think it is.

It wouldn’t bother me. I would expect DP to be able to cross a road without my support.

Who laughs because they ran across a road and someone else didn't? Is he 5?

From your typos, I suspect you’ve had too much to drink. So yes, it would have been nice for him to keep an eye on you. However, I really wouldn’t be bothered enough about it to get upset and start a thread calling my DH shitty as a result.

Surely, given your fall, you would have waited until it was safe to cross anyway? So your DH’s actions didn’t impact what you would have done or when you would done it anyway

Fuck wit.

I think you’re over reacting

Sorry @Oscarsmom71 but I think YABU. He ran across the road and then laughed that you didn’t yet cross? As long as he then waited for you to cross (and not go on ahead and catch the train without you) then it sounds like a non-event. I get that you had a fall in the past but you’re not a child that needs walked across a road. Are you both a bit pissed?

I don’t think you two should go drinking together if this is what results.

Drunk people do.

We’ve had 2 drinks so not pissed.

From what you have described, it wouldn’t bother me.

What adult man behaves like this? He sounds a complete dick. Was he drunk?

I don’t understand why you need seeing across though. Maybe you’re both drunk, I guess.

I hate crossing the road with my husband - he commutes to work in London, so the way he crosses and walks around is totally different to me. I cannot stand it if we’re travelling on a train together, he rushes ahead darting all over the place.

We are older and DH just would not do that (and I can't see him doing it when we were younger either TBH. I certainly can't ever remember an incident like that.)
I mean, he can be a bit of a dick after a few drinks but he is always very considerate.

I cross the road when I want to. I don’t need anyone’s help, of for them to wait for me. 🙄

I’d remind him that you had a bad fall recently and would like some consideration when crossing busy roads.

I would judge him on how he responds.

I mean it's a bit childish but I don't think I'd be upset beyond giving him a shove and calling him a berk once I eventually crossed. Seems a bit oversensitive to be actually upset by it.

I understand you fell crossing the road once but does that mean he now has to hold your hand like a toddler to cross all future roads?

But apparently he has had enough to think certain things are funny.

Agreed

You are overreacting . I wouldn’t give this a second thought. It’s just crossing a road .

My husband holds my hands abd checks the road if I try and cross before he's checked he puts his arm out to stop me. When we started dating it annoyed me a bit but niw I recognise it's because me, and the children and now grandchildren are the most important things in his entire world and he does everything he can to protect us. If you're happy with a man who laughs at you and your past trauma then mock the OP and be happy. I think she deserves better. Find a man who treasures you OP this one doesn't

Meh, you’re an adult. You should be able to get across a road by yourself barring any frailties you haven’t mentioned.

Do you have children because I hope he wasnt the one responsible teaching them about road safety.
He sounds like a child himself.
If he'd tripped or stumbled he could have been badly hurt or killed or caused an accident where someone else was
.
I don't think the issue is that he let you cross the road by yourself- you obviously know how to do that safely You are an adult. He obviously isnt and that's what the real problem is.

Is there maybe a back story as to why you need help to cross the road safely?

Exactly this of course I cross roads myself it’s just the way he dashed so to make it and found it funny.