Is this a shitty thing to do by DH

[Oscarsmom71]

Do just been out for a couple of drinks in large city centre.
Almost at train station to go home.
There is a road to cross with busy traffic and trams crossing.
DH sees traffic coming and runs across leaving me and makes it to the other side and turns around and laughs because he made it and I was left at the other side of the road.
He thinks it’s highly funny I didn’t make it.
So then I have to wait to cross when it’s safe.
DH can’t see why I’m upset. But to me it’s not caring. Not seeing if I cross safely.
To me he should’ve waited until I crossed safely not dash across and laugh at me.
For context also I had a nasty fall crossing a road once which he is aware of how long it took me to recover.

You obviously think it was otherwise you wouldn’t have posted about it looking for people to agree with you.

😂agree. Sounds a bit ridiculous.

I think it was a bit silly, but silly is okay. I'd have been sticking two fingers up at him as he waited for me. I can absolutely imagine DP doing that, and I might too.

I think the bigger issue is why you feel as though you need an escort across a road.

He sounds a bit of an imature idiot.Is he generally so silly.I would ignore him and tell him to grow up.

On paper you should be able to cross the road wo anyone holding your hand.
But the fact he ran, turned around and then laught at you is showing that he took that as a game, one you didn’t know you had entered, one where the one winning was the one making it to the other sude. And that you ‘loosing’ is worthy of laughing at you.

it’s a highly childish behaviour.
and laughing at you having a safer approach, knowing the circumstances, is just, if not more, as shitty.

Why do you need a man to guide you across a road?

You should never cross when someone else does, always judge the safety for yourself.

Agreed. And a bit princessy.

What kind of grown adult laughs at another grown adult because they dashed across the road, I'm glad I don't mix with anyone like that

It all just sounds dopey. He did a childish thing and then celebrated in a slightly pathetic manner and you are wasting your energy minding about something so immature. I would definitely have thought his behaviour was pathetic/unattractive but I don’t think I could waste more than an eye roll over it

I mean he sounds really immature to laugh at that. I don’t think I’d consider it a huge deal otherwise though.

It sounds as though you become more helpless when your DH is around. Why do you need him to help you cross a road?

It would irritate me immensely if DH expected me to ensure he was safe crossing a road if he could do it himself the rest of the time.

Stop infantilising yourself.

Laughing is a bit silly, but I'm often trailing behind my husband because he walks so quickly. So sometimes he crosses the road before I can. He (usually!) waits. It's not a big deal, because we're not joined at the hip and I'm not a piece of Dresden china that needs "protecting".
So, I'd say you're overreacting, OP.

I'd find his childish laughing annoying - like he's somehow ACHIEVED something by beating you across the road. That is not a thing, dear.

But unless he's jumped on a tram and left you standing there, no need to be annoyed at the lack of escort across a road.

Aw this is lovely :). And I completely agree.

I wonder if everyone's arm automatically goes out to create a barrier for their loved ones. My mum's always did and now mine does too. Same in the car if I have to break sharply.

I wouldn't expect to have to wait and help an able-bodied adult to cross the road.

He's being a bit childish but it's nothing to get upset about.

The behaviour you describe from your DH would really piss me off, honestly.

I'm glad my DH treats me like a capable grown up, not like an immature princess who literally needs their hand-holding to cross a road.

Drunk people are so irritating. If he's like this when he's sober, I'd chuck him. Sounds like a bore.

How old are you both?

You're an adult and don't need help crossing a road. He's presumably a bit giddy after a couple of drinks and found it funny that you were stood standing.

Absolute non-event.

I think you’re maybe a little too upset over it but saying that yes he didn’t bother to tell you or wait for you so I don’t think it’s the best. Dh does this, not laughing but still doesn’t wait and I find it a bit disappointing

Big overreaction imo. He was clearly having a bit of a joke with you.

It's obnoxious behaviour, especially since he knows you will always want to be careful given your history.
I wouldn't be getting upset though. I'd be feeling cold contempt. And I'd be watching what he does from here on with new awareness .

You deserve to be treated better than that, this is the kind of immature treatment a man would treat a half friend/acquaintance whilst out on the piss, it's not how you treat your wife whom you are supposed to love and cherish.

Unless there was an out-of-control lorry hurtling towards me that I hadn't spotted, I would be AFFRONTED by someone sticking their arm out in front of me to stop me as I'm about to cross.

They'd be liable to have said arm summarily gnawn off and served to them for tea that night.

Glad this works for you, even if you have had to find a way to justify it to yourself. I would hate to be infantilised like this.

I don't think you can say this man doesn't treasure her or that she should end her marriage on the basis of one silly slightly tipsy moment, that many of us would also have had a laugh at in our own relationships.

Well, he is a twat for running across a busy road and he is very lacking in the gallant human being ratings…….a decent bloke would have walked over with his DP. What a fuckwit!!!!