Is this a shitty thing to do by DH

[Oscarsmom71]

Do just been out for a couple of drinks in large city centre.
Almost at train station to go home.
There is a road to cross with busy traffic and trams crossing.
DH sees traffic coming and runs across leaving me and makes it to the other side and turns around and laughs because he made it and I was left at the other side of the road.
He thinks it’s highly funny I didn’t make it.
So then I have to wait to cross when it’s safe.
DH can’t see why I’m upset. But to me it’s not caring. Not seeing if I cross safely.
To me he should’ve waited until I crossed safely not dash across and laugh at me.
For context also I had a nasty fall crossing a road once which he is aware of how long it took me to recover.

For info I am perfectly capable of crossing a road by my own but it was the way he purposely dashed so to go across without me. This area is notorious for accidents so I just expected to be treated as if he cared given my previous accident and not laugh at me.

Has he got form for being a dick head OP?

Agreed!

Maybe he assumed you were going to dash too and only realised you hadn't when he got to the other side. After all he was hardly going to pause halfway across to see if you were coming too and then turn round and go back if you hadn't. The laugh might just have been caused by surprise to realise you were on the other side of the road still.

Sounds like a total non-event to me.

He doesn't sound very caring. My DH always watches out for me when we are out walking together, so if we are in the woods he will say stuff like watch that tree root, hole etc, it's just something he always does. If we are in a new place, he will say"step" or kerb or whatever.

Especially as you have already had a fall. Does he realise how hurtful you found it?

Presume your drunk and over emotional and this won’t matter at all in the morning (one should hope)

And OP enough to drink to get upset at a non/minor event ...

He tells you when there's a kerb? Do you not find that the most patronising thing in the history of things?

He should know better than to dash across a road.
I think that I'd be left open-mouthed if DH done it.

DH and I are in our 60s and we both care for and look out for each other. However, I would be rather cross with him if he started treating me like a child who couldn't be trusted to see herself across a road.

Or - drunk people who get super emotional are so irritating. I'd chuck her. Sounds high maintenance.

Two sides to every story and all that.

@Oscarsmom71 -I am sorry you were upset. Unless there is a significant back story (outside of having had a fall when crossing the road once before ) and this is the final straw/tip of the iceberg, YABU

A few issues here.

His idiotic dashing through traffic could have caused an accident. He’s old enough to cross safely.

The laughing is childish and annoying. I’d expect a teen to have grown out of it.

Given that he knows you’ve had nasty crossing related accident, I’d expect a bit more care from someone who is supposed to love you. Nobody is saying you’re helpless, but I but of thought would be nice .

You’re a grown up. You can cross the road unaided.

It’s a bit immature of him but not worth a fuss over.

Agree, I'd feel more in danger crossing a busy road attached to someone.

Or maybe take a grown up with you?

That’s interesting, I thought this was about manners vs support. Would you do that to a friend and laugh?

Very much this. I really think this is a non-event.

I don’t think I’d be upset about it, more disappointed because I’d hope for better.

You are both adults. He chose to dash across, you didn’t.

You crossed and joined him within about 2 minutes. He hardly left you in mortal peril for an hour at the dead of night.

He was laughing - not shouting insults.

What is the big deal? Don’t be so weedy

Weedy? That’s a weird take, I just think it’s inconsiderate and he laughed rather than apologised. I don’t think there’s something wrong with the OP for being disappointed.

I know. I'd feel like I was treated like a child if a partner did that.

Obnoxious
Dump him
He's a twat
Immature

Seriously?!

Imagine this was the other way round..

Me and Wife went out for a couple of drinks. We were in good spirits but when we got to the road, she crossed straight away but I hesitated.
When she got to the other side she was laughing at me.

I think she clearly doesn't respect me as she didn't wait to check I crossed the road safely. She just crossed without me and didn't even check I was ok
Is this a really shitty thing for her to do because I think it is and she should have waited for me?

Youd tell him to give his head a wobble.... Especially if he then said he was thinking of leaving over this as she clearly doesn't respect him

OK, I withdraw ‘weedy’.

And substitute pathetic.

Infantilised.
Weedy.
Take a grown-up with you.
Assume you’re drunk and you’ll be over it in the morning.

God, the standards on here are really low. I think OP was just disappointed that her husband doesn’t have any manners.