Is this a shitty thing to do by DH

[Oscarsmom71]

Do just been out for a couple of drinks in large city centre.
Almost at train station to go home.
There is a road to cross with busy traffic and trams crossing.
DH sees traffic coming and runs across leaving me and makes it to the other side and turns around and laughs because he made it and I was left at the other side of the road.
He thinks it’s highly funny I didn’t make it.
So then I have to wait to cross when it’s safe.
DH can’t see why I’m upset. But to me it’s not caring. Not seeing if I cross safely.
To me he should’ve waited until I crossed safely not dash across and laugh at me.
For context also I had a nasty fall crossing a road once which he is aware of how long it took me to recover.

That’s nice.

I did this to my DH earlier - we both laughed, it was quite funny for him to see me do that stupid run/walk!!!

I would not want to be married to someone like that.

How is he otherwise? Nice and considerate or the opposite? OP, only you can decide whether this is acceptable to you, and your feelings on this are valid. I don't think it matters whether this would be acceptable to others

You’re being very dramatic.
I assume you’ve had a bit too much to drink which is why you’re acting silly.

His behaviour was childish and potentially dangerous but not because of anything to do with you.

Eat some carbs to soak up the alcohol and move on.

Look: you have a response to the OP, and an opinion as asked for.

Other people have different responses and opinions.

Which is normal, and allowed.

It is up to the OP to take or leave as she sees it.

Not for you to police other people’s opinions.

Who laughs because they ran across a road and someone else didn't? Is he 5?
Me and Dh when we are out having fun and in a giggly mood! 😆

unless he pushed you, not sure how his action had any impact on you?

He dashed, could have fallen down, you waited. Total non issue?

Him laughing stupidly after a childish move is not terribly bright, but to be so upset to start an entire thread about it, it's weird. He had to wait for you, you crossed when convenient, what's the actual story?

So glad it's not just me

Yes, by all means stop me if it's genuinely unsafe, otherwise I'd ask them what the fuck they were playing at.

This is a discussion form. You and I can both reply to whichever comments we wish to.

You called someone weedy, and then you doubled down with pathetic. I’m sure you can cope with people responding to that. Unless…

Modern feminism has put a damper on men being chivalrous. Thankfully there are those of us who enjoy taking a man’s arm and walking across a road together.

Your husband sounds incredibly immature and uncaring.

My God, how does that not drive you round the fucking twist?

Over reaction, you're his DW not a DD .

Did he really laugh 'at you'?

Or was he just a bit pissed and giggly generally?

I have an ex who was massively paranoid and always thought people were laughing 'at' him. It was very tedious.

If he knows its something you're sensitive about because of your previous accident, that's different. Does he know? If not, why not talk to him about it and see how he responds?

DH can be chivalrous all he wants. But I don't want him holding my hand and escorting me across the road like I'm incapable, thank you very much.

he is an ignorant twat

if they're a parent, it could be an unfortunate reflex, happens a lot in cars.
Same way as parent brightly exclaiming "Look, a COW, or FIRETRUCK" to bemused friends or colleagues walking with them 😂

I guess that's the difference. If you both think certain things are fun and funny (which is absolutely fine of course) then it's an understood part of your relationship. But to be fair men can be fucking childish dickheads at times.

And I am disappointed a grown woman can't cross the road without her husbands help.
He was being a bit silly - was it hilarious? Not especially but he didn't do anything wrong as long as he didn't leave/put her in any danger

You’re over reacting ! I would find this funny 🤣

Exactly. If OP had fallen and he'd left her in the road and laughed - sure, he'd be a dick, but running across the road like a kid is hardly a big deal, is it?

Same way as parent brightly exclaiming "Look, a COW, or FIRETRUCK" to bemused friends or colleagues walking with them 😂

Tbf, I do that and I'm not a parent. Usually it's about DOGS though.

I am capable of crossing a road and have done so alone or with the DC but when I'm with my bf he has my hand and checks we can get across. Now my DC are grown they check I'm there and getting across okay. It's just what you do and it's respectful.

He sounds childish. Laughing ...

Didn’t vote as I think you’re both unreasonable. DH sounds very immature but I assume he thinks you’re an adult so capable of making your own way across the road once it’s clear?

Perfectly capable of crossing a road? Haven’t you just stated you’ve had a bad accident crossing the road? I don’t think you know what you want Mrs.

your OH sounds immature.
you sound needy.

If someone did that to me, I would find it incredibly patronising, not respectful.