Is this a shitty thing to do by DH

[Oscarsmom71]

Do just been out for a couple of drinks in large city centre.
Almost at train station to go home.
There is a road to cross with busy traffic and trams crossing.
DH sees traffic coming and runs across leaving me and makes it to the other side and turns around and laughs because he made it and I was left at the other side of the road.
He thinks it’s highly funny I didn’t make it.
So then I have to wait to cross when it’s safe.
DH can’t see why I’m upset. But to me it’s not caring. Not seeing if I cross safely.
To me he should’ve waited until I crossed safely not dash across and laugh at me.
For context also I had a nasty fall crossing a road once which he is aware of how long it took me to recover.

I am really concerned about the amount of grown women who can't cross a road without their husband. Also concerned about the women who must be told where there is a kerb or step is.
I would find that so annoying and probably end up saying yes I can see where the bloody step is.
I broke my wrist a few years ago crossing the road and still didn't expect my (then )husband to see me across the road
We're all grown up. Just see if you can cross the road by yourself

I am really concerned about the amount of grown women who can't cross a road without their husband.

Are you? You may have mis-worded your post then, as it’s coming across as scornful of women that have a different definition or expectation of manners. If you’re genuinely worried about them crossing the road alone, I think you can stand down.

You sound childish and honestly completely wet. You need to lighten up. Being with someone who acted so helpless would drive me mad.

I doubt you’d be compatible in other ways so you’re likely safe.

I mean yes he’s a dick to laugh at you, but you managed to cross over okay?

This

It's nothing to do with manners. It's very simple, can you cross a road alone? If yes then why the hell does your partner need to see you across?
And as for other posters who's husband's need to tell them when to cross the road or where a step is that's weird. Why do you want your partner to treat you like a child? Unless you have problems with your sight why can't you see where a step/tree root is?

I’m honestly baffled that so many grown women think it’s “good manners” to be held and escorted across the road by a man.

If a man grabbed me and told me where the kerb was before I walked across a road I’d think he was a right tosser 🤣

Oh, weird. What I got from her post was that she thought her husband was thoughtless and then that was exacerbated by him thinking it was funny that he’d left her behind.

That’s not what I mean by good manners, my interpretation of them is that if someone is walking with you they don’t just run across the road without you and then laugh at you from the other side. Fine to have different interpretations and I can see how if that’s reasonable behaviour for you that you could be compatible with that person.

Jesus. I've heard it all now.

My partner is older than me. I can get across a road more quickly than him. Sometimes, I judge it's safe to cross and do so. He waits.

Sometimes I stop paying attention momentarily and he crosses the road without me. Or my weight is on the wrong foot and by the time I've transferred, the opportunity to cross safely has passed.

On occasion, I've laughed about the fact he is an old man. He laughs too. It's really not a big deal. We're both adults and can both judge when we're each comfortable crossing the road. Sometimes it's at the same time and sometimes it's not. The End.

As far as I'm aware, he's never felt the need to start a thread on the Internet about it. I certainly haven't.

I'd imagine that it was a light hearted laugh rather than a malicious mocking laugh on the basis that, you know, they were out together on a Saturday night, had had a couple of drinks and were just in high spirits.

It's fine to be a bit playful and laugh at each other occasionally.

I can't imagine being with someone so dour that the slightest hint of playfulness is worthy of complaint.

I suppose if that was the case then the OP might not have got upset about it.

This sums it up.

Really? I don't know. I've read enough nonsense on here to believe it.

Women expecting to be escorted across the road by the arm and told when there is a tree root or kerb in their path??

Good grief.

I do agree that there’s plenty of nonsense on here.

Well done you 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ some people really struggle with it

YANBU

I hate crossing roads unless there's a green man. It really really stresses me out. If I'm on my own or with my children I will only cross the road at a green man and if I'm with another adult and they try to make me cross the road without a green man,I hold onto their arms because I'm so frightened

Exactly, and also those who are controlling and think if someone crossed a road at their own pace then they're ABUSIVE!

Sorry your reaction is too much

Do you have a disability?

Is he usually quite inconsiderate towards you?
No, my dh wouldn’t do this ever he would take my hand to cross the road. He also takes my hand going down stairs. I would really question our relationship if he left me on the other side of the road and then laughed at me I’d think he was deranged. I’m not used to it, other people might not bothered about things like that because that what their husbands do.

YANBU. This would be the sort of thing my ex would do. I don't demand a lot but I do like to feel cared about. Hence he is an ex.

I don’t think many people have a problem with people crossing the road ‘at their own pace’, but does that mean to you running across the road before your companion and then laughing at them from the other side? Takes all sorts, I guess.

Or they might just find it irritating/unnecessary. .

It's actually more dangerous to hold hands because if one person falls, they're going to take the other person with them either in the middle of the Road or down the stairs.

My partner has taken my hand at times like that and I always pull it free.

ETA:times like that = crossing busy roads or going up and down stairs.