‘Backwards compliment’ from date, not sure if I was right to challenge it

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I had a 4th date with a man last night who I really like. I was discussing my gym routine and explained I have lost quite a bit of weight and am now comfortable with my size (I’m a 12 now).

He said he really likes my figure because he likes having something to hold on to. Fine. He then said he was seeing someone who was really slim and it hurt when he ‘did her from behind’ (his words) as her bum was ‘boney’.

I said in reply I felt that was a bit of an unnecessary comment and he said sorry, he then sent me a long text earlier about it and seems to genuinely regret it.

I suppose I have two questions - would you have said something and do you think that if he’s genuinely sorry for saying it, you could overlook it? I’m still a bit conflicted, he has otherwise been brilliant.

Gross. Fling him back.

In what world is it ok to say that? Urgh. Massive ick, deep misogyny.

Euw what a horrible thing to say. Isn’t he meant to be on his best behaviour? That way of talking about sex is so horrible- ‘did’? Ugh. And how ungentlemanly of him to discuss sex with someone else negatively with a new date.
He is either thick or horrible or both on the basis of that sentence.

@Arlanymor LOL! Comments like yours make me miss the laugh emoji so much.

Ask yourself if you would be happy about him says something like that about you to a future girlfriend.