People just turning up at house

[Canipetthatdawg78]

I feel like this may be a mixture of being on my period and having only managed to get to sleep at 4:30am last night but I digress...

my FIL and BIL just turned up completely out of the blue to our house. I was slobbing on the sofa in my pajamas with unwashed hair, the kids aren't dressed - generally our house is fairly tidy most of the time but I had a busy day out with the kids yesterday and
got back late so the kitchen is a mess and it's just not "guest" ready.

It was one of those really personal moments where I felt so comfortable just slobbing around with my own little family and we were all happy doing our own thing and now I have to suddenly be "on" as well as worrying about being judged for my hairy legs etc 🤣

Am I being unreasonable for feeling really irritated? I could very will be and will accept it if I am... it's not early in the morning, we're all pretty close and I get on with them very well I just could have done with a heads up y'know?

Not at all I had the same thing happened yesterday after a really long day at work and I got home and my son was talking to me about his problems then my mother was on the phone talking to me as well and I was trying to ship dinner then there was a knock at the door and it was somebody I haven’t seen for months who just decided to pop by for a catch up And I spent two hours sitting on my sofa listening to her and internally screaming for her to get the hell out of my house

That should say I was trying to dish up dinner

It's so annoying isn't it?!

I feel bad because if it was my mum or dad I wouldn't care at all. But then I suppose I don't care at all what state they see me in as they've definitely seen me worse! 🤣

Infuriating and inconsiderate

I think this is why people don’t answer the door

Just to add they did a little knock and walked straight in so I was literally lying on the sofa like a goblin when they came in the living room

I wouldn’t mind but then to be fair the only people who would ever knock on my door are people who I truly would have no issue with being there anyway.

If PIL were at the door I’d feel differently, but for them to turn up at the door the world would have to be ending so I’d have bigger worries😂

What time was it?
I am quite relaxed about family/friends popping in, after about 10.00 a.m. so I have had my first coffee.

You are only being unreasonable if you don’t casually ask them to give you a heads up when they are popping over in future.

Sometimes I think I'm too introverted and rigid, then I read stuff like this where your fil and bil come round unannounced, do a little knock and WALK RIGHT IN and think, thank fuck my friends and family know to only call me if someone is on death's door or dead, and never ever come by unannounced.

Time for a latch on inside of the front door op.

I used to work from home from the early 2000s up to lockdown so had to have firm boundaries or people (by people I mainly mean one particularly pushy relative) would try and turn up like this.

If you state your boundaries people only do this shit once!!

Why can’t people call or text first? I’ve never understood that. Is it to catch you on the hop? Piss off. F rude

That is so intrusive!

And it's one reason why I'd never have a front door that people can just open and walk in.

I have some family that do this so I always feel the need to have the house and me some way decent. That in no way means we are perfect, just that I won't be ashamed when someone turns up.

It's an inconvenience but at the same time I'm happy that they feel welcome and thay they can just turn up.

I'm one of those MNetters that doesn't answer my front door unless I know someone is coming.

My door would have been locked, they are both very rude to do this imo, I would have marched them both right back out whilst telling them it's not a convenient time.

@Canipetthatdawg78 No !! door locked from now on how rude of them

I don't think it's rude, all my family do this, and I do this to my family. If I was in my pj's so what I would just go and put the kettle on. We live in a small village and everyone just "pops in" .

YANU. I would be irritated too. It’s very rude of them to just turn up unannounced like that.

Easy. Keep your door locked. If someone knocks, feel free to ignore or answer the door and send them on their way if you so wish. It’s not difficult.

I presume the husband lives there as it's his house as well? so he can answer instead?

I totally get the people saying they wouldn't mind it. Honestly on a more normal day it probably wouldn't have annoyed me at all.

It's just one of those sleepy kind of days where I kept thinking right - go and sort the house and yourself and the kids and the more I tried to make myself do it the less inclined I was 😂

We are very close but it just made me feel so exposed and embarrassed of how I looked. I felt indecent 😂

Where was your dh? I would've told my dh to take them out somewhere.

So why not lock the door?

But OP says the door was unlocked so they walked straight in.

I would hate people walking into my house so my door is always locked. I can then answer and make an excuse if I can't be arsed, or let them in if it's someone I'm happy to see.

We had a delivery a little bit earlier and I just didn't think to lock it again. It wasn't a conscious decision 🤣

The house is kind of out of the way and if we're all in I don't worry too much about having the door unlocked really - definitely something I need to change!

No one comes to our house unless prearranged. I’d be in a constant state of anxiety and unrest if I thought at any moment someone could walk in. I’m aware that’s not the norm to feel that way, but for me it’s a definite no. I need this protected space to be myself and not feel under pressure.

I'm 100% heeding the advice to keep the door locked from now on!