Family holiday, my parents gifted to me and are now saying my brother doesn’t have to pay

[FamilyHolidayTroubles]

My adult brother and I are going on a trip with my parents. It was said from the start that we had to pay for ourselves, and every month I’ve been putting aside a certain amount to make sure that I had my share covered, and all of my spending money for the trip.

I recently passed some very important professional exams, so my parents said they’d pay for my share of the trip - essentially gifting me my saved money back.

They’ve now said though that it would be unfair if my brother had to pay. Turns out he told my mum the other week that he’s not saved any money and wouldn’t be able to afford to go. AIBU to think this is a bit unfair? We’ve had over a year to save, and if he didn’t bother surely that’s his problem, not mine?

Good point. I’d have €570 for £500 on my Revolut card today and that’s after the weekend exchange fee. Still, OP has a bonus £3k so what’s £50 wasted?

I feel a bit of a twit now for swallowing this nonsense.

Do we know if she put the 3K into a regular saver to get a decent interest rate. Or is she always bad with money?

I understand where you are coming from OP, people can me a bit mean on here, don’t take it personally.
Congratulations on passing your exams!! Spend the money you saved on something nice for yourself to celebrate ❤️

Don't forget the murder!

We've given OP a wealth of useful advice, the least she can do is tell us more about the murder...

The writing style is remarkably similar to the OP of this thread, who also happens to be 26 and to despise her brother.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5378645-im-really-going-to-fall-out-with-my-brother-over-a-family-holiday?page=14&reply=146789226

Fuck me @FamilyHolidayTroubles - they’re treating you like shit?

Totally understand where youre coming from. Probably this is not a fresh issue about how your parents treat you and your brother. He probably was treated like this before and rewarded for being irresponsible while you were hold accountable to your actions and suffered the consequences. You mentioned that you wouldn't have expeted to be taken on this holiday if you haven't saved up, yet your brother was invited for free.
I get all that.
But please , if you want to have some good time, and enjoy this family holiday, please put this behind you and enjoy your time away.
When you get back, you have your savings to look forward to.
Your parents decided to treat you equally regardless of the different efforts you both made for this trip.
Next time your parents what to organise a holiday like this, decline it from beginning and make your own plans as probably will end up int the same situation where your brother will have nothing to show for while you'd be working your bottom off to save and have your money.
Be gracious, accept your gift and enjoy your time with your family. One day consequences will catch up with your brother too.

And now you've got a lovely chunk of money that you can spend on whatever you like! You haven't lost anything.

Why should your parents reward you because you passed exams though? Surely the reward is that you passed and you now have the professional qualification you need.
My DD has also worked extremely hard to get a professional qualification at the same time as working full time and bringing up her children. We were happy for her she is amazing and we told her that. She would think it extremely odd if we gave her money for doing it! And if we paid for her to come on holiday with us we would also pay for our other child

Stop point scoring. It’s immature.

Same 😂

Maybe it was all a ruse by the parents to get her to save enough for a deposit and a bit of rent so she’ll leave.

That’s nuts. If you just paid for things with your normal debit or credit card you would have saved a load of money. If I spend €513 on my credit or debit card or withdrew it from an ATM abroad, it would cost less than £450. This is why most people don’t buy currency in advance any more. It’s a pointless waste of money.

OP, you really, really need to move out. It reads like your family dynamic has stalled for the last 10 years and you and your brother are stuck in teenage 'but it's not faaaaaair' mode.
It'd do you the world of good to remove yourself from that situation and start to build an adult relationship with your brother and with your parents.

Exactly!
It’d be most unfair not to tell, breaks at least 5 of my rules and I think counts as fraud

You mean they WON’T want to be housing that sunny, easy-going disposition indefinitely?

I get it OP. They made you believe you needed to earn your holiday (by saying they would pay as a reward for your exams), but rewarded your brother for failing to financially plan. The fact that the outcome is the same doesn't change the intention behind it.

Do they have form for this?

Of course, horrible people! But op to have pater funded fun day out that's sneaky peaky... all good!!

I feel like getting euros before your trip is pretty old fashioned. We're just back from Spain and just paid for stuff with using our watches on Apple pay.

Yep, pretty much.

I think in some ways they do, but I’ve also always just had more pressure on me - my GCSEs weren’t good enough because I got a b, but my brother’s b’s and c’s were incredible. I got a 2:1 at uni but I was so close to a first that “if I’d just tried harder” it would’ve been better, meanwhile my brother got a 2:2 and the sun shines out of his arsehole

100% that's OP. The inconsistencies are wild! She needs to get a grip. Lying to convince the internet she is a victim of free holidays.

My bank charges so I use a travel card. Is that acceptable to your highness?

I suggest you lose the snarky attitude displayed in your replies to comments before you start/continue your career. I guessed your exams were the SQE before I saw your comment due to your patronising attitude and replying in capitals to people 🙄

Get over your temper tantrum, enjoy the holiday with your parents and lose the attitude or you wont last long in the real world.

Signed ex lawyer of 20 years

You haven't actually lost anything just because someone else gets something for nothing.