Family holiday, my parents gifted to me and are now saying my brother doesn’t have to pay

[FamilyHolidayTroubles]

My adult brother and I are going on a trip with my parents. It was said from the start that we had to pay for ourselves, and every month I’ve been putting aside a certain amount to make sure that I had my share covered, and all of my spending money for the trip.

I recently passed some very important professional exams, so my parents said they’d pay for my share of the trip - essentially gifting me my saved money back.

They’ve now said though that it would be unfair if my brother had to pay. Turns out he told my mum the other week that he’s not saved any money and wouldn’t be able to afford to go. AIBU to think this is a bit unfair? We’ve had over a year to save, and if he didn’t bother surely that’s his problem, not mine?

Don't need to buy euros at all these days. Complete non issue.

Everytime you say something, you out yourself as the worst kind if person. Im so glad I dont have to interact with you

He probably just wants a quiet life.

Best post today. Well spotted! Holidays have to have the balances paid at least 6 weeks before.

@FamilyHolidayTroubles Can I lightly suggest a reframe in your mind?

Massive congratulations on the professional exams and working hard to improve your future! You now have a nice free holiday with your whole family to look forward to, not a present for the exams as you had hoped but potentially the last family holiday so one to celebrate nonetheless.

The £3k savings is reframed as your personal reward for this, others may suggest putting it in a S&S ISA for medium term investing, I however would frivolously play the long game to celebrate the jump start of your new career by sticking it all in a pension. That £3k in 30 years is at least £30k based on a compound interest calculator and represents at least £170pm extra every month from the age of 60 (more if you retire later). An ongoing amazing exam present from you to future you.

Now, with all kindness intended, through gritted teeth apologise if you have aired this grumble to your family already, drop it and enjoy the last or one of the final holidays with the family and just think of the long term here. You have done amazing x

No I agree, I haven’t bought currency in years. It was just the discrepancy between ‘the balance is due this weekend’ and ‘it’s too late to order euros’ than confused me.

I get where you’re coming from but just be grateful you got a holiday fully paid for plus your £3k.
your brother might be the favourite child, but he also sounds like he’s really bad with money. Maybe your parents wanted both their kids on holiday with them - Presumably they’re getting older and they won’t be so many of these. Think of this as something that they did for themselves, not for your brother.

Oh yes I was agreeing with you 😂

Then pension idea is great btw or stocks and shares

Wait until someone eats some of her food or leaves the kitchen like a shit pit and see what she needs to gripe about the most.

Going on hols for free whilst being supported by loving parents will feel incredible then.

Because they’re not five?

“Treat” for doing well?

Whilst OP did well with her exams, maybe her brothers report said he showed a lot of kindness?

FGS, it’s a family holiday the parents have decided to pay for.

OP is so ungrateful for the situation, maybe sometime in the naughty step until she realises she needs to be kind.

He might have agreed with you, because you put him in an awkward position by even having this conversation with him in the first place.

But ask yourself, do you really think your father feels that it’s unfair that his own son should get to come along on holiday with him, because he isn’t as wonderful as you are?

You really think your father would prefer to have the holiday without his son?

He agreed
but appears to have kept mute in discussions with his wife about inviting his son

A lot of this sad situation with the Op will be down to piss poor parenting for many years

They may have always planned to pay but didn't say anything as they wanted to encourage your brother to save up some money and be as responsible as you have been. It may never have been about you

The most enjoyable rubbish I've read in ages.

Takes me back to when my kids were little.

I agree. Be glad you and your brother have generous parents and enjoy yourselves. Just think, you've saved money for a year and it's all yours to do what you like with! I'd be delighted in your shoes and would merely think it was nice that your parents are doing the same for you and your brother. Not everyone has parents who can afford this sort of thing, or want to, so make the most of it. Everything has turned out well for you.

Same but makes mine look like The Walton's now 😂

I'm going to scream and scream until I'm sick! Horrible Mummy and Daddy are paying for me to go on holiday and the beastly devils are going to pay for my ghastly little brother to come too, instead of leaving him at home like he deserves! It's not fair!

For goodness sake, get a grip. You have passed some exams and saved some money (that you can now spend on anything you like). It's no big deal. You haven't achieved anything out of the ordinary. You haven't singlehandedly banished war, starvation and homelessness.

Everything you have achieved will benefit you more than anyone else. No self-sacrifice has been involved.

You are being breathtakingly ungrateful for your parents generous offer. The way you are behaving is unlikely to make them want to do anything else for you. Don't spoil it by being an ungrateful brat.

And now you can use the money for something great. I think parents should be fair, it's right they are paying for you both.

Yes, I do. I get along a lot better with my dad than my brother does. We have a lot of shared interests and my dad gets very pissed off with my brother and his lack of work ethic.

He probably agreed to avoid another OP tantrum!

Aparrently when me and my late sibling were small, I used to experience nuclear meltdown if they DARED to look out MY window in the car.

My mum could never understand why this was important but perhaps the OP can relate. 😅

Delusional.

Your father loves your brother. You are just going to have to deal with it.

For fucks sake grow up, will you.

Its their money, they can do what they like and the brother is obviously the favorite child and they want him there.

This thread wins the internet!

It’s like a game of entitled narcissist bingo!

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