Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

[theoneortwo]

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

I suspect you'll be one of many OP, sorry

lol

Oh dear, OP. A tale as old as time.

As long as you don’t have a dd who needs a kidney transplant….

Could be nothing, could be a fling you remember for the rest of your life

I cannot imagine running my potential holidays shags past my mum and dad, however.

I think you should listen to your dad

Happy Friday

So don't sleep with him or give him money.

He wants a British passport or a shag, or if it continues he will turn into a religious mysoginistic pig. Please let us know in the next few months

She can sleep with him if she fucking wants. Two consenting adults. Jfc.

I am definitely not going to be sleeping with him, that’s NOT at all on my agenda! 🤣

I am just torn as to if I should give him the chance and go for dinner. He even asked my mum and dad for their permission to take me - which is when my dad said no and mum said yes..

Listen to ya daddy

How could you spot Red Flags after such small time together?
surely the Red Flag is him asking a tourist out?
hate to be the one to say it but…UK visa fishing?.

Have dinner by all means but don't entertain any offers of visiting you or requests for money or anything beyond bye when you fly home.

Don’t be so gullible. He wants a British passport.

I’d go along with your dad!!

Go for it, keep us posted ☺️

Meh, have a bit of fun while you’re on holiday. Leave it there! Do not continue contact back home.

Absolutely nothing sexual without condoms.

Try not to get carried away planning a future etc on the basis of a possible dinner...!
I would go, have fun but not expect much

Oh OP please don't fall for this particularly if you're vulnerable or feeling lonely at the moment. Listen to your dad on this one. Enjoy the rest of your holiday.

I’ve got friends that have met the love of their lived abroad, married with children and lovely happy lives - so I know it CAN happen.. but I just never thought it would happen to me!

I guess there is the risk of him wanting a visa / passport etc but again having spoken to my friends about their journeys with their partners, I know the ins and outs of the process and it is NOT at all easy. And not something I’d be willing to do!

Awww, mate........ Come on.

Dads are best placed to know exactly what men think like. All he will be interested in is getting his leg over with someone who will have to fuck off back home in a few days. He's probably married with kids OP. I wouldn't bother. I know someone who worked as a holiday rep in Turkey married a Turkish man and had a kid with him. Needless to say it didn't end well.

I met a French guy on a night out in Barcelona years ago. We had a fairly intense long distance fling for a few months until I found out he was seeing someone else back in France and dumped him. But it was fun at the time and I got some travelling out of it.

So I say as long as you keep your expectations of it turning into anything meaningful or long-lasting low, have fun and enjoy it!

Grow up

I don't want to derail this thread but there's nothing charming about a guy asking your parents for permission to take you out