Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

[theoneortwo]

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

Why wasn’t her approval good enough?

I can't believe that you wasted so many people's time with a dishonest post.

I don't believe one word of any of this.

Dads are rarely wrong on these things.

Have you read the news? Run a mile.

You haven’t proved anyone wrong. Your experience was unusual and you were lucky . How about concentrating on your idyllic marriage rather than posting fake news on Mumsnet?

I’m in my 60s too. My husband and I are atheists but we try to be respectful of all religions. My son in law is a Muslim. The fact that he asked for approval to marry my daughter doesn’t mean that anyone was ‘having the final say’ in whether they got married. He was following his own cultural expectation in asking, and we appreciated him doing that.

Agreed.

And yet mumsnet have checked it out apparently and re-allowed it despite the OP accusing naysayers as racists.

Makes you wonder….

How could you say that?

OP is a beautiful blonde bikini Barbie babe.

She goes to Turkey and meets super sculptured Muslim Ken.

True love conquers all.

Anyone who says this isn't the romance of a century is an unkind and racist troll.

My mums Turkish, BTW. She's 80.

I showed her this post and she was most struck by the OPs lack of culture discernment locally.

She said: "of course the bums on the beach will chase a British whippet on the sand for free drinks. This is not Turkey."

So there you go.

A cultural expectation which is inherently misogynistic.
Declaring it a ‘cultural expectation’ doesn’t negate that fact.

How long is it until he gets his British passport and citizenship?

I wouldn't crow too much yet. Folk are only wary because of past experiences and if this is genuine then I wish you the best, but please do not become financially dependent on this man in a strange country.

There are a lot of cultural differences including religion, women's rights, raising your children, your role in the relationship, his parents, money being allocated to different family members etc.

I have a little experience of these matters as a family member had a negative experience with a Middle Eastern partner. I hope the future is rosy for you, but please take care.

🤣

British whippet. Haha.

We’re closing this thread now - thanks to all who reported. Deliberately misleading posts make it harder for others to give sensible advice and waste everyone's precious time - and no one likes feeling hoodwinked.