DP embarrasing me over periods

[Bluebirdies]

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

In what other ways is he verbally abusive OP? Do you feel safe to leave?

He does it because he’s a bully and likes to undermine and humiliate you by the way. Sounds like he hates women.

Why are you even with this unpleasant knob?

I’ll put my hands up and say people might think this is an overreaction but that would give me the ick and I don’t think I’d continue the relationship. He sounds like a 13 year old school boy.

If you ever want children, a lot more happens, trust me…

He’s a misogynist. Sorry to say. You should wait until he’s done a poo in the bathroom and then tell him how disgusting he is.

He needs to grow up, periods r not embarrassing and grown men shouldn’t be saying eww or anything of the sort. No doubt he’s the type that would be embarrassed to pick u up a packet of pads/tampons 🙄 I’d be telling him to wise up asap !

Kudos to you for having a 17-year-old toy boy. That’s the only explanation for his childishness.

He’s an arsehole.

I’d tell him ONCE that this shit had to stop.

Then I’d leave him. He’s shaming a fundamental part of being a woman.

I really could not be with someone so stupid and immature.

That's not a man, on any level.

I'd tell him to stop being so fucking immature and that his 'jokes' are reminiscent of a 12 year olds, which makes it very hard to find him attractive. He needs to grow up.

It’s incredibly unattractive to be so weirded out by normal bodily functions. Tbh there are women who are incredibly weird about ejaculation, periods, peeing or pooing - do you have any issues there, or did his mum?

Id have a bit of a shout about this. You deserve not to feel this way. You also deserve to feel you’re not with a complete child.

This is a red flag. Get out now. I know loads of men and none of them are grossed out by periods and would never speak to their partner like that.
You deserve better. Is being with this shit head really better than being single?

@Bluebirdies How old is he?? 12?????? tell him to get rid of those disgusting razors in his bathroom.

I've known teenage lads be more mature about period. Leave.

I think this is diabolical and he needs pulling up on it.

Can I just defend teenage boys for a minute. The majority of teenage boys are totally blase about girls taking pads to the bathroom to change. When one boy did say eeww, they (group of 14 year old boys) turned around and told him to shut up because 50% of the population has periods, including his mum. Genuinely one of my fave moments in teaching 🤣

Nah sorry! That would be me done. What a pathetic man child he is.

Are you married to an 8 year old boy?

What grown adult would shame or make a woman feel embarrassed about normal bodily functions.

When I suffer with period cramps my husband asks what he can do to help. Whether that’s getting me a hot water bottle or popping to the shop for chocolate.

Look him in the eye and remind him of his mum didn’t have periods he wouldn’t exist and so to get over it!

Yeah ick. So childish. Get rid.

This made me chuckle.. my DD and her boyfriend have been together a couple of years. He came to see her on her 17th birthday after college and brought her some tampax and her favourite sweets as she had come on that day. He doesn’t bat an eyelid buying any from Tesco when she needs them.

But yeah, echoing this, what an immature child!

You are young and have plenty of time to find someone better. Can I suggest that you try an adult next time.

Nah, I’ve got a 17 year old DS. He’s far too mature to behave in such a way over something as natural as menstruation.

Society still sees periods as disgusting.

Anyone ive ever told about having my period has seen it as disgusting.

You just need to call it out each time it happens:

• Are you intentionally trying to embarrass me
• Something has to be funny for it to be a joke
• Do you want your future DD to be treated like this in the future
• Did you not get taught about Biology at school, do you need to educate yourself now?

What grown adult would shame or make a woman feel embarrassed about normal bodily functions.

Have a read of the thread on farts, @DaisyChain505 There are an alarming number of people who can't cope with normal bodily functions.

OP he sounds incredibly immature. I couldn't be with someone like this.