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DP embarrasing me over periods

284 replies

Bluebirdies · 28/08/2025 16:13

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 28/08/2025 16:29

How pathetic of him.
My 10 year old son knows better than to react that way at the mere mention of periods.

I bet your boyfriend is a dick in other ways too isn’t he op?

Cakeandcardio · 28/08/2025 16:31

My DH never even carried on like this when we were 17...

FOJN · 28/08/2025 16:31

I could not be with such an immature man. I've had relationships with one or two less than perfect specimens but never one who has behaved like a child about periods.

autumncalling · 28/08/2025 16:32

Applebun · 28/08/2025 16:27

Society still sees periods as disgusting.

Anyone ive ever told about having my period has seen it as disgusting.

Really?! I mean, they aren't exactly pleasant but I don't know anyone who would react the way OP's partner did.

Homeandfireworks · 28/08/2025 16:32

Bluebirdies · 28/08/2025 16:13

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

tell him that if he isn’t supportive or nice or normal about it - he can fuck off for good as he isn’t even behaving as a 10 year old.

My daughter was having a bad period last week and her 11 year old brother ran her a warm bath, made her a hot chocolate without being asked - as that’s what you do if someone isn’t well. He is 11.

Lurkingandlearning · 28/08/2025 16:33

As @HollyGolightly4 said, even teenage boys don’t behave like that. Most of them. It’s really weird for a grown man to be grossed out by something so natural, even cramps. I think he must have a warped view of women

MyMilchick · 28/08/2025 16:33

Is he 12?

MyGreyStork · 28/08/2025 16:35

Dump. This man is a child if he thinks periods are gross and makes a joke about it. Stop wasting your time.

Zov · 28/08/2025 16:35

God, he sounds about 12. What hideously repugnant behaviour. I don't think I could get past this. Does he giggle when he sees your titties too? And your front bottom? Hmm

What an arse!

NimbleDreamer · 28/08/2025 16:36

Alexa play Manchild by Sabrina Carpenter.

(And LTB, OP!)

godmum56 · 28/08/2025 16:36

oh its the "just bantz" excuse. Kick this one to the kerb

ThisNattyTurtle · 28/08/2025 16:38

I'd sit him down and calmly and thoroughly explain that he needs to jump the brain-maturity gap from 13 to 30 immediately on this topic. And if needed I would ask him how he would feel if you said 'ewww' every time the thought of his bodily fluids came up. "Oh baby I'm soo close" - 'ewwwww'. And then if needed I would proceed to do just that til he shaped up.

PrivateMusic · 28/08/2025 16:39

He’s an immature prick. I’d get rid.

holrosea · 28/08/2025 16:41

Jokes are supposed to be funny...?

Dump this idiot. Even if, at best, the first time he thought he was making a joke, you say this has been going on for a while so he's clearly not listening or willing to adapt his behaviour appropriately.

You are 30. If he wants a sexual relationship with an adult woman, there will be periods. If he cannot deal with this knowledge then he should not be dating.

TryingToBeHelpful267 · 28/08/2025 16:41

If he’s not a teenager he needs to grow up and stop being so pathetically childish.

You’re 30 op come on, why are you even tolerating this crap?

Isometimeswonder · 28/08/2025 16:42

Don't have kids with him.
Imagine how he'd body shame a daughter.

AardvarkaKedavra · 28/08/2025 16:42

If he's not mature enough to stop pulling faces and making disgusted noises over the idea of menstruation then he's not mature enough for sex. That's what I'd tell him IF you're not so turned off that you're no longer interested in him.

I'd keep a sharp eye out for other ways he may be trying to belittle you or make you feel insecure.

It's reasonable enough for him to not want to talk in depth about your period, imo, but casual references to it are part of life with most women, and he should be able to control his distaste for blood (or whatever it is that's bothering him) enough to avoid making you feel bad about it.

Sandiega · 28/08/2025 16:43

Superhansrantowindsor · 28/08/2025 16:21

This is a red flag. Get out now. I know loads of men and none of them are grossed out by periods and would never speak to their partner like that.
You deserve better. Is being with this shit head really better than being single?

Also calling red flag. Don't waste your time with someone like this, OP.

Mrsttcno1 · 28/08/2025 16:43

Unless the drip feed is that he’s actually 14 he needs to grow up and fast.

I’d also add that if you plan on having kids he definitely isn’t the one to do that with. If he’s this upset about a period then he certainly isn’t a man you want to go through pregnancy & postpartum with.

Crinkle77 · 28/08/2025 16:44

CreteBound · 28/08/2025 16:15

In what other ways is he verbally abusive OP? Do you feel safe to leave?

Don't be ridiculous. He sounds like an immature plonker but hardly abusive.

Account734 · 28/08/2025 16:45

Do not have children with this man. If he can't handle a period he definitely can't handle pregnancy and children. He sounds like a childish teenager. Not sure how you stand him.

Shessweetbutapsycho · 28/08/2025 16:45

CreteBound · 28/08/2025 16:15

In what other ways is he verbally abusive OP? Do you feel safe to leave?

Overreaction much??
from the information presented the partner sounds extremely immature, tactless and very uneducated, but it’s hardly abuse?

Mewling · 28/08/2025 16:45

What a cunt. Chuck him in the sea, OP.

ginasevern · 28/08/2025 16:45

FOJN · 28/08/2025 16:31

I could not be with such an immature man. I've had relationships with one or two less than perfect specimens but never one who has behaved like a child about periods.

Same here.

MayaPinion · 28/08/2025 16:47

Does he not know how women’s bodies work? Could he find a clitoris on a map? He probably thinks it’s in Illinois. Twat.