DP embarrasing me over periods

[Bluebirdies]

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

and you have sex wit this manchild? Urgh.

He sounds too immature to be in a relationship. Why are you with him?

I implore you to do better!

Imagine having a daughter with this numpty!! Now imagine her embarrassment aged 10/11 and she gets her first period!!

Chuck this one back!

I’m afraid I too hate the cheap fragrance of the Always towels. I do think it’s quite strong if you have a good sense of smell. They do sensitive ones without the fragrance.

It’s the sort of thing that used to be standard “joke” material, but most men have cottoned on to the fact it’s misogynistic. Have you actually said to him “Don’t joke about it like that, it’s misogynistic and makes me feel shitty.”?

If no, I would try that assuming everything else is fine.

If you have or do and he continues, I would reconsider the relationship. What other misogynistic attitudes is he holding? If he doesn’t have the respect and love for you to pull himself back from this small and obvious thing, it can only be the tip of the iceberg.

By contrast, in adulthood I've never had a male friend, partner or relative who was grossed out by periods.

My dad was completely nonchalant about this stuff when I was a kid, and he was born in the 1940s, ffs! He'd be doing the weekly supermarket shop and I'd ask him to add tampons to the list and he'd go 'Is it you who has the non-applicator ones or is that your sister, I can never remember'. My brother has also always been very unbothered about such things.

Er gay men aren't automatically disgusted by periods? This seems like a deeply homophobic take.

Eurgh, couldn't be with someone so childish over periods. It's all much messier when you have children and you don't want to be with someone who can't handle basic biology!

Is everyone you know immature? Periods are never nice to have because of the pain and discomfort that comes with it but why do people find it disgusting.

As long as hygiene/disposal of products is maintained correctly it should be a non issue.

how does his attitude not give you the ick OP?

I'm amazed anyone can fancy men like this once their true colours are revealed.

That is suck a weird and icky response from your DH.
@BauhausOfEliott My dad was the same. Born in the early 40s, and not remotely fazed at being sent out for tampons or sanitary towels, any more than my mum would be about picking up shaving foam. It's just another bathroom product.

My DH helped me change my maternity pads while i was struggling to bend after a c section. Your DP needs to do better.

What a man-child. Is he this immature in other ways? Does he have any redeeming features in other ways? I would think very carefully about having his children. Apart from the fact that periods are somewhat fundamental to the ability to have babies, how on earth will he cope with all the fluids that babies tend to discharge?

Loving your user name @HighLadyofTheNightCourt and I feel the need to point out that in one of the ACOTAR exclusive bonus chapters (I think for ACOSF?) that are available online, there is a scene where Feyre is having a horrendous time with her period and Rhysand is a) very sympathetic about her awful cramps and b) completely unfazed when she bleeds on to their sheets. What a man! 😍

Nothing more to say than what’s already been said.

complete Man baby … super unattractive.

Yes!!! ❤️Rhysand❤️
I’ve noticed Sarah J Maas mentions periods in a few of her books and the men always behave admirably and are unfazed by them.

He’s a nasty person who has no comprehension of what women have to put up with each month

i would be absolutely loosing my rag at him, telling him in great detail the pain we have to put up with, the constant changing of pads, tampax, mooncups whatever , the issue of being caught short suddenly and that’s comments like his are the last straw

he does it again and we are over

Throw this one back. As others have said, men not being able to cope with periods is a huge red flag (appropriately enough).

Man-child

Very juvenile and pathetic way to behave.

I would ask him exactly what the joke is because he sounds less like a comedian and more like a teenage boy who is scared of women’s bodies.

I haven't RTFT yet so apologies if this has already been posted.

@Bluebirdies if you are feeling generous buy him this https://www.redschool.net/blog/a-mans-guide-to-the-menstrual-cycle-feat-alexandra-pope-and-sjanie-hugo-wurlitzer#:~:text=Subtotal-,A%20Man's%20Guide%20to%20the%20Menstrual%20Cycle%20(feat.,Pope%20and%20Sjanie%20Hugo%20Wurlitzer)

If you are feeling honest tell him to stfu and grow up

If you are feeling like giveing a taste of his own medicine next time he cuts himself, gets a bruise , snotty sneezes create a huge fuss at how disgusting he is

To me it sounds a deliberate attempt to demean you, to make himself feel ? powerful, superior…the idea of someone saying this to me in my home makes my skin crawl. It’s just plain nasty and not someone to partner with 🤢

Into the bin with this one, OP. This is not how a loving partner behaves.

He's not joking.

He's a misogynist who is repulsed by the workings of a woman's body and shows it.

This dude needs to be taken out with the trash.

Im not saying he behaved in a particularly kind or mature way (quite the opposite), however at no point does she say her partner has been calling her disgusting. Your overreaction and labelling him abusive for looking at her a certain way really diminishes the experiences of those who have genuinely experienced abuse.