DP embarrasing me over periods

[Bluebirdies]

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

How insulting!!! My 8 year old son would never “eww” if someone has a period.

You’re mixing with the wrong people.

No, he just screwed his face up and said "ew" - basically the same thing.

A decent man would help his partner, not behave like that.

anyone bleeding I would find gross but he doesn't need to be like that with you

If your lovely DP’s Mother had not had periods he would not exist.

Something to think about

I don’t think the poster is making the point that gay men find periods disgusting - I think it’s that if he were in a relationship with a man he wouldn’t have to be grossed out once a month !!

I mean he's an idiot obviously but there are plenty of people of both sexes who cannot cope with the idea of poo (cant do that anywhere but home apparently and its disgusting if you do), snot, coughing, phlegm needing to be coughed up, periods, farts, hairy legs or armpits, facial hair (men and womens faces)

The list is endless.

This is forum that regularly has people boasting that they wash their towels a billion times a week

And people are surprised about this mans reactiona nd putting it in the category of him being male? Its not because he's male, its because he is immature.

Why?

Why should Op train this misogynistic idiot to behave like a decent human?

Being in a relationship with a twat is not mandatory

But it’s not the same though… I don’t want to get into a back and forth but let’s be clear about what we’re calling “abuse” here? It wasn’t decent of him, I agree, but that doesn’t make it abuse

Agree, @soupyspoon.

Many people today have become strangely squeamish and dainty about everyday human biology. I find it rather odd.

In fairness, I never said it was abuse. He is calling her disgusting though, just through his actions rather than his words.

She’s not actually showing him her period blood. He reacted to the word ‘period’.

That level of immaturity would be the death knell, how mortifying for him to be acting like a nine year old, I would be cringing for him. What a dick.

Nailed it.

This. Reeeallly hoping OP says this is a new (soon to be old) relationship and not a guy she’s been with for five years and two children.

I was just about to comment similar. Can we stop comparing this immature man to pre-teen and teen boys? Not all are like that. I have an 11 year old boy and he has seen san pro since birth. His sister started her periods a year ago and he’s seen when she has flooded and just asked if she was okay and needed a hot water bottle.

Don’t refer to him as “DP”. He’s not a partner. A partner would not do this. If he’s mature enough for a serious relationship then he’s mature enough to realize that periods are a natural occurrence for women. He’s obviously not mature enough for a relationship. He’s not a partner. He’s a childish flatmate that you foolishly have sex with.

Get rid. You can do so much better.

You shouldn’t have children with a man who feels this way. My husband had to help me with all intimate care after baby was born, soaked bloody pads, etc etc. He isn’t good with blood (nor am I! Even my own) but never once made me feel gross.

How do you not have the ick.

I've known 10 year olds more mature.

Toss him back OP

Is he 12?

He sounds weak

Ltb x

So he's a child then. Having said that my DS when he was a child didn't have this reaction once he'd found out that periods happen.

I couldn't be with someone like that. He's telling you that you are less than him.

Does he know that you also pee and poo? Sweat? Other normal bodily functions?
If he can't cope with periods he is not a long term reliable partner. Can you imagine how he would (not) cope with childbirth?

TLDR? He's a bellend.

Chiming back in to add that I've had partners who aren't keen on intimacy during menstruation (and that's ok) but I've never had a partner express/feign disgust at the fact that I have periods.

I once got my period when out in a bright green bodycon dress (commando 😱) when at lunch with my then partner. He popped across the road to buy a box of tampons. Of course they only had a jumbo pack & the ones I couldn't fit in my handbag he stuffed into his pockets & walked around all afternoon like a ladies vending machine. We laughed about it for months.

People usually wash to avoid BO, clear their bum holes of poo and clean themselves of urine