DP embarrasing me over periods

[Bluebirdies]

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

Most people are neutral about them

YOU are not neutral about them. You are actively unhappy to hear about them and grossed out by hearing about them.

I am not neutral about women suffering thousands of years of misogynistic disgust over periods and still reading in 2025 about women who find other women mentioning them nauseating, though they have periods themselves, and freely expressing that view, though you certainly have the right.

That's why my posts sound angry.

And I don't know what do for a living, but at the bottom of the working ladder, women are still faced with issues like no adequate toilet provision being made. Having to request absence from a post (to male supervisors who make a disgusting face) to use the bathroom. Being called skivers for using the loo too frequently. Being expected to sit with a tampon in or pad on for hours, so as to not break up the shift, or until someone else can handover. Being expected to carry on if handover isn't arranged or arrives. Toilets with no pad dispensers. Toilets with no tissue. A lot of working women take the pill because they in part do not want the agro, stress and humiliation of being put in such positions. Yes in 2025, this still happens. Pads are stolen from shops because some women cannot afford them, and Welfare does not apply to women an extra £5 a month towards something they do naturally, but must pay to manage.

I have stories I can tell you, but you'd be too grossed out.

I have never expressed disgust and I agree that people shouldn't do that.

I just said that i can understand why some people get uncomfortable hearing about them

The OP isn’t exposing this man to any ‘bodily fluids’ by saying ‘I’ve got my period’.

I bet he wouldn’t be happy if she said ‘Ew, disgusting’ and recoiled away from him when they’re in bed and he tells her he’s about to come.

But this whole thread is about the OPs husband expressing disgust at her just saying she was on her period.

There is nothing wrong with a women telling her partner she’s on her period. If anyone feels uncomfortable simply hearing the word then that is their problem.

You’ve tried to suggest women are talking about them in graphic detail at work! That’s not the case, this is about being able to talk to your partner about something that causes you significant physical discomfort and pain.

The thread EVOLVED as threads do - to talking about periods in general.

Yes women have talked to me about periods in graphic detail at work.

Saying ‘eww’ isn’t verbal abuse - I do sometimes shake my head at posters on here. His behaviour is very immature, so that’s what I’d be talking to him about. Ask him why he still has a teenage boy’s silliness about women’s bodies, and tell him his ‘eww’ comments remind you of those awful religious men who view menstruating women as unclean. I’d imagine that knowing he looks rather like a childish misogynist might make him zip his lips. Why is he saying these things? Did he grow up with a family where these things weren’t discussed? No sisters? Limited experience of women?

The only thing disgusting here is you and your mysogyny

Oh grow up.

Its not misogynistic at all to say that some people get queasy when they hear about blood.

To be fair, I didn’t specifically say anything about blood. And if it did make him queasy (which to be honest he wasn’t queasy when I was giving birth) there’s no need for him to pull a disgusted face and say eww to me.

I actually have emetophobia which is a phobia of vomit. I don’t pull disgusted faces, say eww or say anything negative to him when he’s vomited in the past.