Anyone else not like doing anything?

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Would just like to preface this by saying I am definitely not depressed. Haven't got social anxiety. And have a very happy, stable marriage. And a little family.

Today we've been out on a family day, think trampolining, pedal boats, shopping, lunch at a restaurant, that sort of thing.
I strongly disliked 95% of it, for no reason.
Boats were the best thing. But everything else is just blah, overpriced and mind numbing.
This extends into all areas if my life, I have no hobbies, no interests, nothing that gets me excited, other than the boring, mundane of everyday life (being home, working, family life, Church etc) that's about all I enjoy. Sometimes going for a nice walk.

I can't stand any organised activities that I'm supposed to like, cannot for the life of me understand why people enjoy shopping, pubs, weddings, holidays, travel, cinema, hobbies, classes (like yoga) exercise, social events, parties, festivals, days out etc etc.
I don't even like books 😒

I'm not moaning, I'm just wondering if anyone else is like this? As I said, I am genuinely happy and enjoy my life, until we have to do something 'enjoyable'.

Maybe it's peri-menopause? I've always been this way inclined, but currently it has ramped up to a whole new level. I want to enjoy different experiences, I just don't. And have no desire to try and enjoy things.

I'm not in the slightest bit angry. Having an opinion on something doesn't make you angry. It's a discussion board: opinions are sought. The OP asked a question, I volunteered my opinion, as did others.

My mum was friendly and outgoing. And I used to be too, chasing experiences. I am not sitting indoors watching tv and reading the paper. I have met a friend for coffee and walked my dog, stopping to chat to people. I am going to a party tomorrow.

I am talking about hobbies, taking up new interests, going to events, day trips out, that sort of thing. Maybe I'm just not explaining it very well. I am happy at home, in my locality, seeing a few long standing friends.

But I am not into doing "stuff".

I've just thought of this and think the OP might fit the profile: Are you an otrovert? Why this personality type could be your greatest gift | Psychiatry | The Guardian

Very interesting!

I don't think so (I also read this and thought it was interesting). An otrovert is someone who is a free thinker, rebellious, an outsider but this requires the person to have their own independent thoughts, ideas and drives. OP doesn't sound like this at all. She is just someone who think very much about anything in any depth and doesn't enjoy doing anything.

What she actually sounds like to me is a bit of a nihilist (albeit one who presents very conventionally).

Hmm... maybe!

I was entertained by her post - it was hard to tell whether some was tongue-in-cheek. I agreed with organised fun being generally not fun!

The part about low motivation to try new things was a bit more worrying. But maybe her day-to-day life is geared to what she likes already, and maybe familiar routine is gratifying. It's horses for courses. I don't think she was implying that she finds her life meaningless, or that it is meaningless.

I wonder if this isn't an ADHD trait? I get bored easily which make me lack interest in things, not initially but once the novelty wears off. Also the amount of effort it takes to execute things is exhausting so it ruins the enjoyment.

This sounds like most men

Kind of.

I like pottering around my house.
I like reading.
I like watching tv.
I like cooking
I like board games

But I do need to get out the house each day. I enjoy a leisurely trip to the supermarket, but I HATE clothes shopping or any other type of shopping.

Concerts, festivals, no no no. Hate it.

Cinema I do like, in theory, in practice I do check my watch a lot to see when it’s over and I can go home, even if I like the film.

Museums and art galleries I love.

Days out with young kids - hated them. Mine are older now, but the type of day you described, with the boats etc would have been hell for me. I did them, I did all kinds of days like that, but two of my kids are neurodivergent and even the simplest, most straightforward of activity would be totally fraught.

I can remember choosing very simple activities that they couldn’t get “wrong”, and within about 30 seconds, lo and behold, they were doing the wrong thing and everybody was crying. For example, taking them to a big softplay where they could go wild to their hearts content, but all they wanted to do was swing on the magnetic safety gate to such a degree that we just had to leave. Or one boat trip where they wouldn’t stop putting their hands in the water right next to the propeller thing, despite me telling them repeatedly that it would chop their hand off.

So I guess that’s why I hated any outing and maybe I’m still recovering from those years to be honest, because they were both traumatic and draining.

So I can relate, to an extent, but I think you are somewhat extreme as you don’t even like reading.