To think son should protect his interests

[GiddyOrca]

My son has told me he is considering leaving his wife and wanted to know if he could return home - I said yet.

He has fleetingly mentioned issues within the marriage in the past, but I hadn't realised his were so bad.

They are undertaking a large and expensive home refurbishment which has gone drastically wrong - incomplete, behind schedule and over budget, which has caused the relationship to go into free fall.

We are NC with his wife, and she with us, so we won't be able to discuss this with her.

My son says his plan is to continue to pay the mortgage and bills whilst he'll living with us, but I don't see how he could do this long term. He is effectively penniless, despite having a well paying job.

There are 3 children involved, so I'd like him to speak to a solicitor to understand his position.

The wife is probably similar in personality to you OP - it tends to be how it goes with men.

What I don't understand is- if she's a bully and therefore an abuser as your drip posts suggest, why is he considering leaving the children with her? Why are you not more (apparently) worried about the welfare of those kids? Is there not a way he can stay in the house with the kids - assume the lion's share of responsibility for them - and she can move out and pick up her career?

If my son had kids with, and then left them with, an abusive bully to save himself I would be bitterly disappointed in him.

@JustPinkFinch He needs a loan to finish the building work so dropping hours isn’t possible. He will have to do more childcare after separation though and I assume he’ll want to avoid CMS.