Why does he remember everything I post

[Janelizzy]

I have been talking to a man from out of state intermittently. I don’t take it seriously; the conversation is enjoyable, and we have a lot in common, but I don’t have high expectations for it.

I’ve noticed that he remembers everything I post on social media and brings it up. If we go a week or two without talking, he reminds me about my posts. For example, I posted a picture of my cousin's arm while we were out for dinner, and he mentioned that I go on dates. When I denied it, he responded, saying, “You were on a date last week; arm on your story.” I can hardly keep track of my own social media, so how does he remember everything I post?

I recently told him that I haven’t had a drink in months, and he responded, “You had drinks a few weeks ago; you posted it.” He seems to remember everything—every picture and every quote. I have watched so many movies on Tubi; maybe I’m overreacting since I haven’t even met him yet. However, if I decide to take a leap and see him, are these concerns valid?

The he started bringing up other women while I was on the phone with him

He’ll be like “I’m tired of stupid women, why is this girl texting me”.

“The restaurant you showed me, I know the girl that works there”

“On the plane they have barf bags, when I was on vacation with this girl she used one”

later that day he called me
update he called me later that night, I’m visiting his state soon cause I have a family reunion down there planned. He sent me some hotel suggestions, yet got soo upset when I wouldn’t tell him what hotel I’m staying out. He said well why are you being weird why won’t you tell me what room you’re staying out he was almost yelling. Then told me that I didn’t need to rent a car, that I could just drive his …..

I know this is all over the place but why is he acting like this ….. why does he care especially since he said he’s not looking for anything serious

Take yourself out of this situation and block. Please see how sinister all this is. Listen to all the pps.

He's standing in a field full of red flags, holding a big red flag in each hand, and another stuck up his *rse 🚩

He's spelling out ''I'm a walking red flag'' in semaphore, using red flags.

I don't think it's strange to remember what someone posts. I could probably list what my close friends have posted over the last few weeks. There are plenty of other concerns in your post and you're not really in to him so just end it.

The remembering stuff, that's not all that odd, I have one of those good memories and remember not only peoples posts and emails but also conversations verbatim - a lot of people can do that without trying.

However the rest of your story, hotel etc, as others have said, I would strongly suggest moving away from this relationship and breaking contact.

He's rubbing a big red flag all over your face, OP.

I assume he knows where you live? That's more easily done in the US than here in the UK, I think. I would definitely end it. I'd tell him the event was cancelled - make up a reason - and then I'd block him. Does he know where the event was going to take place?

WHO cares? apart from you

Honestly...
Spend your time focusing on your own safety not why he does X when he says Y

this guy sounds controlling and his behaviouris alarming... get him out of your life ASAP.

He sounds super creepy op. Worryingly so.

Firstly - such a shame, the reunion moved to Iowa at my mum's cousin, so we won't be able to meet. Secondly - what information does the crazy man have to be able to find you? You need to ensure he is blocked in every direction.

Not sure what your problem is. He sounds amazing. He’s interested in your posts and what’s to know where you’re staying.

Why do you care? You said you don't have high expectations for this and aren't taking it seriously so just block and move on.

For exactly the reason you just questioned. He is unhinged. Stalker. Serial killer. Abuser. Take your puck, but he ain't right. Block and run.

He's an emotionally disturbed control freak. Block immediately.

Why “work out a story”? Why is the advice on here always to lie to someone? You’re adults. Just say “no thank you”, block, move on. No need for works of fiction.

Because he’s lying so you trust him, or think nothing of it.

He’s fucking terrifying.

Block him.
It's pointless wasting time on this.

He’s saying he isn’t interested so he can keep his life private and choose what he tells you, then wants to know everything about your movements …
I wouldn’t find him remembering your posts if you were in an actual relationship… he could just have a great memory…. But the other things are weird!!

Last time you posted about this you admitted taking money from this guy, and then wondered why he expected you to visit him. People concluded you were just as weird as he is!

Yup then we go days sometime a week without talking, he’ll say he’s busy just like “im busy” … yet will he the first person to view everything I post.

No. Just no.

Block, delete, unfriend, then run an effing mile. Then run some more.

You contact him and he just replies "I'm busy" or he explains afterwards he hasn't been in touch because he's busy?

So many red flags anyway.

Don't victim blame her - she can post a different arm on socially media every night of the week of she likes, and this weirdo has zero right to question it.....

OP he obviously DOES want some form of control over you - but that means jack shit in terms of a meaningful relationship, so please don't be fooled.

It may well bother him that you are seeing other men. Because it hurts his ego and potentially limits his access to you. That doesn't mean he will give you commitment,love or fidelity - it just means he will expect it.

He’s a weirdo. Trust me, I found myself in a situation with some similarities. It didn’t end well, the police were involved, it took a long time to remove him from my life.

Then I was like why are you being up other women and he said

“ are we in a relationship”
“are we dating”
“are we talking”

So then you shouldn’t be upset…

Yet this man throws a fit about me not giving him my hotel address, wants me to drive his car, said he would pay for my hotel on the days or nights if he could see me, questioning me about dates ….