Why does he remember everything I post

[Janelizzy]

I have been talking to a man from out of state intermittently. I don’t take it seriously; the conversation is enjoyable, and we have a lot in common, but I don’t have high expectations for it.

I’ve noticed that he remembers everything I post on social media and brings it up. If we go a week or two without talking, he reminds me about my posts. For example, I posted a picture of my cousin's arm while we were out for dinner, and he mentioned that I go on dates. When I denied it, he responded, saying, “You were on a date last week; arm on your story.” I can hardly keep track of my own social media, so how does he remember everything I post?

I recently told him that I haven’t had a drink in months, and he responded, “You had drinks a few weeks ago; you posted it.” He seems to remember everything—every picture and every quote. I have watched so many movies on Tubi; maybe I’m overreacting since I haven’t even met him yet. However, if I decide to take a leap and see him, are these concerns valid?

The he started bringing up other women while I was on the phone with him

He’ll be like “I’m tired of stupid women, why is this girl texting me”.

“The restaurant you showed me, I know the girl that works there”

“On the plane they have barf bags, when I was on vacation with this girl she used one”

later that day he called me
update he called me later that night, I’m visiting his state soon cause I have a family reunion down there planned. He sent me some hotel suggestions, yet got soo upset when I wouldn’t tell him what hotel I’m staying out. He said well why are you being weird why won’t you tell me what room you’re staying out he was almost yelling. Then told me that I didn’t need to rent a car, that I could just drive his …..

I know this is all over the place but why is he acting like this ….. why does he care especially since he said he’s not looking for anything serious

OK, once you got to the hotel and car bits, he started to sound really weird, not just a bit weird. I would work out a story about how your trip has had to be postponed and then stop contacting him.

Run

I’d shut off contact. I also wouldn’t have my social media open to someone I hadn’t met. Big red flag and bad vibes with this one.

It doesn’t matter why, run, run, run. Surely you know that already?

He sounds potentially dangerous.

Luckily you don't live in the same state and you haven't met him. Tell him no more of your plans. Lockdown your social media and block his controlling, stalker ass.

block and delete

Big Red Flags everywhere

He's a stalker and he's telling you, loud and proud, that he is. Instead of wondering what his motives are the better question is why the fuck haven't you run away already?

Seriously, look at your own (in)actions first.

He said he doesn’t care, and isn’t ready for anything serious right now. So why does he act like this ?

why does it matter? His behaviour is stalkery and disturbing. Don't waste any more head space on him.

He is lying. Actions speak louder than words. A normal man you have never met would hardly engage with you. He is stalking you

Youve posted before about this guy, right? And why are you posting pictures of arms on social media?

He's basically waving multiple red flags right in your face. He sounds unhinged, controlling and dangerous. You've never met him and he's already trying to control you. He's gaslighting you by mentioning other women. He's obsessive about your socials. He's told you he isn't looking for anything serious so you'll pursue him, he is playing many mind games with you.

Remove him from any social media, block him, ignore him. You don't owe him any explanations. He's doing this to other women too. Learn from this, any man who acts like this is to be avoided.

Don’t visit him. Tell him your trip is cancelled and block him.

Do not visit this man. Block him and move on.

His words are irrelevant - his actions speak volumes. Please keep yourself safe. No one can say why he acts like this (although the 'I like to control people' red flag is waving madly) and I wouldn't waste any time trying to analyse anything he says. He's not a good guy OP, not at all, time to shut this down for good.

Cut contact, block everywhere, don't post anything at all during your visit to his area.

He sounds obsessive, controlling and rageful. That's a horrendous combination;

Oh and he calls women 'stupid' - not a prince among men is he?

Because he lied to you about not caring.

Ok I dont read signs well. I cant miss this its neon and says RUN! Block on everything.

Because he doesn’t want a healthy relationship with you, instead he wants to control you and get access to you.

Why does he remember every detail of your social media? Because he is spending hours trawling through it trying to catch you out, looking for anything he can hold over you, use to accuse you of lying.

A woman with weak boundaries and low self-esteem might find this flattering and be deluded that the man must actually care about her. She’d be wrong. He’s an emotionally crippled, controlling mess.

You haven’t even met him yet. If you’re having doubts, seeing red flags, feeling uncomfortable or feeling stressed about it at this stage then he is absolutely not the right person. It should be nothing but fun at this point. Walk away, delete his number and block him on social media and absolutely do not meet him.

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To me, these are the very early signs of someone who will watch your every move and be controlling. That arm - he was waiting to raise that to find out which man you’d dared to go out with without telling him, and he did so at the first good opportunity.