Comment to air hostess

[Backfromthebrink]

Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

Air hostess?

God, thats mortifying!!

I would embarrass him by pretending to feel sorry for him - be sure to tell all your family and friends how he attempted to flirt with the cabin crew and how she gave you a pitying look! Then pat him on the head and say “bless him”.

Ooo do this! Yanbu op x

I wouldn't laugh, it wasn't funny. I wouldn't feel humiliated or be fuming though, assuming your DH is generally not a tosser, and this was a shocking one off thing for him to say

I'd tell DH that he came across as misogynistic and I felt embarrassed on his behalf. He'd probably try to play it down. I'd ask him if he's happy to be viewed by others in that way. I'd ask him to think about how I'd feel if randomers in my workplace objectified me. I'd be very calm. And if he accused me of creating drama, I'd say "not at all, I'm just very surprised. I never thought of you as a misogynist until today. And I'm curious why you don't seem to mind other people seeing you as that"

I think I'd have rolled my eyes but nothing more. But my initial thought when I read it was that he meant in the sense of having someone to serve food and drinks all day long. I see from @OtterlyMad comment that perhaps I misunderstood and he said it meaning he wanted a beautiful woman with him.
That meaning I would be very unhappy about!

Thank you for your comments so far. I’m sat on the transfer coach with tears streaming down my face.

Thats a bit much

I would actually consider divorcing my husband over this. If he wants to flirt with an air hostess he can fuck off and be with one then.

I appreciate most mumsnetters would think I’m a lunatic but I posted so you know you are not alone feeling hurt and tearful.

You have no reason to be humiliated, it's him that should be feeling that way. He was lucky the air hostess didn't take it further, that's the kind of comment that gets people in hot water nowadays. What a shit way for your holiday to start!

Or you could end it with "and then he said do you come to? And I thought I've never come with him, so what chance would she?"

If he’s comfortable saying that in front of you what sexist drivel is he spouting when you’re not around?

Who says ‘air hostess’ these days? I think you’re both from the 1970s.
Anyway, he needs to be more of a grown up.

How disrespectful of him. Sorry op that was out of order

Honestly men! What is wrong with them? Sorry but not sure why I found this so funny 😂

Cringey and naff, and embarrassing for your child too. Hopefully it was just an aberration though rather than a pattern of sleaze.

@fluffiphlox Constructive!

@Backfromthebrink you control your response to this. Your feelings are entirely valid. If you can, park it and enjoy the holiday. Your DH is a misogynistic bellend

Why though? Why play act being unbothered and amused? I can't think of anything more cringy than doing fake tinkly-laughs whilst telling even more people what a knob dh was AND pretending not to care.

I wouldn't do anything of the sort. I'd tell him he acted like a mysogynistic and disrespectful prick, that his behaviour was mortifying and slimy and that the stewardess gave me a sympathetic look she was so disgusted. That I was mortified and upset and aghast that he didn't seem to care.

I'd expect some kind of reflection and apology and if none was forthcoming i'd be considering the relationship carefully.

He's a twat. Don't let him spoil your holiday.

I interpret him to mean she would be the flight attendant if he won the prize. I would put it down to high spirits going on holiday.

I have family that are cabin crew. They regard men like your husband as detestable slime.

Console yourself with thoughts of the lady regaling her colleagues with this tale and them all cringing with second hand embarrassment on her behalf.

Sadly for the member of crew, this bullshit misogyny happens on a daily basis on flights. Fucking grim.

Why would you laugh? She's not there to put up with a creeps attempt at a joke.

The 1950s called for him. He's so ridiculous.