Comment to air hostess

[Backfromthebrink]

Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

Sort of shit my dad did

in the 80s 🙄

What
A
Loser

id tell EVERYONE in front of him too

There’s so many things wrong with this. The first is how utterly disrespectful and power-trippy it is to say this to a woman doing her job. It’s just revolting. The second is how terrible and disrespectful it is to you, his wife, to belittle you in front of someone like this. The third is that other people definitely would have heard, so he seemingly doesn’t care about being this person in public. And the last is that his daughter heard this - this is how her father sees women generally, and is happy to treat her mother. This is the type of crap that stays with girls as they grow. He’s modelling what she should find acceptable for women to put up with from men.

I would be very hurt for myself, OP, and I would also be livid for the other reasons too. You’re definitely not being unreasonable. I’m so sorry.

My first thought was:
If he says stuff like that in front of you, I dread to think what he says when you’re not around.

Grow up 🙄

Yes. I feel the same. Totally gross, and embarrassing in that OP has to suffer pity from the air hostess.

Has he behaved like this before? One off? Thoughtless dickhead. He was only thinking about himself and trying to impress her with how hilarious he is. Didn’t care about you or your feelings. Why? Yuk. Humiliating, well that’s how I’d feel. Humiliated that I’m with such a grim character. Other women who overheard him would feel sorry for his wife.

I expect others on here will think that’s an overreaction. It isn’t. It’s an appropriate response to a significant representation of how this man feels (or doesnt) about his wife.

YANBU
UGH!!!

That is, no matter how cringey his comment, a really disproportionate response.

No It isnt. He humiliated her and I expect it won't end there.

Sleazeball... dont let him spoil your holiday relax have a lovely time get a bronzy and have a little flirt with the waiters.
Put him back in his sleaze box.

@Backfromthebrink your DH is an AH. How would he feel if you chatted up some gorgeous man? Like sh1t no doubt. If he isnt normally an AH talk to him. If he is normally an AH, take advice on divorce. You dont deserve to be treated like that and he doesn't deserve you.

If he says that infront of you what does he say to women when hes not with you,

Urgh. I'd be embarrassed on his behalf. That's definitely misogynistic. He's the one who humiliated himself OP - please don't feel that way yourself.

Ask him to make an announcement in front of everyone on the plane on the way back and say he’s sorry if anyone witnessed his misogynist behaviour on the flight over and that he’s sorry for bringing shame on himself, his family and men in general. (Only half joking).

Well I wouldn't cry about it, but I would absolutely tell him he's a creepy wanker for behaving like that. What a massive dickhead.

😂

It’s cabin crew.
yes he was disrespectful. Would he have said that to a male cabin crew member?

It was just a silly old fashioned throwaway remark, I say similar things,it's called humour, something a lot of people don't understand.

You’re OPs husband aren’t you?

You say creepy, pervy things too? Ew.

I couldn’t be with a bloke like that OP.

I think I would probably give am incredulous look and have said - shame they won't take you away if we win, or even if we lose!

YANBU to be annoyed.

Ageism is just as ugly as sexism.

YANBU I would be upset too. It’s really unpleasant to think that your partner, father of your child is misogynistic twat.
I would want to have a conversation about it later when DD is in bed as I would struggle to play happy families after this incident. Hope this thread will help you with arguments.
Please don’t cry, you’ll look stronger without tears.

Well, maybe you shouldn't. If other people don't understand your 'humour', maybe you're the problem.

Yes air hostess, air stewardess, cabin crew, trolley dolly - you know what OP means.

Crew here too - this kind of thing would happen all the time. He's been so disrespectful and acted like a massive fucking twat. He needs to apologise, but more than that he has to understand what he's done wrong and why you're upset about it.

Don't let this ruin your holiday. Chin up and be strong 💪

Yuck. Just, yuck. What a grim man you’re married to.