Comment to air hostess

[Backfromthebrink]

Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

Cabin crew. As has repeatedly been pointed out on this thread.
What would you call a male member of the cabin crew, out of interest? An ‘air host’?

I hope a really attractive man carries your bags into the hotel. You should say, “You make it look so effortless. My husband was struggling with them at home. Thank you.”

Just a little quip to put DH on his toes lol.

I would be mortified and angry but I agree that's a bit much.

I'm more horrified that you've pretty much admitted to flying on a budget airline.

Oh dear. One of those people that think everyone else has the issue and not them. Nah. We’re all pitying/ laughing at you

He’s also showing your daughter this is the way he treats women. I’m sorry.

Most folk seem to be overreacting, it was an off the cuff comment making DP look like an idiot.
I bet the FA hears this a 100 times a day. When you said you were crying, I thought you meant with laughter......

Deny him holiday sex, he doesn't deserve it.

Some nasty and nit picky people on this thread.

I’m with you OP.
I would never forget this remark. A total lack of respect for you. I couldn’t touch him ever again.

My first husband once said something very hurtful in the manner of “humour” in public.
I never forgot it and never felt the same way about him after that.

So many ways to not be a dick.

🙄

VERY underrated comment. 😂

change ‘cheekily’ for ‘disrespectfully’ ‘disgustingly’ or ‘cringily’ or some other such word. Cheekily makes him sound cute. What he said is definitely not cute . . .

Er, Busted? Grandma...

This kind of thing is the problem. 'Holiday high spirits' like you're talking about a child being a bit naughty, not a grown man being sleazy. I could never excuse this. I wouldn't cry about it but I absolutely would tell my DH (he would never say anything like that) that his behaviour was revolting. As is excusing this kind of shite.

I have brought my son up to not behave like this and my daughter to not accept it.

He was disrespectful to both you and her. Tell him in no uncertain terms that he was sleazy and it was embarrassing for all three of you. Gross, Yanbu.

As a former "air hostess", I can day as a collective, we've had worse... and your husband is a prat and I'd be disgusted if I was you.

However, the term "air hostess" is demeaning. We were trained to keep everyone alive on the aircraft! Not just to serve you food amd drinks!

JFC. Massive overreaction.

@Backfromthebrink OP, please show this clip to your husband. If he gets the joke, then he won't ever make a comment like that again.

No that would be an Air Steward.

Cabin crew is the group term, it doesn't really work in the singular.

It was a silly comment that's all. Very ick but really couldn't get worked up about it. She isn't an air hostess either. This isn't the 1950s

It wasn't even remotely funny. God, that poor woman, the shit she must have to endure from these wankers. And yeah of course you're embarrassed he just told some random woman he thinks she's fuckable but hey it's a "joke" right? What a total creep, is this the first time he's ever behaved like a weird sleazebag or does he have form for it?

He WOULD be apologising to me. To be honest, my husband literally wouldn't fucking dare do this and I don't care how anybody chooses to take that - he's a big strong man, he's no pushover and not physically afraid of me at all, but he also knows I am not a pathetic doormat and would absolutely never tolerate this sort of crap. I'd have gone off right there and then with a 'WHAT did you just say to this poor woman?! Apologise to her at once! How dare you sexually harass women trying to do their job?!" And yes, I am very capable of being that forthright.

If you're going to act like a sleazy teenager, you can be treated like one. I'd have wiped that creepy smirk right off his face. My husband wouldn't do this anyway because I would have run an absolute mile from any man who behaves like this.

But let us generously assume it is the very first and only time your husband has humiliated you in public by being a bit of a creepy sleazer and it's not in character - he WOULD be saying he was sorry and it WOULD be heartfelt.

and young daughter.

I honestly don’t think it’s that bad, it was just a bit of misplaced humour, he was probably trying to be friendly, forget about it and enjoy your holiday