Comment to air hostess

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Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling

She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and misogynistically says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling

fixed it for you.

And probably consider themselves lucky that someone else is stuck with him.

Trust me they wouldn’t waste their breath ‘regaling’ anything. It’ll be the millionth time they heard some misogynist comment from some grubby smartarse who isn’t worth a millisecond of headspace.

I can't believe he thinks it's OK to say that to someone trying to do her job, but ALSO WHILE HIS WIFE IS SITTING NEXT TO HIM.

Makes me believe he thinks/says shit like this all the time and it just rolled out.

I would not be happy if my partner flirted with a woman right in front of me

Reminds me of this!

Cheering up reading some of these comments. Sometimes you just need to hear some solidarity. Thank you all.

I take it you’re being sarcastic?

Ex cabin crew here, we would think he was a knob and definitely give you a sympathetic look.

Ex crew too, this exactly.

Ew. He's disgusting. And in front of his daughter too? Lovely example to set her of what to expect from men.

Hope you are ok OP.

Just want to let you know that I would be fuming as well and very upset. As another poster has also mentioned you are not alone and your feelings are reasonable x

Don't let it slide, he made you feel rubbish so he has to put in work and make it up to you.

Yep he's a knob and had I been the cabin crew in question, or anyone nearby for that matter, I'd have cringed for him.

I think I would have said to him, ‘how embarrassing you are sometimes.’

I would feel very disrespected and uncomfortable for the cabin crew member and for myself.

If this is part of his character, I’d seriously consider the relationship. If it is a one off, thoughtless and stupid remark, I would expect him to understand why it was wrong and ti make up for it.

Im not surprised. What a disrespectful thing to say, in front of you.

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He’s embarrassing. As a youngster I did a lot of restaurant type work and would feel very uncomfortable when older men made comments in front of their wives / partners. What do they hope to happen, surely they can’t think you will respond and even a joke of that nature is hugely disrespectful to everyone concerned.

Tell him that if he gets put on the no fly list for sexually harassing the staff, you’ll be flying alone next time.

Disrespectful, sexist twat. Urg.

I can’t decide if you’re fuming because you feel slighted or because it was an extremely sexist thing to say. Your DH must have missed the lessons

It'd staggeringly disrespectful as well as grotesquely misogynistic and just sad behaviour.

Ill take a guess its not thr only problem with his behaviour.

He’s not cheeky. Small children and puppies might have their misdemeanours written off as cheeky.

Your husband’s behaviour was slimy and disrespectful, both to you and to the flight attendant. I’d have called him out for his disrespectful comments at the time.

You’re not alone. I would have hit the bloody roof and he would be seriously regretting it now.

It’s embarrassing but I wouldn’t be crying over it.

No it isn’t! Her husband humiliated her and made her feel unattractive and uncared for. I’d be leaving after that.