To be so annoyed about the dangers of being a woman?

[Givemeanamethen]

I like to run or go for long walks. I ususally listen to music or books or whatever.

There are some lovely long circular routes near me through woods and along streams. I do do them, but am always slightly on edge because it’s so big that you can go a while without seeing anyone, and if I pass a man I can’t help but think ‘if I was attacked here no one would hear’. I try and do these at busy times, be finished before it starts getting dark and I’d never do it in the rain because of how quiet it would be. It irritates me that men, of course, won’t have to consider any of this.

Tonight, I didn’t have time to go there so did a four mile route from my house. It’s pretty and got a ruralise atmosphere but the roads are relatively busy, for a Sunday night, and there are plenty of houses. I don’t ususally worry at all on this route.

But this evening, some fucking dickhead cycled up behind me, on the path instead of the road, and shouted right in my ear, clearly to try and frighten me and embarrass me, then he and his friend cycled away.

I’m so angry that I can’t even go on a walk without men getting a buzz out of harassing me.

Not even really sure what my AIBU is but I’m so angry that I could cry.

Don’t be ridiculous.

Didn’t read past the first sentence.

Good post @SquishedMallow

I must remember at all times that any concern I have as a woman can only be equal to or lesser than that of a man. Will write it down 😅.

true

Crime Statistics say he is 3x more likely to attack a man than a woman.

I think you’re mixing up me and another poster.

If the men are worried about being attacked by other men, they should feel free to start their own post, perhaps on a website targeted at men. Then we can we talk about our worries as women without a load of bullshit male apologists?

ain't that the truth!

Honestly, it’s absolutely mad this frantic dash to talk about men. I wonder if it’s some sort of protection response - if I defend men the threat will be lower. Otherwise it’s just so strange.

Not any concern, just this specific concern, sharing the real data is meant to reassure you that your risk isn’t as high as you seem to perceive. You’re limiting your life and showing anxiety over a fear that, while rational, you have let grow out of proportion to reality.

They’ll be the same lot who demand to know when International Men’s Day is every year.

WTF? It’s a terrible post! It basically says stop being angry and don’t go for a run, little lady.

November 19th.

Also: EVERY FUCKING DAY!

Sorry how? You asked me a question about how is my post relevant to your post and I answered back to you.

I think both posters are probably best off ignored.

No it says you shouldn’t take out your anger on any man who is actually sympathising and you can either let the fear control you and not go for walks/runs or you can do the risk assessment, realise it’s not that dangerous and get on with your life- as in go for that walk or run.

No it doesn't. Stop being so knee jerk sensationalist.

My daughter is 11 years old and tall for her age so is seen as older. Yesterday at a food festival in the middle of the afternoon in a huge public park with people everywhere I had to stare down 3 middle aged men looking her up and down with ‘that’ look on their faces. I was incensed, seriously felt like just going up to them and poking their filthy pervert eyes out with my nails.

But…it does say both of those things.

You're right, I recognise one of their names from just about every thread where a woman talks about her experiences or fears.

They must have a little bell go off when there's a chance to defend men and minimise women's feelings.

Sad really.

Definitely best off ignored.

Who me? If so why? I’m a woman just like you.

Have you ever been a victim of a knife attack in a rural place?

So why do you want to ignore a woman who has lived experience of what you say you fear so much you can’t go for walks/runs any more?

Why is it so important to you that some of us are saying that your irritation that men never have to have the concern of being attacked is just not true, they do have these same concerns and the crime statistics show they are actually more likely to be victims of attacks by strangers anywhere outside the home than are women.

The men who are the biggest danger to women are the men they live with or have had a relationship with. You’re more likely to die in your bedroom than on a walk or run.

Thankyou. I'm glad you can comprehend my post. To be honest, I think there's little point engaging in this thread. The op wants a pity party and will aggressively attack anyone that offers anything different from her angry narrative.

Oh well, it's not us going to sleep with all that pent up anger about things that fundamentally can't be changed (like accepting we risk assess what we do tailored to our individual circumstances) 😌

No. It really doesn't.