To think MIL should replace DD's hair products?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

MIL recently took DD away on Holiday, for which I am of course very grateful.

I packed her a hand luggage backpack and a small suitcase. I obviously put any liquids over 150ml in her suitcase, which I was told would be checked into the hold.

Once at the airport, they decided DD's suitcase was small enough to go on as hand luggage so they didn't bother checking it in.

Subsequently, all of DD's hair products were confiscated and thrown away. She has long, thick hair that can be difficult to manage so I buy her certain products that we've tried and tested that work on her hair, the products total about £20. Also confiscated was a bottle of sun cream that costs £7.

We don't have a lot of spare money, and still have four weeks of the Summer Holidays left to go and need any spare cash we have. I can't really spend an extra £27 replacing these products that were almost full when I packed them and have now just been chucked in the bin. My Summer Holiday plans and budget are very carefully calculated. £27 is lunches for the week.

It is reasonable to think MIL should have bought her new stuff? I'm not going to ask her, but should she have replaced them? or AIBU and should just suck it up because she took her away and treated her?
DH just thinks it's all my fault and seems to think it somewhat amusing that I "still don't know liquid rules at airports" 🙄

Clicked the wrong thing - I don’t think you are being unreasonable!

like you I wouldn’t ask for it to be replaced but they made a decision that cost you money and you can’t just replace them without a knock on effect.

id be annoyed at DH tittering away at me “not knowing the rules” when clearly you did!!

She bought your daughter a holiday and you want her to pay for products that were thrown away? Did your daughter or you choose to use that suitcase? If so then it's your fault.

I'd be mortified if I was your mum and was asked for £27 above and beyond a holiday that cost many hundreds.

I think asking will put your MIL’s back up so I wouldn’t.

I don’t think she should replace them no based on the info you’ve provided. I think it’s a bit odd that you didn’t clarify the luggage situation before going - if it was me I would have said she has a small suitcase but made it clear it wasn’t hand luggage due to the contents. Depending on how old your DD is she could have also said this at the airport. The caveat is if MIL knew about the toiletries but changed her mind about the luggage situation at the airport - in this instance I would expect her to replace them.

What a nasty comment.

No. Your mother-in-law very kindly took your child on holiday and you are quibbling about a few pounds' worth of toiletries? It was an unfortunate mistake. You could seriously damage the relationship if you bring this up with her. Be grateful that you have someone so kind and generous in your life who can treat your child to holidays.

I have probably missed something, but if they were taken when she was going, what did she use on holiday?

Did mil pay for the holiday?

Once at the airport, they decided DD's suitcase was small enough to go on as hand luggage

Who's 'they'?

Ffs how frustrating! You put it in checked luggage as you are allowed to but it was put through as carry on? Then its not your fault! Also wouldn't she have needed said products on the holiday? So mil would have had to buy her some

They spent a lot of money taking your child away. It was an oversight, these things happen. I’d think it would be very cheeky of you to ask for payment.

Tell DH he can pack for DD next time

I would be irritated, but wouldn't ask for replacements.

I'd chalk it up to one of those things and not worth causing a family fallout/ bad feeling over.

I'd be more annoyed and upset at DH than MIL tbh.

They took your dc on holiday. They spent more than £27 easily. Hold luggage can take ages to come out. They weren't to know you spent that much on toiletries. I think it would come across as extremely ungrateful to ask for the money, annoying though it is.

Bit cheeky to ask especially if they've taken your child on holiday.

Did you pay for checked in luggage? Or were you expecting MiL to pay? Forget it this time, get DD to try some cheaper travel sized hair product to tide her over. L’Oréal, Extraordinary oil is good and you can get small bottles in Superdrug.

Had you told her specifically about the shampoo in the suitcase?

Are people unable to read? The OP says explicitly that she is not going to ask MIL for the money. She thinks MIL should have replaced them, or offered to, unasked.

@WingingIt101 for reference you can change your vote by just clicking the other option, it’s not locked in.

You can’t ask for £27 when she took your daughter on holiday, for free I assume? If things are tight, I wouldn’t waste that amount of money on hair products.

Rude.

I think it’s unfair she hasn’t replaced them, doesn’t matter who paid for the holiday, if I had made that decision to throw all her stuff away then I would of course replace them.

Bet they spent more than that on things like ice cream or treats. Why create animosity for a mistake and £27. Don’t complain of the consequences if you do. No good deed goes unpunished!

Imagine a world where people read the sodding OP properly before sticking the boot in.

yeah it’s a shitty situation OP, you have clearly said you won’t ask for the cash from
MIL. MIL can clearly afford to buy replacements and must know you are on the breadline but hasn’t thought to replace them despite being the adult in charge who made the decision that led to them being chucked. It really does just sound like thoughtlessness

Your H sounds like a cock. Daughter will probs have to manage with cheaper products for a while I guess