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Husband has completely ruined our weekend away

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Breezeopal · 09/08/2025 09:06

We were supposed to be going away today in the UK for a short break with our two children (both under 4).

DH went out straight from work to see friends which had been arranged for weeks but in his words was just to be a meal and quick catch up. I had barely heard from him all evening and he didn’t reply to the couple of messages I sent after the time he said he’d be home.

At about 10pm one of his friends called me and said I would need to pick him up as he can’t get in a taxi because he had been sick and it was on his clothes. Pub about 15 minutes drive away. I said I can’t leave my two children so ended up having to call my Mum (who was in bed) to come to mine whilst I drove to pick him up.

Husband was absolutely slaughtered, it turned out he hadn’t ate anything they didn’t go to dinner and had a pub crawl instead. On the way home it started absolutely stinking and when we got home it transpired he had soiled himself!!

We don’t have a bedroom spare so he has spent the night on the sofa and is in no fit state to do anything currently- he was meant to be driving.

We were supposed to leave by 9am to make the most of day 1 which there is no chance of happening.

I feel like saying fuck it and not going at all but I want a nice time with my children so I am torn…

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OneCoralCat · 09/08/2025 09:07

That’s revolting. Could you go without him?

zebrazoop · 09/08/2025 09:08

Go without him ?

lavenderanddaisies · 09/08/2025 09:08

I would go on your own with the children if I were you. Totally selfish of him in my opinion

Pumpkintopf · 09/08/2025 09:09

That’s horrible. He’s really been very selfish and immature and let his family down. What happens now would for me very much depend on how genuinely sorry he is.

dunroamingfornow · 09/08/2025 09:09

Go without him ! He made a choice , you can make yours

rubyslippers · 09/08/2025 09:09

Take the kids and go on your own
When he feels less hungover he can join you
do you think he did it on purpose?

HaagenYAAS · 09/08/2025 09:09

Go without him 100%

cheezncrackers · 09/08/2025 09:09

How revolting. He vomited on himself and then shat himself in your car. I'd be divorcing him TBH. No way would I ever want to touch him again. Bleugh!

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Breezeopal · 09/08/2025 09:09

His car is the only one big enough to fit all our belongings and I can’t drive it, that’s the problem. Otherwise I would have already left.

Realistically he won’t be fit to drive until this afternoon at the earliest so that’s our first day of a short break wasted

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sunshine244 · 09/08/2025 09:10

Is this in any way typical behaviour for him? Unless there's something major going on for his you haven't mentioned I'd leave him behind and go with the kids.

Moonnstars · 09/08/2025 09:10

I would say go without him...but wondering if getting himself in this state was what he was hoping for. You go off for the weekend with the kids while he gets to drink/laze around at home.

I would be very noisy and making him wake up right now if you haven't already and setting off on your trip. You will have to drive but why should he get to now waste the day and try and obtain sympathy no doubt for feeling ill.

isthismylifenow · 09/08/2025 09:10

Do you drive?

If so, go without him.

BagGreen24 · 09/08/2025 09:10

Go without him. Give him the option of meeting you there when he's recovered.

I would be furious with him but it's not fair the children miss out, assuming they are old enough to know about the trip.

Does he have form for this? Is he in the habit of drinking too much?

HoskinsChoice · 09/08/2025 09:10

cheezncrackers · 09/08/2025 09:09

How revolting. He vomited on himself and then shat himself in your car. I'd be divorcing him TBH. No way would I ever want to touch him again. Bleugh!

Divorce because he got drunk?

Muchtoomuchtodo · 09/08/2025 09:10

I’d be cracking on without him.

so sorry op.

Edited as just seen your update. If your car is smaller what can you fit in with 1 less passenger and their belongings? Leave anything that’s not essential, even if it means buying new buckets and spades etc when you get there.

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Breezeopal · 09/08/2025 09:11

rubyslippers · 09/08/2025 09:09

Take the kids and go on your own
When he feels less hungover he can join you
do you think he did it on purpose?

No I don’t think so, he’s always had it in him to go too far with drink and expect he got carried away by friends he hasn’t seen for a while (okay for them as not many of them have commitments of their own)

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susiedaisy1912 · 09/08/2025 09:11

Don’t bother going op. Take your dc out for a fun day instead. Staying at home stewing waiting for your idiot husband to sober up will make you more angry.

VainAbigail · 09/08/2025 09:11

Go with your mum instead.

YodasHairyButt · 09/08/2025 09:11

Take less stuff, leave him. Selfish prat.

MJ1980 · 09/08/2025 09:11

so he had no thought of self control regarding not drinking too much and your weekend away. He then proceeded to puke all over himself and them shit his pants. I would have refused to collect him and made him walk. Divorce right there for me. Ive got the ick for you op. Take your kids away on your own/ask your mum to go with you? Disgusting man

rubyslippers · 09/08/2025 09:11

Breezeopal · 09/08/2025 09:09

His car is the only one big enough to fit all our belongings and I can’t drive it, that’s the problem. Otherwise I would have already left.

Realistically he won’t be fit to drive until this afternoon at the earliest so that’s our first day of a short break wasted

How much stuff do you need for a night away? I’d take basics, stuff it all in your car and go

Moonnstars · 09/08/2025 09:11

Breezeopal · 09/08/2025 09:09

His car is the only one big enough to fit all our belongings and I can’t drive it, that’s the problem. Otherwise I would have already left.

Realistically he won’t be fit to drive until this afternoon at the earliest so that’s our first day of a short break wasted

Take your car and he can drive with the bigger car later in the day to meet you. Or get a train?

Owly11 · 09/08/2025 09:12

Go without him.

Screamingabdabz · 09/08/2025 09:12

Just go with whatever you can take in the smaller car. Why do men do this selfish shit? I’m annoyed for you.

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Breezeopal · 09/08/2025 09:12

rubyslippers · 09/08/2025 09:11

How much stuff do you need for a night away? I’d take basics, stuff it all in your car and go

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It’s 3 nights and my car is tiny. I only learnt to drive last year so it’s what I’m comfortable driving. I’m not insured to drive his bigger car and don’t think I’d be comfortable to manage it

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