Messaged "celeb" crush and now feel like an idiot

[Notascouser1990]

A bit lighthearted. He is a member of a semi- famous indie band. I just replied to his IG story asking about his pet. Nothing at all flirty. I'd had a couple of glasses of wine when I did that. He didn't reply and now I feel like an absolute tit! AIBU to feel like this? He probably gets loads of messages from fans and doesn't really read them so I'm probably BU!

During Euro '96, I think. my daughter wrote to a member of the German team to wish him luck! After the tournament she received a huge envelope full of memorabilia and signed stuff from him and the team.

I emailed a former England football manager (initials GS) via the FA last year to thank him for his work as manager. Not sure why I don’t fancy writing his full name, as he’s very well known - but I’ve gone all shy 😂 I don’t fancy him but just really respect and admire him. I never got a reply, and I doubt he even saw it, but I’m glad I did it.

Also emailed Adrien Brody’s agent earlier this year to congratulate him on his Oscar win. Again, just felt like it and never got a reply but glad I did it.

There were some really great fandoms on Twitter before Musk ruined it.

Just saw you said it was. Sorry for being slow!

I very much doubt he handles his own SM.

Forget about it.

Aww maybe he will still reply yet! Keeping fingers crossed for you x

Don’t worry about it at all op. As long as you don’t act like a nutjob stalker then you are fine. I once tweeted a celeb, sent a gift on behalf of other fans and they ended up inviting me onto the set at a taping of their show.

I had the BIGGEST crush on Stuart Pearce when I was about 13!! Absolutely idolised him! You are the ONLY other person i have ever heard say you had a crush on him too! 🤣

You're 35 I take it?

Still young enough to think you're a teenager, enjoy it, have wine and send people messages!!!

This is quite the most insane thing I’ve ever read on Mumsnet. And Mumsnet already reset the bar for insanity.

I've seen Gary Lineker around loads of times, in SW London. He's really gorgeous and dresses so well.

I did this when I was 15. Quite a niche/not well known actor, and my first 'love'. I messaged his forum thing he had and got a kind message back from his agent or whatever. I die even now, aged 37, thinking about the cringey, emo, angsty things I wrote, and I wish I didn't remember.

To make things worse, I then got an e-card from his very own email address that said 'Thinking of you' on it, and for about ten blissful minutes thought I'd made a real impression ... until I emailed back and discovered he had already anticipated this, and blocked me.

No doubt I then tried adding him to my MSN, but clearly wasn't successful, as I never spoke to him again, except in my dreams. I can't even embarrass myself further by saying who it was as I'm too worried he will Google himself, find this and somehow remember me. 😱

Messaging is fine and what I presume celebs want when they post stuff. I posted happy birthday to someone famous this week which I don’t really do as a rule but I never expected a response!

So not being unreasonable or daft to post but you are a bit unreasonable for expecting a reply (and feeling silly for not getting one).

I wrote to mine (pre-internet) via his agent, who I had to look up in the town reference library. Several weeks later I got a signed photo back from him!

You talk as if there was any dilemma 😆

I wrote a letter to the queen years ago when I was little because some foxes were culled due to them eating some swans! Mi mam must have said that all swans belong to the queen and so I wrote her a strongly worded letter telling her to leave foxes alone in the future or else. Months later I received a fancy letter back, wax seal and everything, telling me they’d passed my very serious concerns on to the queen! 🤣

Lol this is adorable

I once drunkenly offered Russell Crowe some smelly cheese on Twitter and he very politely replied to thank me but decline.

I'm not sure why I did this

@Notascouser1990 Don't worry about it! Steve Diggle of Buzzcocks blocked me, after following me (though he did later unblock me, and now we're friends on facebook.) I can't know why, but I suspect it was because I suggested Buzzcocks should get a female singer after Pete Shelley died. (I met Pete Shelley (and Steve) - did I ever tell you that story? He bought me a G&T.)

A very well-known classical musician told me to 'piss off'. That one was weird. I would reply, retweet or like his tweets on twitter when it was twitter, then he'd PM me, and we'd have a very civilised chat. He always initiated these conversations. This went on, very occasionally, for maybe a couple of years. Then one day, as I'd done several times, I replied to a tweet, and he sent me several PMs saying I'd pissed him off, he'd been sick of me for quite a while and he didn't want to interact any more. I said, no problem bro, didn't mean to bother you, wished him all the best for the future, and unfollowed him.

The perils of parasocial relationships! And I'm a 58-year old man.

Exactly. My local hairdresser outsources all socials, so very unlikely any celeb will be doing their own (unless it suits them).

Awww 😘

I DID THIS TOO!!!!

I went a bit further and would phone his agent fairly frequently and ask where he would next be appearing. I also sent a birthday card, in which I invited him out for a curry.

Um, there's more. I waited at the stage door a couple of times and got his autograph. One of the times I was pretty drunk and thought about following him.

Don't worry, he's dead now (it wasn't me).

Love some of these! Early days of twitter I tweeted the lead singer of my fave band asking about something quite specific on an album track and he sent me a really lovely set of replies. Made my day and still makes me smile now 😊

You tease! I really want to know 🤣