To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

You’re so close to getting the point.

What you’ve said is 100% true. THE SAME IS TRUE ABOUT MEN AND BIG BOOBS. Genuinely not ever man likes or cares about them.

I've never had a partner with big boobs. And there's been a few.

I used to be self conscious when I was teens/twenties but now I’m the opposite. I love my body, small boobs and all.
I put on weight a while ago and while my breasts grew so did the rest of me. I was unhappy and again self conscious. I had gone from being confident about being topless on the beach to feeling self conscious. I didn’t know how to dress for my new shape.
I have lots weight and with it the breasts but I feel like me again.
I’ve always had a good sex life regardless of the size of my breasts.

Work on your confidence.

It's either someone with a fetish or a huge problem but they've definitely posted before.

I responded on this thread then realised as it went on that so much seemed so similar to a previous thread. It was the OP's comments about men liking huge boobs and no hips or waist that did it.

I have checked and it was a thread started on 4 April by a user called Thischic, in that one he/she was talking about wanting men to think she was a 10 out of 10 woman but she could never be because of her small breasts and she wanted implants. That thread had a thousand replies, and by the end, despite 92% of votes saying men didn't care about boob size, the OP was still insisting that was men's number one decider of attractiveness.

So no point in engaging because even with the chance they're genuine, the OP won't change their mind in the slightest. If she is genuine she absolutely needs therapy even if she has a breast augmentation.

OP is this you too? Kindly, seek therapy, you seem 100% convinced that your belief is a fact. It's isn't, it's a belief.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5308575-wanting-to-look-good-and-be-a-1010-girl-men-specifically

I don't like abs. Truly. It looks like an oil radiator from the 1930s.

Seek therapy OP. And perhaps stop posting the same question hoping for validation or a different response.
I agree that sharing your cup size is only feeding into the narrative and exciting the pervs.

Thank goodness dh never minded my tiddly little 34 As.

TBH, although I’d have almost killed for a cleavage when I was teens/early 20s, I’m so glad now that I never had whoppers - I look at very well endowed older women now (I’m getting on a bit) and thank heaven I don’t have to cart a massive pair of watermelons about.

Bloke here. I’ve found all kind of breast sizes attractive in the past. What do you mean by someone being 100% into you? How will you ever tell?

I think it’s sad your body issues are leading you to miss out on a fun part of life

Twiggy, Jane Birkin, Kate Moss, Zendaya, Tuppence Middleton, Emma Stone, Lily Collins, Cher ... All famously unattractive women? I don't think so.
OP. I mean it kindly when I say you need to find some way of boosting your confidence more generally, not just about looks.
I have always had a comparatively mediocre figure and a face like a bag of spanners, but I still used to do just fine in my single days. I like a man with brain and a down to earth sense of humour who keeps himself fit and doesn't take himself too seriously, I find that most of those men like the same things in a woman. When you think about it, sex is a ridiculous activity; doing it with someone fun just makes sense.

That's actually quite derogatory.

I'm sure larger chested ladies might find that offensive in the way many might take offence about derogatory flat-chested "thank God I haven't got that problem" type comments.

I was on the under-endowed side for many years and those sorts of comments can be upsetting.

Lovely.

I have smallish boobs, my husband much prefers smaller ones. I am in my 40s now and after going my whole life not liking them, I now love them. They are still perky and not saggy like lots of big boobs!

I find Brad Pitt attractive, however my partner looks absolutely nothing like Brad Pitt but I fancy the absolute pants off him - you can like something in theory but also like something different in reality.

I also don’t look like Angelina Jolie by the way, or Jennifer Aniston, but believe my partner when he tells me he finds me attractive.

if you don’t want sex, that’s one thing, but if it’s because you don’t believe anyone could find you attractive that’s a shame because you’re missing out. The world is made up of all different shapes and sizes and people are capable of liking more than one thing.

LOADS of men are very into lean/slim women with a couple of bee stings...

Did you post about this like a year ago? Near identical posts? I remember a similar thread by a woman with a major hangup about her cup size.

The issue isn't your breasts, or men's view of them. Its your own perception and worry about it. Men can't be bothered with worried anxious women constantly stressing if their breasts are big enough, its a real turn off.

Learn to accept and enjoy your body type and realise there is no one "dream" body type, men like all different flavours and there are plenty who lust after smaller breasted ladies

Honestly stop stressing about this. Get out and have some sex.

I am 30 and no not asexual, I fancy men. I just don't ever feel like sex because I don't feel womanly or sexy, feel like my body is disappointing.

Sorry I don't get your point about the SM event? I don't even use it anymore. Well aware of the content though as I've seen tonnes and tonnes of phototune/bodytuned videos and images!!

That's completely true but it's only because they're willing to settle and use women, and I don't want to be settled for.

I get your point, openly eyeing up any body part in public in creepy. Aren't men who eye up bums, or even legs, also creeps? Not just the boob men 😅

Of course I absolutely don't want to be letched over by a creepy man, I just want to be found attractive behind closed doors. Not all men who are boob/bum men behave like creeps...it's just whatever their preferences are. I was just trying to say that I wanted to be seen as hot by a future bf/DH/date.

Are you another person accusing me of being a pervy man? I am not. I'm not sure how many pervy man are hanging around on Mumsnet.

I have what I think is a personal/embarassing issue and I wanted to ask for opinions anonymously, so here I am.

But why would you think that a man that expects (your idea) of physical perfection at 20 is going to be happy with less than perfection at 50? Why would they not just trade their partner in for a younger model?

Thank you Margaret. I'm actually not afraid of ageing or wrinkles - that's just a natural part of life. I just wanted to be attractive for a bf/DH in my younger years.

It might surprising to some people which is why I posted it. I haven't dated because I haven't felt comfortable. Who would want to be settled for or just used? That's what I felt like would just be happening.

I really hope that it wouldn't be case but it's just what I imagine...

Hahaha, women with big boobs who hear me complain always say this to me!

I'm not blaming men, sorry if it came across that way. Even if most men do prefer larger breasts, that still wouldn't be something to 'blame' them for would it? You can't blame someone for having a physical preference they can't help.

I wouldn't expect a skinny, narrow shouldered man to 'blame' me for preferring broad shoulders!