Fiance slept with a prostitute

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Don’t know what to do or think.

Last night my fiance told me slept with a prostitute a couple of weeks ago after a work night out.

Basically, went out for work drinks and ended up getting paralytic, a work friend said to him I’ve got someone I want you to meet it’s a good business lead etc. They turn up at the house and partner is confused because there’s only girls there and there is a bed in the room. Work friend starts negotiating prices and partner then realises it’s a brothel. Said he started freaking out saying wtf are you doing this isn’t right etc. Work friend/ prostitues say to him this is normal everyone does it and he says they convince him to do it. He said the girl took his trousers down put on condom and they had sex for 30 seconds then he said no I can’t do this and ran out of the house and made his way home.

Broke down crying to me about this last night saying he’s so sorry and he can’t believe he’s done this and he’s never once been in a situation where he’s been close to cheating so can’t believe he was stupid enough to let himself get into this mess.

I’m in shock tbh I would never have expected this from him he is usually a really genuine moral person with really strong family/ relationship values. He said he will never do anything like this again and will not ever get himself in a state like that again.

Dont know what to do, we’re supposed to be getting married in 6 months. Other than this he has never done anything cheating wise etc he absolutely hates cheating. Am I being really naive to forgive him? I love him and I don’t want to throw away our relationship over a stupid drunken mistake if he will genuinely never do it again. I also can’t look at him and can’t imagine ever having sex with him again.

need some other opinions don’t want to tell anyone in my personal life.

do NOT marry this man🙄

He uses other humans to have sex into and doesn’t care about consent.

Quite apart from the disgusting betrayal.

Dump him.

You don’t know what to do? Really? Isn’t it obvious.

Very sorry this has happened to you.

I would not be able to.get past this. He should have walked out . I would have had respect for him.doing this rather than revulsion.

You mean your ex fiancé

Men don’t suddenly sleep with prostitutes. There will be more.

He had a choice and chose to go ahead. I couldn’t trust someone after that.

Sorry OP but he lying to you. He's willing had sex with that woman and he's worried you'll find out so has 'told' you first.

At any rate, even if it was just for 30 seconds (which I don't believe) he's still had sex with someone else. It's not like he was forced at gun point.

The absolute cheek of him also that he thinks so little of you that he thinks you'll be dumb enough to believe his lies.

Do not marry this man.

If you let it go in any way, shape or form you are telling him that's it's OK to do it again.

Calling off a wedding now will be easier and cheaper than the inevitable divorce.

Wow that’s certainly a good story from him but likely not true. He’s avoiding all responsibility and just accidentally managed to get aroused, put a condom on and start to have sex with someone that wasn’t you.
Don’t marry this man. If you do, you’re showing him that you’ll accept infidelity and it’s a green light to do this again. How can you ever trust him?
Call off the wedding and make sure people know why it wasn’t your decision.

His story is so ridiculous it's incredible. So much bollocks.

You don't actually believe his version do you, OP? That the mean lady made him have sex with her?

Oh come the fuck on.

You don't know what to do? You dig your bar up out of hell and raise it over your head.

And get an STD test. I wouldn't believe for a moment this is his first time purchasing a woman's body for his use. The story about accidentally arriving at a brothel and accidentally having sex with the woman for 30 seconds is an absolute crock of shit.

You've only heard the sanitized version.

Unless he presents you with video evidence showing the '30 seconds and then said no and ran out' version I'd be inclined to think it was a lot more.

This would give me the ick so much that there would be no going back.

From your tone, I suspect you'll forgive him and go on to marry him. And you'll be back here in a few years with a similar story or an affair - except by then you'll have kids with him and it won't be as easy to separate. He's doing and saying everything he can to avoid taking responsibility for his actions.

He's probably only told you because he's just realised it's going to show up on his bank statement, or something else is going to expose him.

Girl no, get rid. Like it was good that he told you but he left it a week and who knows what actually happened. Did you sleep together in that time?

Everyone deserves a beautiful marriage and you will never have one if you’re thinking of him paying for sex in six months time when you’re standing at the alter.

If you want to stay you have to work out is he is a desperate, lying misogynist or just that much of a coward and a moron he allowed a work friend to trick and peer pressure him into having sex with a prostitute against his will? Neither sounds like a good husband to me.

OP, shouldn't your title be 'ExDF slept with a prostitute???

There's zero chance of YOU 'accidentally' having sex with a rent boy when on a night out and drunk, isn't there?

He simply didn't care enough about it to walk away immediately...

He absolutely hates cheating

Hmm... he absolutely does not if he managed to put his dick in someone else.
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

Please... do NOT marry this man!

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Oh come on. He ran out crying? Please.

He's cheated on you AND he treats you like you're a complete idiot.

Oh come on OP you cannot put a condom on unless you are aroused - he wanted it. Everything else is immaterial.

Expect a phone call today from the wife or girlfriend of the other man involved, wanting to tell you ‘something you need to know urgently’.

He thinks you were born yesterday. He paid for sex and is making up some bizarre story to deny any responsibility.

I also can’t look at him and can’t imagine ever having sex with him again.

You have answered your own question. Why would you start your married life trying to rebuild the trust he so casually threw away?

He is a weak man. All it took for him to forget his morals was a few drinks and the persuasion of people who also have no morals or whose income depends on him forgetting he had any to start with.

Don't do this to yourself.