Fiance slept with a prostitute

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Don’t know what to do or think.

Last night my fiance told me slept with a prostitute a couple of weeks ago after a work night out.

Basically, went out for work drinks and ended up getting paralytic, a work friend said to him I’ve got someone I want you to meet it’s a good business lead etc. They turn up at the house and partner is confused because there’s only girls there and there is a bed in the room. Work friend starts negotiating prices and partner then realises it’s a brothel. Said he started freaking out saying wtf are you doing this isn’t right etc. Work friend/ prostitues say to him this is normal everyone does it and he says they convince him to do it. He said the girl took his trousers down put on condom and they had sex for 30 seconds then he said no I can’t do this and ran out of the house and made his way home.

Broke down crying to me about this last night saying he’s so sorry and he can’t believe he’s done this and he’s never once been in a situation where he’s been close to cheating so can’t believe he was stupid enough to let himself get into this mess.

I’m in shock tbh I would never have expected this from him he is usually a really genuine moral person with really strong family/ relationship values. He said he will never do anything like this again and will not ever get himself in a state like that again.

Dont know what to do, we’re supposed to be getting married in 6 months. Other than this he has never done anything cheating wise etc he absolutely hates cheating. Am I being really naive to forgive him? I love him and I don’t want to throw away our relationship over a stupid drunken mistake if he will genuinely never do it again. I also can’t look at him and can’t imagine ever having sex with him again.

need some other opinions don’t want to tell anyone in my personal life.

So do all women think that all men are an accident waiting to happen?

@BillyBobbins1

The last relationship was just me apologising and paying.

My other half doesn’t have to apologise all the time, because he’s nice to me. As am I to him.

If you’re constantly apologising then maybe you’re not behaving like a great partner in the first place.

Something to think about.

You describe women on this thread as man haters when they’ve criticised this individual man for cheating with a prostitute.

You sound so much angrier with women as a sex class than anyone does on this thread with men as a sex class.

Maybe you could have healthier romantic relationships if you didn’t so obviously hate women and feel that they don’t give you what you think you deserve.

Some counselling could be life changing for you.

You are the one displaying hatred for women.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with women not wanting to be with men who cheat with prostitutes. Stop trying to tell women it's ok and normal and can easily happen and we should commend him for at least being honest.

No women shouldn't be grateful that at least he's honest, and that at least it was just a prostitute and he only got carried away because he was out with colleagues.

I'd imagine the reason that you're single is because of your own attitude towards women. It's just plain weird to be on MN telling women that they're wrong for having normal reactions to bad behaviour.

There’s only one question you need to ask yourself:

If your fiance told you that she cheated on you with a male prostitute after drinking too much and being encouraged into it by a group of female colleagues at a mate’s hen party (for example), would you forgive her for being honest with you or would you be disgusted and break up with her (and then engage in vindictive behaviour like slagging her off to all your friends and acquaintances)?

I am probably a lot more understanding of people making mistakes (especially when drunk) than most of the people on this thread, but I suspect that you are not so understanding when it comes to women and simply have double standards. The women on this thread don’t hate men, they hate toxic masculine behaviour, they hate the betrayal of trust that comes with cheating and they hate the exploitation of women that is sadly the cornerstone of the sex industry. The fact that you called the prostitute a ‘skank’ in your previous post speaks volumes about your attitude towards women.

You've had a narrow escape. The only part of the story you can really believe is that he slept with a sex worker.