To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

[ThatsABitExcessive]

Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

You are being unreasonable to scream at someone. Lovely bedside manner 😂

Does he always do what Sheila tells him to?
Who is she and why does she have such an influence over him?
And he really comes over as not very bright if he really thinks that's the correct way to apply eye drops.

I feel your pain @ThatsABitExcessive
Last year DH had a significant illness and would listen to any random person over me and its the speciality Ive worked longest in
It wasn't untill he deteriorated and I took over his full care that he had the stunning relevation that I actually knew what I was doing.

So he’d let an eye drop roll over his dirty face and into his eye? Weird.
why are you screaming at him though???

Do people really scream at each other?

Yes, I actually said to him “so you let your eye drop roll across your skin - carrying with it a load of bacteria - into your eye?! Why not just drop it directly into the eye?! Make it make sense!

That's ridiculous, if your skin has anything on it then it could go into your eye with the drop and cause an infection.

I typed too slowly, but exactly. What nonsense.

I’d remain interested in Sheila from work.

Ignore all the perfect zen people ... that is scream inducing behaviour, been there with ex taking randoms word for things over mine, where the subject is the exact job I had done for years.
No bloody logic!

Let him get on with it if thats what he wants

Screaming at him though do you always over react like that. That seems totally ott

Screaming at someone because they do something that doesn’t affect you differently to the way you do it is nasty, abusive behaviour.

I hate putting in eye drops, Sheila’s way sounds like it might be easier. I’ll give it a try next time.

Its not the correct way.
Its not even a logical way.

My exH was like this. Would listen to anyone except me, even if I'd said the exact same thing! Drove me nuts

Why are you screaming? I agree he’s wrong though

You both sound very childish and have a lack of respect for each other.

Are you sure it’s corner of the nose? Corner of the eye nearest the nose (tear duct) and the letting it roll is the easiest way to- the centre often blinks quite a lot of it out!

So yes Sheila probably was right!

YABU to scream at him regardless.

But Shiela’s way is actually exactly the way I was told by the GP to put my daughters eye drops in a few months ago. It doesn’t roll across miles of skin it is literally just into the corner of the eye and when you open your eye then it goes in. It’s better for kids or squeamish adults who struggle with putting a drop directly in eye.

I'm sure screaming was hyperbole. But yes, frustrating when people don't listen to you when you do actually know about something.

Drives me bonkers and I have to bite my tongue not to say "I told you so" when I'm right.

Obviously it’s wrong but it wasn’t something to scream about. I could understand if he was mentioned constantly but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case. Do you have other beef with Shiela?

I would find that annoying op. And I would definitely have snapped at him. Not screamed though.

The method of putting it in the corner closest to the nose is what hospital advise when you are given drops to use at home as it distributes the liquid across the eye best.
I think OP's husband has misunderstood the work colleague though as you don't put it on your nose and let it roll in - its the little corner of the eye you squeeze it into.
OP why are you so aggressive in being adamant you are right?

Agree with @CopperWhite about your ‘screaming’ at him.

Also quite codependent of you both: your bodies, your choices!

Screaming is totally normal if you’re that frustrated!

#teamSheila. I use eyedrops several times a day and dropping them right onto the eyeball is messy and wasteful.