To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

I was told NOT to put eye drops near the inner corner. They wouldn’t be so effective as some of the med likely to go down the tear duct and be swallowed instead of staying in contact with surface of the eye.

I expect the "screaming" was hyperbole on your part, OP.

I would have been terribly frustrated if my DH had decided to do it Sheila's way as that does sound all kinds of wrong.

As someone who has to use eye drops about ten times a day, 365 days a year due to Sjogren's, I know for certain that the best way is to drop into the outer corner of your eye, not the inner corner.

That is simply because liquids - tears, eye drops - drain from your eye via the tear ducts which are on the bottom lid in the inner corner of each eye. Drops placed in the outer corner spend longer in the eye, and have a better chance of irrigating the entire eye by being washed across the eyeball before draining out.

Starting from the nose is unhygienic nonsense.

cross-posted with pps

She not longer is a nurse because she got fed up with the stupidity of patients

I reckon screaming if probably underplaying it!

I see you’re into creative writing? Keep it up! You have a great imagination! 😁

I think there’s probably been a misunderstanding on the part of Sheila or your dh. I reckon the advice was to put the drops in the corner of the eyes, nearest the nose. Something has been lost in translation.

I also remember my Mum, who had drops for Glaucoma, being told to press that same corner, up against the nose, for a minute or so after administering the eye drops, to stop them migrating from the eye. Maybe that was part of Sheila’s advice and it all got confused?

I think I have nailed it!!

Perhaps journalism would be a good move for you? I dare say the Daily Mail would snap you up in a heartbeat! They love “creative” writers 😂

It sounds like you had the conversation twice. He's hardly banging on about it.
You shouldn't be screaming at anyone. I'd take people who get things wrong (but it doesn't sound as though he's completely wrong) over aggressive people any day. Glad that you're letting your nursing lapse as well, if it's because you can't put up with 'stupid' any more. I'm going though chemo at the moment and have asked a million 'stupid' questions and done some things wrong because as you might understand, it's a stressful time. I've met nurses who rolled their eyes and obviously had disdain for me asking very simple questions and it makes the whole thing worse.

Spot on. op sounds like she has a short fuse generally in life and if the screaming was actually that, is borderline abusive to a husband doing something either not quite right, or just different to her (tbc)

if op was a man screaming at his wife over eye drops I know what the unanimous advice would be…

You’re going to start screaming at me soon aren’t you?

playing it cas on this thread, but I bet you’re having a right tizzy at home.

Go Sheila Go!!

I look forward to thread 2

i miss the laughing emoji - I could never scream at you, you’re too funny.

Let him do it his way and you do it your way problem solved.

treat your own husband with the same respect and don’t scream at him!!

No. She’s not. At all.

Nothing normal about screaming unless you're being attacked by an axe wielding murderer

This thread is mad. ‘Screaming’ is obviously hyperbole borne of frustration - depending on how many times this has been brought up. And so many people agreeing with Sheila without understanding that what she advised is based on misinterpretation. Reading and comprehension skills on MN are getting worse if some of the replies here are anything to go by.

No, I just think parents who won't get their kids vaccinated or who take them to the doctor/A&E and then complain about the treatment suggested not being natural/holistic/homeopathic/witchcraft or women who want to do free birthing are bloody idiots and need to be shouted at. In fact, I'll volunteer so the nurses/doctors/paramedics/midwives don't get into trouble. I'd require some tea and biscuits and I'll be well away. Might have a bone to pick about this, considering me and DS would be dead if I hadn't been sensible this time last year and listened to the obstetrician and insisted on a natural birth, and then he was poorly and I didn't care what they gave him as long as he got better.

Scream?! Really?

There is something wrong with men. I’m a nurse too and advised ex- DH about how to treat a rash on his skin. No he carried on scraping it off with a Stanley knife blade as someone at work, in insurance, told him too. Dickhead. He turned out to be a cheating bastard so hopefully he ended up with some sort of necrotising fasciitis.

No. Not really. Hyperbole. To make a point. But as usual MN leap on the insignificant to avoid the real issues.

There's some real loons on this thread. Obviously, you're right, Sheila's an idiot, and I have no idea what is going on with your husband.

Surely the box of eye drops has a leaflet inside that will include "how to use" instructions. Tell the idiot to read that.

I think Sheila is nuts