To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

You shouldn't be yelling at each other. Also - this wasn't clear from the OP - you should each have your own bottle of eye drops as there is a risk of cross-contamination.

This is hilarious 😂 telling him to fuck off and being glad when he gets an infection 🤣 nice to meet a fellow nurse 😁

OP leave him to it. And when he gets an infection from the drops picking up bacteria from his skin and depositing it in his eye, tell him to ask Shiela what to do about it. I get that he’s dismissing your professional experience in favour of her advice and that would irk the hell out of me, but you won’t change anything so why stress yourself out ? He needs to learn the hard way so let him get on with it. Oh and ignore the inevitable insinuations about an affair - she sounds more like the workplace busybody/know all rather than shaggable Shiela !!

People are getting this all wrong.

Firstly - Sheila told him to put them ON HIS NOSE - not the corner of the eye … the actual nose!!!

Secondly - I couldn’t give a shit what he does with his eye drops … it’s his insistence on ME listening to Sheila’s advice that winds me up. Telling me I’m doing it wrong and Sheila has sent her expertise to help me out 🤦‍♀️

Thirdly - I’ve met Sheila - she’s no threat unless DH suddenly gets the urge to date someone as old as his own mother

So you’re only agreeing with those who agree with you OP when theoretically Sheila is right, even if OH needs a bit of guidance in doing it correctly.
You sound like a right shouty know it all, I feel sorry for your OH!

“don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I'd have told him not to be such a patronising (foolish) twat!

unless DH suddenly gets the urge to date someone as old as his own mother

So does he think she's right because she's older?

Perhaps he should just read the instructions?

My DH has to have eye drops, as does my daughter, and they were told by their eye doctor to do it the way "Sheila" has suggested - eyes closed, into the corner of the eye, and then blink.
Just as a side note on eye drops though, be very very cautious which ones you buy. Some of them can make your eyes a lot worse due to the preservatives and ingredients in them so you've got to be careful as it can make your eyes work. If you can, find an eye doctor or optician who'll be able to prescribe something better than you can get off the shelf.

Maybe Sheila doesn't scream at him

Would you have screamed if it had been Barry at work said do it this way?

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

If you don't give a shit about how he does his eye drops then why did you sound so angry when mentioning that you had to watch him do his drops?

I would be intensely irritated, but not sure I’d be screaming. I would probably just say ‘you do it your way and I’ll do it mine.’ The end. I have interocular hypertension so I know a thing or two about eye drops, and good hygiene is really crucial. He will end up with an infection if he isn’t careful. I wonder if this Sheila was trying to describe the method I use of holding the dropper over the bridge of the nose for steadiness. The drops still go straight into the eye though.

Whilst the advice may, or may not, have been OK advice, I'd have been annoyed at him telling me 'not to forget' how to do it in the way he'd instructed you to when you'd quite obviously let him know the last time he said it that you'd continue doing it the way you wanted to do it.
Mind you, I'm very mardy, and I do not take instruction well! Even if it's correct instruction, something in my head just says no I'll do it my own way thank you.

You both sound pathetic

Was it really a scream (which is a wordless high pitched noise made in alarm or fear), or a shout?

Sheila is correct though.

I would have to do it Sheila's way as I can't put drops directly into my eyes.
However him saying you are wrong and her way is the only way would also give me the rage and I would stick the bottle of eye drops up his nose

It’s not acceptable.
It’s incorrect.

Okay … 😳 surely I can’t be the only one who was very confused initially by this … I was trying to work out how an eye drop, dropped in the nostril, tip head back, can possibly make it’s way into the eye effectively 😳😳

After reading half a page of comments I realised you mean putting the eye drop at the nose corner of your eye! 😂😂😳😳😂😂

Fwiw (now that I understand), either way is correct. Another way is to close your eye, put the drop on your lid/lashes, open your eye - voila, eyedrop goes easily in the eye! This was advised by GP when my child was young.

Yes I also thought this and only by reading the comments realised she meant corner of eye 😂

Did it work though?

Sooo pleased it’s not just me! I literally visualised dh hanging upside down on the sofa trying to get the drop to slide far enough up! 😂😂

Are you sure Sheila didn’t mean corner of the eye, by the bridge of the nose?

Meanwhile, in Sheila’s house:

”You’ll never believe this, but I convinced Bob at work that the correct way to apply eye drops is to put them on the corner of your nose and let them roll into your eye. Turns out a year later he’s still doing it!!! 😆Twenty quid says I can convince him the earth is flat by next Friday…”

😆😆😆