To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

I am an adult, I can drop the drops directly into my bloody eye. (I can feel the rage building just thinking about your DP OP!)

I think that way's for people who are squeamish/rubbish at it/don't really want a decent dose in their eye maybe because the drops sting. But it's not the 'proper' way, and yes, it's going to introduce bacteria!

Don’t these drops come with instructions?

’screaming’ at a partner or anyone else isn’t ‘totally normal’.

This! If he's dropping it in at the corner of his eye at the top of his nose then he's absolutely right.

When I used eye drops this site explains various techniques for putting them in glaucoma.uk/about-glaucoma/treatments-surgery/eye-drops/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22183410476&gbraid=0AAAAA9nu0fyt4n3HPvZl6VZ9G5jPTRPRM&gclid=Cj0KCQjwm93DBhD_ARIsADR_DjHzN_WSvIzDanlBg-zSVAMde0d0cSI1kDmB41P5rGAoKLWT2nZCHlAaAvLREALw_wcB

Ex qualified nurse

what do you do now Op? (Aside from scream shout and behave like a loon)

@Dozeroh, give over.

The real thread is so obviously about….. Sheila!!

Yanbu.
Living with stupid is so tedious.

Have a kit kat, count to ten and calm down..

@merrymelody eh? Are you saying screaming at one’s partner over how they do something for their body is normal and fine?

It’s not.

Sheila isnt completely wrong. Your screaming, however, is.
www.aao.org/eye-health/treatments/how-to-put-in-eye-drops

bit of an over-reaction to scream. You must be an annoying person to be around.
What would you do if something really terrifying happened?

I cannot "just drop" eyedrops "directly into my eye" I find it very difficult to do on my own.

Your DH methods is common and fine.

Your "screaming" at him about it is what's batshit here. If you actually screamed you are very unreasonable.

Has he asked Sheila WHY she thinks her method is better? She might have a reason - like not liking the shock of it going straight into her eye or not being good at aiming - but that wouldn't be valid for others. It's daft that he's copying her without questioning it. Sounds like he's enjoying winding OP up.

I drop it into the nose side of my eye, then turn my head outwards so that the fluid coats the whole eye.

Maybe they’re work friends. I have male work friends but luckily my DH isn’t a very jealous person

Sheila's way is sort of how the opticians did it with my 5 year old. Head tipped, back, eye closed, drop onto the inside corner of the eye and open the eye and blink. Way simpler than trying to open the eye and drop in.

I agree

I have to use eyedrops several times a day every day for MGD. The way described by Shiela is exactly how my eye consultant showed me how to put drops into the eye. I guess a specialist eye consultant knows more than an ex-nurse and randon NM posters, so I will continue to follow his advice.

That said screaming at somebody for doing something that is causing you no harm is abusive. Leave him to do it correctly Shiela's way.

Not sure about screaming but understand your frustration!

If you pull the lower lid out at the nose side it creates a little well area and you can drop the drops in there without needing to tilt your head - that comes from working in an opticians.

I don't think its the eye drops, I think it's Sheila

He knows but he likes the attention and he enjoys knowing he can control your emotional outbursts.

She isn’t. You just drop the bloody things in and blink to distribute it across the eye. I use eyedrops 14 times a day for a medical condition.

Sheila is an idiot, and so is OPs husband.

If I was given the same incorrect, stupid advice over and over again I reckon it would stop if I screamed too.

Well he likes listening to Sheila, you like screaming like a stroppy child. Neither of you sound too smart in this particular situation.

He’s a dick.

But screaming seems a bit intense unless this is the tip of iceberg and you’d be better off leaving?