To have screamed at DH about the eyedrops?

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Last year DH and I got sore itchy hayfever eyes. I bought some drops. A few days later DH came home and announced that we had been doing the eye drops wrong - Shiela from work had told him that rather than dropping it directly into the eye - you should drop it onto the corner of your nose and let the liquid roll into your eye. I said I disagreed with Shiela and would continue doing it properly my way.

He spent all summer doing it Sheila’s way.

Now yesterday I bought some more drops as we’re struggling again. DH said to me “don’t forget, it’s corner of the nose and let it run in”

I screamed and said that’s stupid! Just drop it into the bloody eye like a normal person!! He continues to say I’m doing it wrong and last night I had to sit and watch him dropping these bloody drops onto his face with his eyes closed!!??

The most annoying bit about it - Sheila has no medical experience. I’m an ex-qualified nurse - yet DH takes Sheila’s word as gospel!

DH is an idiot. The eye is so prone to infection, carrying bacteria accross oily dirty skin and into the eye is so illogical it is almost funny.

But you lose any sort of moral high ground when you scream.

Also I’m assuming both your eyes felt better again so just leave him to do it Sheila’s way. “yes dear” pat on head.

Maybe she doesn't scream at him for doing nothing wrong? Sounds preferable.

No. It really isn’t.

Some men just cannot accept that their wives know stuff.

I also use multiple times a day and my consultant disgrees with you.

You are unreasonable to have screamed at him, it hardly rates that. He is an adult, let him do it however he wants - and if it doesn't work, then that's his problem.

I think your beef is the fact that DH does what Sheila says…..ask him if he would put his head in the gas oven if Sheila told him it was good for his skin.

He is being rather stupor in letting the eye drops come into contact with other areas rather than directly administering them into his eyes……but that’s on him.

Do your eye drops your way and let him praise and adore Saint Sheila if he so wishes………probably through a nasty eye infection eventually.

I would go full petty mode on this. If he asks something say " ask Sheila" and repeat.

" do you know where my shoe is?" " ask Sheila"
" What's for dinner?" " ask Sheila"

I would too.

Why can't he do it his way. And you do it your way

Don't see the need for shouting about it. All the Sheila mentions I would also ignore as he'll stop when he realises you've gone grey rock about her.

Screaming is pathetic so you are being unreasonable. Your husband is a dick though.

Does Sheila usually make really good choices on life, so good that other people take not of what she says and does on most things?

Why not just each do it your own preferred way, if you can't agree? But also if you both keep getting eye infections, perhaps get medical help? Then your husband can also hear an objective technical explanation of what to do.

You mean your consultant disagrees with my consultant. I had to grow back part of my eye. I’m going to stick with the advice given 👍

Do what the instructions tell you. You have a nursing background, you know that?

I do like that level of petty

So if he screamed at you would that be ok or abuse?

Why is it so important that he does it your way? How does it affect you?

How is he a dick?! For not doing what he’s told by his wife?! He can put his eye drops in any way he likes!

Yes, the correct procedure for the instillation of eye drops is the least of your worries.

All I can say is that my late mother had to have drops for glaucoma and I often saw them administered into the corner of the eye in a most professional manner.

I think people might be missing that OP might not have screamed at her DH if he didn't keep fucking wanging on about fucking Sheila and her fucking perfect knowledge of how to put fucking eye drops in. Still. Not ideal.

(I'm totalling trying Sheila's technique though. First drop usually goes on my forehead, the second goes on my cheek, and the third goes on my eyelid because by then, I need to blink 😂)

And I would stop buying him the eyedrops, just buy done for yourself and let him sort out his own sore eyes.

If you’re genuinely screaming, stop.