AIBU to think it's a bit cheeky to want our house (when we're not even in it)?

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So, DH, the kids and I will be away soon, and some good friends of ours — who we've happily hosted when we're home — are visiting our city at the same time.
Instead of getting an AirBnb like normal humans, they've casually hinted that they could just "stay at ours" while we're away. You know, to "save a bit." 😬
DH is fine with it. Thinks it's no big deal. I, on the other hand, am firmly in the "strangers in my pants drawer" camp. Not that they'd snoop, but still — it just feels off. I’d never even think of asking to stay in a friend's home without them there. Have I turned into a Victorian maiden aunt, or is this just a bit CF?
So, AIBU to find the whole idea a bit... much?
TL;DR: Friends want to stay in our house while we’re away. DH thinks it’s fine. I think it’s weird. Enlighten me.

Hell would freeze over.

Tell them you’ve already arranged house sitters. I wouldn’t be keen on this either.

Not at all cheeky from them. Why wouldn't you offer? I have friends staying in my house all the time if I'm not there - that's what you do for friends. The favour is usually reciprocated.

Absolutely no way. Its unreasonable of them to even ask.

Nope I wouldn't do it. Tight beggars and pay for somewhere else to stay

Yanbu and I find it cheeky that they’d suggest that without you offering the idea up first.

This reminds me of our CF friends who moved to the other end of the country and then came back to visit friends for the week. They then proceeded to treat the house like a hotel and invited their other friends over (who didn't even know the host family).

No way, how rude of them to hint, but my DH would probably say the same 😂

Fuck no.
"That doesn't work for us."
Happy holidays.

We’ve had friends stay in ours once or twice. Only when we have offered. None of our friends would dream of asking. There’s only a select few I’d extend the offer to. The key is that I would extend the offer.

Cheeky! We’d only do this for close family.

It can lead to so many problems. I stayed in my brother’s house years ago when he was away (had small children and no money, seemed like a good idea at the time). My daughter broke a sculpture, he demanded we pay for it and we didn’t speak for ages! (We’d also fed his designer cats, cleaned the place from top to bottom and filled his fridge for when he got back). Not worth the potential fallout

Our friends offered their house as we live abroad. It was fine we didn't snoop ans didn't use half the rooms. It was a very generous offer...although they offered i didn't ask! Some people are OK with it some aren't. Can you lock up a room and store anything you dont want found?

They would definitely snoop.

Oh no I couldn't do that. Absolutely not.

Tinkly laugh and a firm rebuffal.

I'm much too private to have people in my house when I'm not there.

I don’t see a problem. They’ve casually hinted (OP’s words) not demanded. If they’re good friends I would be okay with this. If they weren’t that close I would ignore the hint and forget about it.

Could it invalidate your house insurance if you have people staying when you are not there and an emergency occurs? No idea if that’s a thing but maybe check.

Otherwise no ‘that doesn’t work for us,’ or tell them you have housesitters already lined up.

I think it's fine. We've had people stay in house while we were away before. Usually my sisters, but also (not particularly close) friends. In the case of the friends, it was a longer stay which would have been quite expensive for them. One of my sisters stayed for a weekend with a whole group of girlfriends once as they found it to be pretty ideal location for them all to meet up from different parts of the country in an affordable way when they were struggling to find somewhere. We have a nice garden and pool in a nice location and I'm happy for it to be made use of.

We've not done it ourselves. But once years ago when our house was flooded we moved into a friends house for a few days as they were away. Some mutual friends had the key.

I guess we're fairly relaxed about that sort of thing.

Not weird, but up to you.

You don't even need to say no, just don't pick up on the "casual hints" and tell your husband to keep his mouth shut as well!

If you do give in to this cheeky fuckery, check your insurance. I think you'll find you're not covered.

If they were relatives, then yes. But I wouldn't want folk in my house in case they judged me. eg. look at the dust up there. LoL

Absolutely not. They are incredibly cheeky to “hint” / ask to stay at yours without you offering.

The reason your DH isn’t bothered is that no one judges men on all the things women are judged on, and that you will feel expected to have sorted if people are going to use your house as a free Airbnb.

I definitely wouldn’t want this!

Very rude to hint at anything! And particularly cheeky to hint about staying in your home. It may save them a bit but what about your water, electric and insurance bills?

And although not everyone feels the same way about this, I personally think it’s rather an intrusion. Depends on the level of friendship. Fine if you had invited them. But really not otherwise.

I think this may not have been a coincidence op and that they have planned their trip on purpose around your holiday. In your shoes, I would pretend to be terribly dozy and not pick up on the hints at all. But should they ask outright; I’d just say that you have work men in.

Exactly!

I’d also be fine with close family but no wider than that. Maybe my oldest friend or something.