AIBU to think it's a bit cheeky to want our house (when we're not even in it)?

[Firstchoice333]

So, DH, the kids and I will be away soon, and some good friends of ours — who we've happily hosted when we're home — are visiting our city at the same time.
Instead of getting an AirBnb like normal humans, they've casually hinted that they could just "stay at ours" while we're away. You know, to "save a bit." 😬
DH is fine with it. Thinks it's no big deal. I, on the other hand, am firmly in the "strangers in my pants drawer" camp. Not that they'd snoop, but still — it just feels off. I’d never even think of asking to stay in a friend's home without them there. Have I turned into a Victorian maiden aunt, or is this just a bit CF?
So, AIBU to find the whole idea a bit... much?
TL;DR: Friends want to stay in our house while we’re away. DH thinks it’s fine. I think it’s weird. Enlighten me.

Wouldn't even be up for debate. Hard no from me. Not even for family.

Absolutely not!

Not in a million years would I agree to that for anyone.

Absolutely no way, OP. I guarantee that if you let them, one way or another it will lead to trouble - things broken/ used up/ problems with keys - if you wanted to run an Airbnb, you would!

We were offered the use of a house while its owner was on holiday a couple of years ago when we had to travel for a funeral. So kind and so much appreciated. I wouldn’t hesitate if it was someone I knew well and trusted.

No! Apart from anything, don’t want the hassle of getting the house ‘house ready’ for visitors.

I have family members who would assume this. Eg. Son moves into new house and relative instantly assumed they’d be able to stay there if visiting that touristy city.

I really don't understand why you wouldn't. You say they are good friends, so what's the issue?

My friends who love abroad come back regularly to London and stay at our house, even when we're not here. They even have a key.

I have no weird fetish stuff they could find (not that they would go snooping) and my house is clean and tidy so no shame there.

I don't understand MN some times. Don't answer your door, have rules about family visiting, don't want to help neighbours. It's really sad!

It’s a bit different if the owners offer you the use of their house, rather than assuming they can stay there.

Nope, other than a very select few, but nobody I felt weird about that's for sure.

Tell them you're taking the opportunity to replace the lead piping for the water supply and have some rewiring done so there will be no water or electricity.

Shame.

my friends definitely wouldn't judge me for dust in my house 😂(I wouldn't be mates with them if they did)

I’d have no problem at all with this. We’ve stayed at friends houses before, and friends / family have stayed at ours when not home.

For good friends, sure, no problem at all.

What is wrong with our culture, where you can describe someone as good friends but dont let them crash at your house?!

My parents often stay when we’re away, but are very useful if pets need feeding will sort them, keep the place clean and tidy and my Dad has been known to do a bit of gardening!
DH likes them staying as he feels is a bit of security for our home. But, I don’t think we’d let anyone else do it and that includes his family, which he’s in agreement with!

No from me, people potentially going through my stuff, joking about all the junk, if it was my mum and dad it would be OK or my PILs but that would be it.

It's fine for you to be uncomfortable with it and say no on that basis but I don't think it's an outright cheeky ask from good friends. More casual acquaintances, definitely no, but for family and good friends I would trust mine to take care of my home and follow any instructions I'd left and they would reciprocate.

I haven't voted because I don't think it's clearcut either way.

I wouldn't like that at all and the fact that they have asked would make it an instant no.

If you mean "but don't let them crash at your house" I think it's one thing for them to stay over for a night or maybe two when you're there but it's a bit odd for someone to take over you're house when you're not there and it is a cheeky ask.

What happened to waiting for an invitation?

Bet your husband wouldn't be the one working themselves into a tizz cleaning before you left to make sure the place was ready for their arrival, and putting things straight when you get back home.

I’ve stayed at friends houses and they’ve stayed at mine when we’ve been elsewhere - I don’t think it’s particularly cheeky but if you’re not comfortable with it that’s ok too.

It’s fine imo - as long as they pay for the privilege! I’ve got an acquaintance staying at mine over summer while I’m away, she’s paying me and I get my plants watered for the month. Win win. I would let someone stay for free for a shorter period though like a week

It's personal choice. I wouldn't, but my cousin's family was happy for other relatives (4 people) to stay there for a week while they were overseas at Christmas.

They are CFers.
They arranged a trip, assumed they'd be staying with you and now you're not there, assume you'll be fine with them using your house as accommodation anyway.
When they've stayed previously have they asked or assumed it was OK?
Time to put a stop to them taking advantage.

I would be fine with it, my friends would have no interest in my pants drawer, they would have to sleep in the spare room, not our bed!
DH might agree to certain people but may just be a straight no!

I wouldn't mind at all