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Encounter in the woods with a man...was I being silly?

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Woodwalk · 10/07/2025 12:26

I walk in a local woods daily. Today I parked in the small car park where there were around 4 cars already. Changed into my boots, tied up my hair, no one else arrived in this time. Then I set off down a trail which begins running alongside the main road to the right, to the left is an inaccessible woodland - too dense to walk through. You can only enter the trail from the car park (at that end).

I had only been walking for around a minute or two when I got the sensation I was being watched/followed. This is strange as I would only have expected to meet someone head on on the path - given that there's one entrance and I saw no one else arrive at the car park within a minute of myself.

Anyway I turned round a few times and finally spotted a man behind me, slightly off the trail nearer to the side where the road is (trees are between the main road and me). I immediately did feel uncomfortable as I wasn't sure where he had come from, and debated stopping so that he could move ahead of me. I decided against this as didn't want to make a big thing of it.

Instead I kept going and took a turn off into a large shaded area, a clearing where I could see the original trail and find a little tree trunk to sit on (and look normal!) as he passed.

Instead of passing the man followed me into the clearing. I had walked quite far into the clearing to find a tree that gave a lot of space around me. He made a beeline for me straight towards me. I felt scared, and then he met my eyes and asked how my day was going. I immediately went into flight mode jumped up blurted out something about not wanting to be followed on my walk and started to run back to the car park (around 6 mins running). He shouted after me to come back, he didn't mean to scare me, he hadn't been following me, he was lost, he was sorry, come back please.

I just ran all the way back to the car and left.

I'm a woman in early 30s the gent was late fifties I think, and very overweight, if he tried to follow me back I couldn't tell, but don't think he could have matched my pace. He didn't have a dog, but then, neither do I.

Now I'm wondering, was he innocently lost and wanted a chat? Was I being silly to run away? It doesn't really matter now as I'm obviously safe and fine but the woods is my favourite place to go and I feel really put off returning now. Need a reality check as feel a bit silly now but in the moment I was scared.

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TherapyFrog · 10/07/2025 12:28

Follow your intuition
Why would he be following from a distance if he needed help and was lost
why wander into the woods at all if he doesn’t know them
It does sound like a frightening interaction, glad you managed to get out safely

WilfredsPies · 10/07/2025 12:30

Either he was up to no good or he’s a fucking idiot who has zero understanding of women’s safety.

I think you did exactly the right thing.

55lookalive · 10/07/2025 12:32

Nah fuck that, I'd have run too. He could have called out before to say he was lost.

murasaki · 10/07/2025 12:32

Not silly at all, very sensible. He wouldn't have called you to come back once he'd seen you run off if he was a decent bloke.

UpLateDoomScrolling · 10/07/2025 12:34

It doesn't sound silly at all. I would have started to run at the point you turned off into the clearing.

Might be worth reporting. I think you can report crimes/incidents online now and you can just note it as suspected stalking/following. Just raises a flag for the police that there might be a dodgy guy in that area planning to attack or harass other women.

ClaudiaDark · 10/07/2025 12:34

I would have run too! The fact he was asking you to come back is not normal.

WilfredsPies · 10/07/2025 12:35

Just to add to my last post, I think I’d go as far as reporting it to the non emergency police number, just in case.

TheTwoOfUs · 10/07/2025 12:35

Well, I don't think there was any need to panic, but there's nothing at all 'silly' about acting to protect yourself when you feel threatened on being approached by a stranger in an isolated spot.

bombastix · 10/07/2025 12:35

Bloody hell no it’s one for the police. Really worrying conduct

Canijustsayonething · 10/07/2025 12:36

WilfredsPies · 10/07/2025 12:30

Either he was up to no good or he’s a fucking idiot who has zero understanding of women’s safety.

I think you did exactly the right thing.

100% this

Always a fucking man isn't it...

Dominoeffecter · 10/07/2025 12:36

You did the right thing such a shame you had to though.

ClaudiaDark · 10/07/2025 12:36

And if he was genuinely lost then he should have said "excuse me, I'm lost, do you know how I can get to X?". But he didn't. He followed you and then tried to engage you in general conversation. Dodgy as hell.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 10/07/2025 12:37

You were not being silly.

you felt unsafe in a situation and you got yourself out of it before you came to any harm.

hope you are ok OP

TokyoSushi · 10/07/2025 12:38

I would have been scared too, you did exactly the right thing.

Agree it's worth reporting to non-emergency police, just in case he is up to no good.

EternalLodga · 10/07/2025 12:38

Sorry you had to deal with this. Always trust your instinct x

WhatTheHelll · 10/07/2025 12:38

Change up your walks as you never know who is watching your daily routine.

UpLateDoomScrolling · 10/07/2025 12:38

Also, OP, it concerns me that you say this is your daily walk. Do you always go at the same time? This guy could have noticed this pattern and been waiting there deliberately. It's really crap, but I would avoid that area for now if were you.

GoldDuster · 10/07/2025 12:39

Don't doubt yourself. If he was genuinely lost, he'd have called out from a distance when he first saw you something like, is the carpark that way? Thanks

Not followed at a distance and then followed you into a clearing wanting a chat. At the very least he had absolutely zero awareness of himself and his behaviour and it's affect on others, and that's being kind.

Fuck that, and I'm no stranger to a chat with a random in Aldi, but this is a nope. He was behaving like a predatory weirdo in the woods, because he likely was one.

Bettycha · 10/07/2025 12:39

No you weren't being unreasonable, I was scared just reading your post let alone being in that situation!

Definitely change your routine.

HelloMyNameIsElderSmurf · 10/07/2025 12:40

WilfredsPies · 10/07/2025 12:30

Either he was up to no good or he’s a fucking idiot who has zero understanding of women’s safety.

I think you did exactly the right thing.

100% and your response was totally fine for either situation. If it was the second case, you don’t owe clueless men anything.

Jacobs4 · 10/07/2025 12:40

Definitely report this. He’s either stupid or weird. Report!

FadedRed · 10/07/2025 12:40

I’m with the report it people too, Op, and also wise advice to vary your walking routes.
Maybe invest in a body-cam.

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 10/07/2025 12:41

I would now carry a little alarm with you, just something hanging around your waist or around your wrist.

ExquisiteSocialSkills · 10/07/2025 12:41

Dominoeffecter · 10/07/2025 12:36

You did the right thing such a shame you had to though.

This.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 10/07/2025 12:42

Agree with others - his behaviour was weird. Please report to non-emergency number. If he was innocent (just inconsiderate), nothing will happen. If this is part of a pattern, hopefully it will be investigated.

As women, we should flag up behaviour that makes us uncomfortable rather than accepting it as how things are.