To ask DH to no go away for weekend

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Hello,

I'll keep it brief.

DH is going away to an event in a few weeks for a night away I've no interest in the event (airshow 🙄🥱🥱) he went last year and had another weekend away doing something else in the winter of 2024

We've one DS who he's arranged childcare for with ho parents and worked overtime to pay for all travel/ hotel and tickets. I just feel like I don't really get a chance to go away for my hobbies, he's always said I can go away and we can afford it but it feels weird me up and going away for the weekend.

To ask him not to go? How would I explain it?

Bonkers. If you don’t want to go away, that’s fine, but you can’t stop him.

If it’s a reverse, he’s clearly being a controlling twat.

Eh?? You don’t even need to look after your child because he has sorted childcare. Why not use the time to focus on yourself/your hobbies and do your own thing?
You’re so unreasonable that I don’t know where to start.

Completely unreasonable behaviour on your part. Why can’t you look after your own child ?

He's done everything right here down to arranging childcare but you want him not to go because you feel weird about going away yourself?

You're being uber controlling. Definitely unreasonable.

No martyr points for you.

What's the real reason you don't want him to go? It can't be because you don't want to ....

Incredibly unreasonable.

What way does your childcare situation normally work that he needed to arrange childcare for when he's away?

His last weekend away was a year ago and you're begrudging him another? I'm not sure I understand the big deal here unless there's a backstory that you're not shared.

Why do you feel weird going away for something for yourself? If you do that's okay, I personally don't really like the idea of being away from ds while he's so little.. but that's my choice and I wouldn't use that choice to dictate what someone else does.

So because you choose not he is not allowed too? Imagine him banning you mn would go into meltdown

How controlling!

Well you do have a chance to go as he’s going to be away and childcare has been arranged so go do something for you. Absolutely do not and cannot ask him
not to go.

Why has he had to organise childcare? Can you not look after your own DC for one night?

How would you explain it? I don’t know because you haven’t explained it to us, why don’t you want him to go?

It is already booked, he has saved money and arranged childcare. Any discussion would have had to be before now. And really unreasonable to not allow weekend away if it is affordable.

Only a few weeks away, unreasonable to say so now. If it was ever unreasonable to begin with.

You are being weird and really unreasonable

If it's Farnborough that'll be a big, fat no 😆

Completely unreasonable.

He's paid for it out of overtime, sorted childcare (do you work at weekends? Why would he need to do that?). If you don't get to go away with your hobbies despite him encouraging you, that's a you problem not a him problem.

Why don't you REALLY want him to go away?

Or RIAT @Isittimeformynapyet probably even less to look at 😂 day trip to Swindon?

This is mad op, why can't you look after your child or go away the same weekend if you're child free. Why do you think he shouldn't go away for 2 weekends a year?

I go away with friends at least once a year (and dont sort childcare, I assume my DH will parent them). I encourage my DH to do the same, he usually does. If he chose not to, for some reason, then asked me to stay home rather than go away I'd be absolutely fuming. And also worried about him trying to control what I'm doing. So YABU and need to think about why you feel this way and what's stopping you having your own time away

YABVU one night away should not be an issue, he’s ensured everything has been taken care of, you need to let him enjoy what makes him happy. Sorry OP but you’re too controlling, just because you don’t want to go away alone doesn’t mean he shouldn’t.

So he’s away. You have no child as he’s organised childcare. So you can basically do whatever you want. Hobbies. Go away as well. You’re being so massively unreasonable I don’t know how you’re asking.
Nothing is stopping you going away. I also don’t understand why you can’t look after one child alone for a weekend

Why work over time and arrange child care for a weekend away on his own when you could actually go away somewhere together? (Not to an air show) weird.

Because it's good to retain your own hobbies and interests when you're in a relationship.

Because she doesn't want to go to an airshow - who knows, he might be delighted if she went with him?

DH has done everything right here. To stop him would be controlling. You need to give your head a wobble.

What has he arranged childcare for
of you are at home? Do you not feel capable of looking after your child?

Is this a wind up! Bloody hell, poor sod.