To want to kill myself over bedtime

[Whathaveidoneeeeee]

No seriously. I have 1 child, 2.5 years old. I am most definitely one and done. If it wasn't for bedtime I could have at least 1-2 more, but it's absolutely KILLING me. Currently 1 hour into incessant screaming and crying - it's the same shit every night. Then he wants another toy, then he wants me to correct his blanket, then he wants another hug, the list goes on. I've stopped (with kind and reassuring words) responding to all his requests, so he knows he can't demand as he pleases and nothing is getting better

I used to stay with him for bedtime, but was stuck for more than an hour every night. Have taught him to fall asleep on his own now but it's AT LEAST 1 hour of constant issues and it just feeds into the night so heavily it makes me so resentful

Excuse my language but HOW THE FUCK are y'all managing?! I'm losing my damn mind!!

Yup the nights are the worst. It's absolutely awful when they don't sleep. Really soul destroying

I used to have this. I cuddle mine in my bed now so at least he’s comfortable and then blow dry him to sleep with my hairdryer.

Yes agree

Gently, if she's genuinely anxious then you sitting with her every night will just feed that and make it worse. Better to look at some form of gradual withdrawal. With one of mine Id be audibly active upstairs (folding clothes or whatever) with landing light on and his door open, and I'd pop in every few minutes so he could see me. Then over time Id space out the popping ins until he wasn't so anxious about falling asleep alone. I mean, it still took months but I didn't mind so much because I could see light on the horizon.

I just gave up and started going up to bed at 8pm with DD, once she's asleep I creep downstairs like a ninja for a cup of tea and usually to take the washing out of the machine! DD also likes to incessantly chat whilst trying to get her to go to sleep..and most recently she insists on me putting two arms around her because it makes her feel safe.. no advice, but solidarity.

My five year old DD has autism and didn’t sleep for four years , I would be into her room minimum eight times a night sometimes she’d get up at 2 in the morning and would play until she fell asleep at 6 am . When she was 18 months I’d sit with my back to the door of her bedroom while she kicked the door and screamed for an hour hitting herself in the face . I’d have to wrap my arms around her and hold her tight so she wouldn’t hurt herself . I’ve never cried so much . Doctor refused to give me melatonin . She only became verbal at 4. The behaviour and sleep drastically improved and she sleeps for 12 hours straight now with only one or two wakings but can settle herself mostly. I have an anxiety disorder and the lack of sleep and worry nearly gave me a breakdown . I survived on about 3 broken hours sleep for four yesrs and I have insomnia now . No magic advice just solidarity❤️